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How to Awaken Primal, Exciting, Sexual Feelings in Your Quarry
Let's now talk about the third technique for your main organ of romantic love. This technique creates in your Quarry those primordial, exciting feelings that overwhelm people when they begin to fall in love.
When speaking, people have a habit of looking away at the end of a sentence or during pauses, except when they are carried away by the interlocutor (or hopelessly in love). Expression “he couldn’t take his eyes off her” not just a metaphor. People who love each other not only indulge in much longer eye contact during a conversation, but they don't look away from each other even after they finish talking. It is very exciting when someone's eyes linger on you during silence after you have finished speaking.
A few years ago, I hired a carpenter to add an extra window to my office. Jerry was not a handsome man, he was definitely not an intellectual giant, but for some inexplicable reason I found him extremely attractive. Jerry had a vague, mysterious quality about him. It was something exciting, primal, sexy.
I did not allow myself, however, to indulge my little infatuation. Perhaps I thought that seducing a carpenter would be neither socially acceptable nor politically correct, nor, on the other hand, desirable under these conditions. Or maybe Jerry's other qualities didn't fit my love map. Nevertheless, thoughts of Jerry filled my fantasies for several more weeks.
I haven't seen him for several years. Then, more recently, while working on this book, I needed shelves to store research materials. Naturally, I called Jerry. He came to my door, ten pounds heavier, three years older, but still sexy. This time, after five minutes of our conversation, I understood why he was so attracted to me. Every time I said something, Jerry's eyes lingered on me. After I stopped talking, even during silence, his eyes remained glued to me. This feature was what I found so exciting, so exciting, so sexy.
As our conversation about shelves continued, I also realized why Jerry established continuous eye contact. He didn't try to be sexy at all. He was not fascinated by me. It wasn't because he couldn't take his eyes off me. This was simply because he wasn't very bright, and it took extra time for my phrases like "I need eleven inch wide shelves" to settle in his head.
Now we're going to turn this into a primal, exciting, sexual experience that will rock your new Potential Love Partner.
Reception number 5:
"Sticky" look
Whenever you speak to your Quarry, let your eyes remain as if glued to her or to him for a little longer than usual - even during silence.
A gaze, held for a while, awakens primitive, slightly exciting feelings and sensations. It triggers the release of the same chemicals that flow through our veins when we feel in love.
If you must look away, do so reluctantly. Avert your eyes slowly as if they were stuck in your Quarry like toffee on your teeth.
A cheeky candid lookWe now come to the last way in which our eyes can cause the aforementioned chemicals to flow through the veins of our Quarry. There are carefully crafted actions that a man and a woman must take when meeting each other so that the love between them can grow and develop.
One of these necessary actions requires the participation of our eyes. A curious phenomenon occurs with the eyes when a man and a woman begin to feel comfortable and calm with each other and the music of love begins to echo in their bodies. When lovers are lulled into positive emotions, their eyes become bolder. They begin, gently and lovingly, to slowly wander over each other's face, hair, eyes. Then they become more confident and decide to go down on the partner's shoulders, neck and torso. It's time for fantasies and dreams.
In order to take your relationship with the new Quarry to this next level of intimacy, use the technique I call "Visual Journey" As you speak, allow your eyes to slowly move down from your nose to your lips. Touch the lips with your eyes for a moment or two, then allow yourself to slowly lower your gaze further to the neck, and then, if everything goes well, then lower.
Reception number 6:
"Visual Journey"
When you talk to your Quarry, let your eyes move and roam a little - but only in safe territory at first. Take a "visual tour" of his or her face, focusing mainly on the eyes. If you think he or she is enjoying your expedition, take small excursions to the neck, shoulders, and torso.
Women, you can move more freely in this area. Men, be more careful. You sail in dangerous latitudes and could destroy a ship if your eyes travel too far south and stay there too long.
These four tricks for the eyes - Deep Gaze, Seductive Gaze, Sticky Gaze, and Visual Journey– are scientifically proven and tested aphrodisiacs 10
Aphrodisiacs are drugs that increase sexual desire. - Note lane.
When you try them on your Quarry, you will feel the results. However, you do not need any science to understand that you cannot make anyone fall in love until you are introduced to him or her and introduced to each other. Unless, of course, you managed to arrange an acquaintance without outside help. In common parlance, this is called "picking up" or "taking off" someone. Proponents of political correctness would reject the term with disgust. As for me, I have nothing against this notion - if it is done, let's say, in a way that is decent, appropriate for the situation and befits the people involved in it.
Let's now learn some basics of this art. We will look at how you can arrange an acquaintance with a Potential Love Partner without any outside help.
Biologists, observing how animals meet each other, sniff, growl, hiss, then sniff each other, and finally copulate, have established a certain courtship ritual that is repeated over and over again. The same patterns of behavior in the form of submission and aggression were repeated over and over again. If the sequence of actions of an individual deviates from the standard pattern of behavior, copulation often does not occur.
There is no difference between animals and species Homo sapiens(that's us), but we're facing a major hurdle. Unlike most animals, our brains are not driven by our instincts. In other words, we think too much. We ask ourselves and other people around us too many questions. “Will he consider me too frank? Should I appear inaccessible? Do I look good? Is my tie tied correctly? Maybe I should go to the bathroom first and put on my lips?” Restraint often takes over and paralyzes us, and we behave like a deer, which, once on the road, freezes in the headlights of an approaching car.
Rabbits have no such reflexes. Shouldn't have them either us, when we spot our Prey. We should just take what the researchers say are the right steps to take when we notice him or her.
Hunters, take the first step...quicklyGentlemen, what should you do when you meet a woman that you would like to make part of your future? There is no room for controversy here. You must approach her, and you must do so quickly. The old proverb “He who did not have time is late” is, alas, a harsh reality in the jungle of lonely people.
One day, my male friend (PDM - Platonic male friend - that's what we called male friends at the institute for whom we did not have tender feelings) and I were having lunch at a restaurant. My PDM Phil saw an extremely beautiful woman sitting alone at the bar counter behind him. He turned to me and said, “Here is the woman I am going to marry!”
"Congratulations. And how are you going to get to know her?” I asked defiantly.
Let's see, he thought. “Maybe I’ll just go up to her and say hello.” No, he decided. - It's too primitive when it comes to my future bride. Maybe I should go up and buy her a drink... No, that's trite. Or maybe,” he joked, “I’ll come up and say that I’m passionately in love with her. No, it's too brazen. Tell her that I want her to be the mother of my children? No, it's premature."
While Phil joked about it, I looked over his shoulder as a nice man walked straight up to Phil's chosen one and sat in the empty chair next to her. By the time my friend turned around, this newcomer and Phil's would-be fiancee were deeply engaged in conversation. "Love at first sight" was for Phil "defeat at first sight." As is usually the case with Hunters who hesitate and procrastinate.
What is the best strategy of behavior if you notice an attractive lady? Let your body do the talking. First, use your eyes. Look at her and hold eye contact for a few extra seconds. Be prepared for her to look away. Women are used to lowering their eyes when a man looks at them. This does not mean that she is not interested in you. Analysis of courtship patterns tells us that if, after looking away, a woman looks up again within 45 seconds, she is pleased with your attention.
Gentlemen, mark the time. If she's pretending that something else in the room is suddenly extremely interesting, see how long it takes her to look at you again. If this happens within 45 seconds, proceed as written below.
Reception number 7 (for Hunters):
act fast
“Acting fast” does not mean that you are bee hovering around your Prey, scaring him to death. This means that you immediately let her know about your presence by showing your interest in her. Here is the best method.
Make eye contact. Maintain direct eye contact with her and keep it a little longer than usual.
Smile at her. Make sure your smile is friendly and respectful and doesn't look like a sly grin or a lewd grimace.
Nod to her. If she looks at you again within that crucial 45 seconds, give her a light nod. A nod means, “I like you. May I speak to you?”
Come closer to her. The last step is to get close enough to her to talk.
Smile and nod your head at her. Think of it like booking a table at a fancy restaurant. When you got a woman's attention, you reserved yourself the opportunity to talk to her. Let go of all thoughts of “what will she think of me if I walk towards her and come too fast?” She is nothing she will not think of you - neither good nor bad - if you never get to know her. If you don't start act quickly then each the woman will be the one who passes you by.
You are now in your starting position for the conversation. What should you tell her first? Get out of your head the expression "introductory words." The words will come to mind. After my seminars on the psychology of love, many shy Hunters asked me: “What opening words would be appropriate in this situation?” It terribly touches me that men are worried about such problems.
One day, an extremely shy guy attending my seminar pulled a crumpled book out of his pocket called How to Pick Up Girls. Apparently, he was not the first to study this manual. This book is 25 years old and has sold two million copies, mostly thanks to advertisements in men's magazines. She suggested using approximately such ancient (as the world) compliments: “Just don’t tell me that such a beautiful girl like you is not dating anyone today” or “Are you by any chance a fashion model?” These masterpieces of wit may have worked when our dads dated our moms, but in our more enlightened times, women pay little attention to words. Much more important is not what you say and as you look and as you speak, whatever you say.
Gentlemen, your opening words should be relevant to the woman or the current situation. Ask her what time it is. Compliment her watch or appearance. Ask her to show you the way. Ask how she met the host or hostess of the party. In fact, the less abstruse your words are, the better, because at the beginning of the relationship she does not evaluate your words yet - she considers you. Her brain is busy processing information and forming an opinion about you based on your appearance, demeanor and the words you speak. Whatever you say she knows, that this is just an excuse for you to talk to her. If she likes you, she's fine with it.
Although you do not need to memorize any introductions, you should Pay attention to the first words you say. Just as the first glance at you should delight the eyes of your Quarry, so your first words should delight its ears. Remember that the first sentence spoken to your Quarry is 100 percent determined by its further attitude towards you. If this is a complaint, then you will remain a bore to her. If you start with a smug remark, she will remember you as a braggart. But if your first words please her, she will find you charming.
Gentlemen, you must be wondering why you should keep a low profile. Why do you need to be astute and careful at the very beginning of a relationship? All of this is in our nature. When she looks at you, deep within her instinctive feminine essence, a subconscious judgment is formed about you as a potential partner. She wants to feel that you are passionate about her. But she also wants to know that you are able to control your animal passion, showing what a polite and helpful partner you can be in life.
Hunters, take the first step... firstThis, too, is one part of the great plan of nature. In the animal kingdom, love-hungry individuals attract each other by singing, shouting, dancing. They are much more outspoken than Homo sapiens. Female chimpanzees, in the heat of passion, noticing their Prey, “roam around the male, putting their buttocks right under his nose to attract his attention. Then they literally force him to copulate.” This behavior is known as "female provocativeness". The "provocativeness of the female" (as opposed to the "receptiveness" of the female) is known to our species, although we are, I hope, not so frank.
How do women start dating? In the same way as children. Just like birds, bugs and all other wonderful creatures of God: using various tricks to attract attention.
Lady, let's say you spot Mister Beautiful Stranger - dancing in a disco, sitting opposite you at the table, or puffing on a nearby machine in the gym. What should you do? It usually goes something like this. Noticing him, the woman looks at him for a split second and then looks away. More courageous women smile and after they look away, hoping that he will take the initiative (after all, she does not want to seem impudent).
Just as out of fifty thousand seeds sprayed by a flower, only one sprouts, your chances of falling in love with Mister Beautiful Stranger may be no more than one in fifty thousand, if all your efforts are exhausted by this. You have to do more than just smile, leaving everything else to their fate.
The first step that gets results (for women)Let's take a look at the research results and see what's really works and gives results. Researcher Monica Moore probably also heard that women start two-thirds of all relationships, and decided to find out exactly how they do it. She conducted a study in which she observed the behavior of more than two hundred women at parties and recorded what scientists call "non-verbal seductive signals."
Here, in descending order, are the results of Monica Moore's research. The number associated with each action indicates the number of times Moore observed it tested positive during the experiment. Need to explain? Hunters, these actions make a man come up to you at a party and talk to you.
How women successfully take the first stepsisters, don't delay feel free to be the first to act. If you don't have the courage, look at it the other way. Mate choice is a right given to a woman in the course of evolution so that she can find the best male and thus ensure the survival of the species. You are simply fulfilling your natural destiny when you openly seduce Mister Beautiful Stranger. Mother Nature will justify you.
Are you still shy? Do you think that he will consider you too impudent if you smile widely in the crowd or “accidentally” straighten your toilet in front of him? Nothing like that, because, fortunately, the male ego is retroactive. 11
Retroactivity - the impact of the current event or process on events or processes that took place earlier. - Approx. per.
Ten minutes later, he won't even be aware that it wasn't him who made the first attempt to make an acquaintance. Researcher Monica Moore said that men think they are taking the first step towards dating, when in fact they are only responding to a woman's non-verbal invitation.
I decided to contribute to the research started by Monica Moore when I recently dined at a restaurant in Albany, New York. The next morning, I was supposed to be teaching a group of single people, so now, as I finished breakfast, I replayed the program for tomorrow's seminar in my head. In my speech, I planned to discuss the “problem of a smile”, that is, to explain to women how important it is for men to smile.
I thought to myself, “Layle, you are terribly hypocritical. Tomorrow morning you'll be telling women about the importance of having the courage to smile at strangers, but you'll never have the guts to do it yourself." Thinking about it, I noticed a pleasant man who, while reading, was finishing dinner a few tables away from me. I thought, “So, Leil, a little courage. Try". I took it and smiled at this handsome stranger.
The poor guy looked dazed, he looked down at his book in embarrassment. Soon he picked them up again. I smiled again. Once more his nose disappeared behind the pages of a book. A few minutes later, a charming stranger got up and walked past my table to the toilet. As he walked by, I forced myself to smile again. Completely bewildered, the boy kept walking, scratching the back of his head.
Then it got even more interesting. On the way back he passed my table very slowly. Once again I looked at him and, as you probably guessed, smiled. Mr. Beautiful Stranger stopped. After so many smiles, it was quite logical to start the conversation as if we had known each other for a very long time. He sat down at my table.
I invited this gentleman - his name was Sam - to attend my seminar the next morning, which he did. To illustrate the "smile" part of my workshop, I told the workshop participants a story (without impersonating Sam, of course) about how my smile helped set up an introduction to a lonely man at dinner.
After the workshop, Sam said, “You know, Leil, I think you were talking about me in this story. But,” he added, looking very embarrassed but quite sincere, “I thought that it was I who took the first step towards you". Of course, Sam.
I tell you sisters, the male ego is an amazing thing. Have the courage to smile broadly, nod, point to a chair and invite him to sit down—or almost any of Monica Moore's tactical maneuvers—and he'll forget he didn't take the first step.
Reception No. 8 (for Hunters):
Act first
Hunters, when you've set your Prey, don't wait for him to do something about it. Nature requires you to take the first step. Use any of the tried and tested methods. They all act like you've injected a dose of PEA into his buttock.
Leil Lowndes
How to make anyone fall in love with you 3. Biochemistry of love
© Leil Lowndes, 2009
© Publication in Russian, translation into Russian - Good Book Publishing LLC, 2015
Foreword
Love. This word is just a faint echo of the symphony of ecstasy that we sink into while experiencing this feeling. In anticipation of love, we spend years, and sometimes a lifetime. If we are lucky enough to find her, we pray that she does not leave. But if love eludes us, we seek it again and again. Let's face it: we are obsessed with love!
As soon as Cupid's arrow pierces the heart, substances enter our brain that seem to cover it with a veil, forcing us to perform inexplicable actions. However, you will get an explanation by reading this book. You will know about love as much as very few people know about it, and you will gain the ability to ignite a spark of sympathy for you in your chosen one or chosen one, from which the flame of your love will then kindle.
In addition, you will learn why the chemicals that nature controls our feelings and actions are different at different stages of relationships and throughout life, and how they replace each other. Finally, you will learn to cope with this changing chemical environment and use your “attachment hormones” to create a strong love connection so that you can truly live happily ever after, and not until a divorce separates you. This new knowledge is needed not to send Cupid into retirement, but to keep him in your life forever.
"What is happening to me?"
You've probably experienced this: your heart is beating like a hammer, your tongue is turning to stone, your palms are sweating, and syllables are mysteriously falling out of your speech. "Hello" suddenly becomes the hardest word you'll ever know.
But as soon as your vital signs return to normal and a semblance of rational thinking returns to you, you excitedly ask yourself the question of whether your new acquaintance (or acquaintance) felt the same towards you. In the case of a negative answer, lovers who have not met reciprocity decide that they are powerless here and there is nothing left for them but to torment themselves, sob, cursing everything that exists, and take offense at the cat. But as you will soon learn, they are wrong.
Why did this particular person strike you on the spot, while when meeting others you feel only “boredom at first sight”? It's all about your unconscious, hidden in the depths of the brain, the ability to instantly evaluate a candidate. This skill has evolved and is rooted in a time when our lives depended on a quick fight-or-flight response.
Our gift for this "clairvoyance" has evolved with us over many millennia. Just as DNA experts can tell a lot about a person by examining a piece of his fingernail, all people are endowed with an incredible ability to subconsciously feel whether they will feel good together with the chosen one, whether he will be able to give them what they need, whether he fits their personality. a list of desirable qualities, which can contain a million different characteristics.
All your life you have been setting the stage for your love, and it remains to wait for the star of the show to appear in the spotlight. Your experiences from birth to the moment you pick up this book determine the qualities that make up the image of the person you will love - or could love. This image that is called your love card and bears the imprint of your personality, can contain many details, down to facial features, character traits, intelligence, aspirations, sense of humor and hundreds of other qualities. Interpersonal neuroscience, the newest field of science, explains how your interactions with other people are constantly changing the neural connections in your brain. Even a short flirtation that you don't want to continue can change your love map forever.
Most of the characteristics captured in this card were determined in your childhood, before the age of five. If it went well, you were surrounded by loved and loving people, mostly your relatives. You are used to this closeness, and it has programmed your choice: you are likely to feel a special connection with a man who resembles someone who was close to you as a child, or with a woman whose appearance shows the same genetic features. Have you noticed how often partners look alike?
Do you know, dear women, that a man from the moment he meets you understands almost instantly whether you will be HIS ONLY WOMAN? If this feeling does not occur after two or three dates, it will NEVER arise.
Do you know, dear women, that Acquaintance is not the First Date? It is during this period that you can ONLY make a favorable impression on a man and collect information about him that will allow you to understand what the true intentions of a man regarding you are in fact.
Do you know, dear women, that if a man in his right mind really fell for a woman, then nothing will prevent him from winning her? And if not, then why do you need it?
Do you know, dear women, that when we try to explain why our man behaves strangely, we sometimes find the most ridiculous reasons for ourselves, although in fact there is only one reason?
You are not the woman with whom he wants to join his fate.
This information will help a woman learn how to choose the Man of her dreams, get to know him correctly, organize dates and go to them with maximum effect. Create a personal dress code for a man.
This book will help you understand the secrets of men that men never say. This means that women have practically no chance to understand the true intentions of a man. Although, as experience shows, this secret can be revealed literally on the first two dates.
This book will allow a woman at any stage of a relationship to understand the intentions of a man by the alarm signals that he gives, teach you to go through each stage of the relationship as best as possible and with the greatest result. And valuable and useful recommendations will be a good hint and guide to the most effective actions on the part of a woman in almost any situation that may arise in a relationship with a man.
The chapters of this book should be read sequentially, one after the other. In the first chapter, you will receive only a brief information about men, so as not to give up this activity at the very beginning. In the second I will tell you how to attract them. The third tells how and where you can meet a man, and from the fourth you will learn how to collect the information you need, how to remember it and what you need to extract from it. The fifth will reveal men's secrets, or what a man really thinks about marriage. Then, if you get the man to open up to you, you thereby lead him to the idea of love for you. What you need to do to make a man fall in love with you, you will learn from the sixth chapter. Chapter 7 will help you build your dignity and look your best.
Relationship management strategy and tactics: training or training? About praise and criticism as an important part of the relationship and how to use these "tools" of the relationship will tell the eighth chapter.
And the penultimate, ninth chapter will help to avoid the usual mistakes that scare men at the beginning of a relationship and at the final stage, before the wedding.
But remember the main thing! Your main concern is taking care of yourself. There is no reason to punish yourself with painful relationships that bring nothing but suffering. There is no reason to deprive yourself of happiness Love! And there is no reason to deprive yourself of the happiness of being loved and a man who will truly love you!
Wish you luck!
All women live by the principle: “LOVE CANNOT BE USED!” But only a few know where to put a comma in this phrase for it to be correct.
Thoughts of an unknown man from a dating site
Dear reader!
I want to start this chapter with thoughts that reflect a man's true view of what you want to do while reading this book. It is these thoughts, not very pleasant in content, but so sincere and truthful, that will set you in the right mood and give you the right direction in making your dream come true - to find a man worthy of you. But most importantly, they will leave hope that you still need it.
So what does the man think?
“I want to write here some advice for those girls or women who are interested in a man in order to build a serious relationship with him.
For example, we are very lazy! That is, in our time, the development of relations, as a rule, is achieved by the girl who herself is active in the relationship, and does not wait for proposals from the guy. Although there is a plus in this: for example, I, as a bright representative of the “Russian Muscovites” kind, get very used to the person with whom I communicate a lot, and practically cannot live without him. For the sake of such a person, I am ready for a lot, starting with overcoming all my shortcomings and even ending with marriage!
I want to note right away that we, Men, are also goats, in one word ... So, I ask you not to be offended by everything written below and not to take it immediately into your own account ... That's right, the lyrics ...
So what do I think of you girls?!
In general, if you sum up all my life experience, even the lightest parts of it, then I almost despaired of meeting an honest girl who will stand the test of time, lack of funds, petty quarrels, and most importantly - the TEMPTATION of the best that will be around and will seem so real and achievable ... And a serious LONG relationship is, as a rule, overcoming all the difficulties that are encountered on the way: life together suggests that it is easier to overcome them together ... But this is precisely what many do not understand.
True love is not the one that endures long years of separation, but the one that endures long years of intimacy! And trying to find it is sometimes pointless! She is like a shadow ... you to her - she is from you. You are from her - she is behind you. It's a pity that...
But living without the hope of falling in love is not interesting, so I am a realist, but still I hope to find my happiness, MY LOVE!
It is not by chance that I have taken so far only this small part of all the information about men that I received from them, studied, analyzed and, of course, adapted it for women's perception. Firstly, in order not to discourage a woman from making her dream come true: "To love and be loved." Get to know his real world, try to accept, and most importantly, learn to love. Love not your feelings for a man, but the man himself. And secondly, there are three keys to male behavior in this paragraph:
Men, especially in our country, were raised by women. Kindergarten - women, school - women, institute - women. But the most important woman in a man's life is his Mother plus the environment: grandmothers, aunts, nannies, etc. That formed predictable reactions to women in him.
A man likes women who take the initiative into their own hands, as a projection of the maternal attitude towards him. And he is accustomed to obey women, starting with his own mother.
Male ego. He only marries a woman who recognizes that he is unusual and unique.
We will work with these keys. Now in detail about each.
These keys determine the behavior of a man. Your ability to use them will help you achieve the result you want to achieve. I want to draw your attention to the fact that I am not talking about individual characteristics, but about how a typical man behaves. Because not every feature is characteristic of a man, but almost all of them are inherent in the majority. Study these basic traits and see how they apply to the men you know:
1. Men are aware of women's power over them. All men know that women love to manipulate men, they are unpredictable, prefer to express themselves in hints, are more conflicted and scandalous, because they are prone to gossip and intrigue; the sources of satisfaction for a woman's happiness are children and the well-being of the family. When communicating, women are more interested in detailed details than the essence of the matter, they look for more pleasure than good in attachments, they condemn mistakes more strictly than crimes, and in general a woman does not attach importance to her own words, but the meaning of a man’s words will certainly exaggerate. This list can be continued further, but the most interesting thing is that a man, condemning such behavior, still follows the woman's lead and allows himself to be manipulated. Finding a rather non-male explanation for their actions, that this is a mysterious female power. But we do know the reason. So don't try to convince him otherwise.
2. When he is sick, he seeks the care of a loving woman. In the worst moments, he becomes like a child. There are no comments here. Unless this confirms the fact that a man remains a child in his soul.
3. He prefers a good family life to a bachelor life. But on the condition that the process of marriage occurred as if by itself, without effort and problems.
4. He is ready to enter into marital relations if the mores of his circle so require or if they become a condition for a successful career.
5. Men love women who do not hide the fact that they are interested in them, but do not like those who make them overcome all sorts of obstacles. Many modern men simply do not have time for games, so they will not take part in them. So, when taking the initiative, do not overdo it, doing everything for him, because the man will shamelessly take advantage of this situation. Men take advantage of women who let them.
6. A man is a team player, he should understand what his task is and what is expected of him. He experiences great difficulty trying to understand what a woman wants to tell him. He learns from childhood a practical approach to problem solving and responds best to clear questions and requirements. The best option is for a woman to do as his mother did: be direct in her demands, but from a loving position.
7. A man needs a woman who, especially in public, will always be on his side.
8. A man believes in his unusualness or uniqueness. The way to a man's heart is through his ego. For any man, a woman who thinks and cares about him is attractive. But he loves and marries the one whom, in his opinion, he is able to make happy.
9. To be happy, a man needs to feel special, and he expects a woman to tell him about it. His friends do not reinforce such feelings, as they are too busy with their own personas.
10. A man also likes to be praised rather than criticized, but in principle he is ready for both. But if the praise seems excessive, then he will feel that he does not really live up to your expectations. You should criticize him, but at the same time do not forget to support him. He will be glad that you consider him quite earthly, but love him nonetheless.
And now about the main thing. Otherwise, dear reader, it may seem to you that I scared you in vain, that not everything is so scary and bad. Decide for yourself.
1. Men are very lazy. And most of them are not too interested in promoting the favorable development of relationships, making them deeper, fuller and emotionally open, but most importantly, they are not inclined to show initiative and patience.
2. It will be difficult for you to convince him that you are the only woman he can make happy. And this can only happen if you endure the test of time, lack of funds, small and especially large quarrels, and most importantly - BE SEVENTED to the best that he promises you.
3. A man is looking for a woman (from the profile of a man on a dating site, the section "Whom I'm looking for") "with the second second I in the form of a woman, so that when added, one indivisible whole is obtained. If you are charming and attractive, sexy, obstinate, fashionable, stylish, charming, passionate, tender, daring, capricious, sympathetic, witty, sensual, charming, extravagant, cheerful, frank, sociable, energetic, cheerful, risky, practical, attentive, inimitable, smiling, sensitive, reasonable, original, tactful, bright, wonderful, real - WELCOME! So try to match.
4. A man does not set himself such a goal as finding his love, and if he does, then in the list she will be the penultimate one before the desire to marry.
5. In matters of love and relationships, men are guided by the principle of "what if". And when the situation heats up, they simply throw trouble out of their heads, knowing how to be distracted. At the same time, they say to themselves: “Somehow it will form ...”
6. Men have rules that they follow as a code of honor, here is a small part of them:
Sunday is sports on TV or beer with friends. It's like the lunar cycle or the ebb and flow. And so be it.
Everything that we said six months ago is unacceptable as an argument. As a matter of fact, all claims become null and void after 7 days.
All men can only distinguish 16 colors, as in the default settings of Windows. The peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Cherry is also not a color. We have no idea what mauve looks like.
If something itches, we scratch it. We do it.
Shopping is NOT a sport. And we will never think differently.
Learn to lower the toilet seat. If it's up, just put it down. We need it up, you down. We're not complaining that you left it down.
If you think you're fat, then you probably are. Don't ask us.
A headache that lasts 12 months is a disease. Go to the doctor.
If you don't dress like TV show girls, then don't expect us to act like TV show men.
When we are going somewhere together, any clothes will do ... Honestly!
Remember! We think that:
1. You have enough clothes!
2. You have too many shoes!
And the final chord - a man's wish to a woman:
Take care, women, men, there are thousands of reasons for this,
Their predisposition to wear, to alcohol, to atherosclerosis.
Women, learn to get used to, understand men and patronize,
Do not irritate them in vain, give in to weaknesses, forgive,
And be sensitive to them, and kind: all men are fragile worlds,
So please respond. Take care, women, men!
I have stated the main facts, but only a small part of them, concerning male nature. You have yet to find out what a man thinks about, what he will never tell a woman and why. How will he guide his decisions about you and your relationship? I will teach you to recognize warning signs by his behavior, decipher true intentions and not waste time on relationships that will not bring you joy. Revealing the secrets, lies and unwritten laws of men, you will receive the most valuable thing. You will master the art of being and remaining a woman. And this ability is most valued against the background of a man. And that happiness is in your hands.
A woman who values herself too low brings down the price of all women.
Nellie McClung (Canadian writer)
Ask any woman: what does she want from a man? And she will always answer specifically: “He must have a stable financial position, must be reliable and have excellent connections, be affectionate, understanding and forgiving, incomparably solve pressing problems, be a good lover, etc., etc.” Now ask the same woman: what can she offer him in return? True, she will think a little, but she will say, as usual: "HERSELF".
But such an answer does not make any man feel happy. Too incomprehensible. Or, on the contrary, he determines the price himself. For example, he will invite you to a restaurant, feed you dinner and wait for payment - by you. But for some reason, most often a woman is outraged by such behavior of a man. Although, if you think about the fact that when you come to a cafe and order a cup of coffee, you do not expect the waiter to give it to you for free, because you are you. Surely a woman will immediately object that the waiter is different. The man who invited her gives her signs of attention, which means he wants to build a relationship with her.
And what is the difference between them? Both are men you don't know at all. But with regard to the waiter, it doesn’t occur to you to offer yourself for a cup of coffee, but for some other reason, it does.
To be successful with a man, a woman needs to know what she can offer him and be able to say it. To do this, she needs to be able to evaluate herself.
The biggest stupidity a woman does is when she expects the whole world, and especially a man, to appreciate her without the slightest effort on her part.
The first place to start is to acknowledge that you are worth something. However, your importance is not self-evident.
At all times, especially during the period of matchmaking, a woman was presented as a “commodity”. A man was considered a "merchant" who selects and purchases goods. Fine. If a woman is a “commodity,” then she must know how much it costs and what kind of “merchant” this product can purchase. In modern terms, conduct marketing research. Determine the price value of the offer and create demand for your “product”.
To create demand, an advertising campaign is needed, the purpose of which will be to attract buyers, or "merchants". To do this, you need to know everything thoroughly about your attractiveness. And then develop in yourself those qualities that will attract exactly those people who are interesting to you.
Therefore, the first step to understanding how to become attractive is that you must understand how you imagine your own attractiveness.
What kind of person do we find attractive? Someone who is loved by many. And this ability depends on the personality of a person, his charm, on his manner of communicating with people. From his social competence. From whether he knows what he wants, whether he is engaged in a real business with which he completely identifies himself, from his position in life. All this and much more is contained in the concept of "charisma", which means "to attract attention." This means that a charismatic person is a person who has personal charm as the sum of all personal qualities, which gives this person a special power.
Let's take a look at the ingredients that make up attractiveness.
1. Physical attractiveness.
The first important element is appearance. The way a person is perceived externally, which is the result of how a person relates to himself. Components: personal care, personal hygiene and, of course, clothes combined with charm. I wrote about this in detail in the book “What a Woman Is Worth, or How to Raise Self-Esteem”.
2. Intellectual attraction is your mind.
To be attractive, you must be able to interest people on an intellectual level. Moreover, everyone knows that our primary erogenous zones are located in the brain. We consider interesting people those who have a keen curiosity. Such people have a thirst for knowledge about the world around them and about their partner.
3. Emotional attraction.
By it we mean the ability to feel compassion, the ability to open up to another person, openly rejoice and be able to sympathize.
And the last quality:
4. Your personality.
Personality consists of how a person looks, what he thinks, what he feels, including those qualities and properties that are much more difficult to name and define. Among them are self-esteem, self-confidence and attitude towards people.
Now let's test ourselves for each item.
To begin with, you will need to learn how to receive information about yourself from any source. I highly recommend doing photo catalog, or portfolio. You will see your strengths and weaknesses. For example:
In studio photographs, it will become clear to you which style of clothing, hairstyle, accessories enhance the effect of attractiveness, and which emphasize your weaknesses.
Then make a table, dividing into two columns, or groups: what you like, and what you don’t really like and need to be improved. Start by evaluating the face. It's the first thing most people look at. Your photos, especially portraits, will help you a lot.
For example, you like your eyes. So they are definitely something to underline, so put them in the first column. Or you do not like your legs: of course, you could bring them to perfection with the help of an operation - but is it necessary? Any competent stylist will pick up clothes so that your legs will not annoy anyone. But put it in the "improve" column.
Think about what you can do with the traits that ended up in the "improve" column. In some cases, you can do with only short-term goals, such as the services of a stylist for clothes, and in some cases, you cannot do without long-term goals.
The secret of an attractive appearance is that you deliberately emphasize your best features. You don't have to be a born designer, you just have to learn how to make the most of what you have. It's more than you think. Involve specialists in this matter, you definitely can’t do without them. Stylists, hairdressers, image makers.
and not only. I wanted you to be able to read and understand where the elementary ches is, and where the practical things are.
A few years ago, a book of the same name written by an American was published.
Our life is fast, everything changes at lightning speed too.
The tips that were relevant yesterday are no longer relevant today.
Those tips that are written in another country look ridiculous in ours.
And now - read!
How to fall in love with anyone on the Internet?
Best-selling authors of The Rules: The Time-Tested Secrets to Winning the Heart of a Decent Man and Rule II, Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider, wrote The Rules for Online Dating. All Rules are based on three main ideas: - A man must initially feel sympathy for a woman. - A man must conquer a woman. - All men love to overcome obstacles. For Internet communication, the authors formulated seventeen Rules:
1. Do not look through men's dating ads and do not write to them first. If you chose someone's profile and wrote it first, it means that you are winning a man. And it's no different than walking up to him at a party or in a bar, calling him or asking him out on a date. He will never know that you like him. Consider the game over with this. If he does start dating you, you'll never know if he's with you because he's comfortable or because he's really crazy about you.
2. Come up with an attractive nickname. Choose a name that isn't trite or overly flashy, colorless, or marriage-centered. Do not go to extremes and do not find the option that will only attract sex-crazed men. Strive for the sweet spot and be descriptive. Try to have a nickname characterize you.
3. "Less is better" - here is a guide to creating a questionnaire. When answering a questionnaire on a dating site, give the impression that you casually filled out a few fields and inserted one nice little photo because you were in a hurry to the gym or to work. For everything else, you're too busy. And in no case do not write something about yourself that you would not say on the first date. Typical mistakes: - write that you are looking for love, want to get married and ready to move; - post more than one dating ad on the same web site. website (despair is read in such a gesture); - publish three or four photos in your ad; - write long-winded answers that are too lazy to read.
4. Post a photo of yourself smiling. Men don't read what you write as much as they look at your picture. True, it is not necessary to post something provocative. For girls who are afraid of being recognized by friends or acquaintances: overcome your fears and post a photo anyway. It's not such a big feat.
5. Wait 24 hours before answering.
6. Do not write letters on weekends and holidays.
7. Write light and carefree emails. Do not enter into correspondence with men who do not have a photo or have not filled out a questionnaire. If you received a letter from a person who has not published a picture, answer: “I prefer to see the faces of the interlocutors. Thanks". Only this and nothing more. When a person refuses to post a picture, there is always a good reason for this. If you received a letter with a photo, and you liked the man, it is enough to respond to the picture with the words: “Thank you!”, “Nice!” or "Beautiful!" Do not tell a man that you carefully studied his profile. Do not comment on the knowledge gleaned from there, such as "my brother also works as an economist."
8. Never text a man a second time if he forgot to reply to your email. If you receive an angry message saying that he expects more from you than three lines in a letter, feel free to press DELETE and go to rule #13.
9. For the first three months, do not act as the initiator of the correspondence, just answer. When he sends you jokes and remarks, "Did I already tell you that you're attractive?" don't reply. Wait for the third message, and only then write.
10. Do not use instant messaging programs (ICQ, MSN, M-Agent, etc.) in correspondence with a man.
11. Don't offer your phone number first.
12. If he doesn't ask you out after exchanging four letters, feel free to delete him.
13. Weed out the bad guys.
14. Don't waste time on chronophages (devourers of your free time).
15. Don't rush the transition from letters to phone calls.
16. Remember safety first.
17. Do not interrogate on the first date.
Now go meet online and fall in love!
Which of these tips is completely irrelevant and even harmful for a modern woman in the post-Soviet space? What are the options?
Keeping the promise of the title of How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You, here are 85 techniques based on scientific research into the nature of romantic love.
"I don't understand. I have everything - attractiveness, intelligence, sensuality, sophistication. Why doesn't he or she fall in love with me? Why can't I find my love?" How many times have you pounded your pillow with your fists while asking yourself this question?
You open the book skeptical, but still hopeful. You are reading the title: "How to make anyone fall in love with you."
“This is a very serious promise,” you say. Indeed, the way it is. But this promise can be fulfilled if you decide to follow a science-based plan to win the heart of a Potential Love Partner.
Why, when life is full of heartbreak stories, do we still claim that there are means to make anyone fall in love? Because after centuries of inaction, science has finally figured out what romantic love really is, how it happens, what keeps it going, and what kills it.
Like the ancient savage who saw a solar eclipse and thought it was black magic, we looked at love and thought it was magic. Sometimes, especially in those happy first moments when we want to stop passers-by on the street and shout out loud: “I'm in love!” Love can feel like magic. But as we enter the 21st century, we find that love is a very specific and calculable mixture of chemistry, biology, and psychology. (Well, maybe a little black magic to boot.)
When the ship of science set sail on uncharted seas, we finally began to understand the basics of this “craziest, most deceitful, and most transient of passions,” as George Bernard Shaw described love. What makes people want to remain in this “excited, abnormal and debilitating state forever until death do them part”? The question and confusion as to what love really is is nothing new. They are the kind of questions that have been seriously considered over the centuries by such titans of thought as Plato, Sigmund Freud and Charlie Brown.
In 1950, in a darkened Broadway theater, the audience of the musical “South Pacific” was in complete agreement with its character Eizo Pinza when he mused, “Who can explain this? Who can tell you why? Fools will name hundreds of reasons. The wise will not even try.” Well there's been a lot of wise men and women lately already tried and succeeded in it. Don't blame the musical's writers Rogers and Hammerstein. When they composed their romantic plays, the scientific community was as confused about love as the characters in musicals singing about their bewilderment about one magical evening.
Long before Sigmund Freud took up this subject, analytical scientific minds agreed that love was one of the fundamental foundations of human experience.
But at the same time, they believed that the evaluation, classification and definition of romantic love is impossible, and therefore such research is a waste of time and money. On his deathbed, Freud declared: "We really know very little about love."
His dying words remained a scientific doctrine for a long time. At least until the early 1970s, when a group of radical socio-psychologists again turned to the eternal problems of scientists: why? And How? They began to ask themselves, and anyone they could lure into their laboratories, questions about romantic love.
Two women have made a breakthrough by inadvertently focusing the attention of the modern press on an ancient question: what is love? Helen Bersheed, Ph.D., and her colleague Elaine Hatfield were able to secure an $84,000 federal grant for the study of romantic love. Bershid convinced the National Science Foundation to fork out, saying, “We already understand the mating behavior of the stickleback. It's time to turn to other species."
Bershid's research, like many others before it, could have gone unnoticed and unpublished, taking up only a dozen pages in an obscure specialized journal. Luckily for all those who are looking for love, one morning on Capitol Hill, former United States Senator from Wisconsin William Proxmire was going through paperwork. Deep in a pile of papers, he dug up a National Science Foundation ruling granting two women a "frivolous" subsidy to study interpersonal relationships.
The skies have opened up over Proxmere! Eighty-four thousand dollars to study what? He immediately drafted a furious press release stating that romantic love is not a science at all, and in general, he growled: “National Science Foundation, stop doing this love scam. Leave it to Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Irving Berlin.” Further, Proxmire added on his own behalf: “Personally, I am against this also because I don't want to know the answer." He assumed that everyone felt the same way. How wrong he was!
Proxmire's protest sparked a worldwide storm that raged around Bershid for the next two years. "Special issue! Everyone read about it! The National Science Foundation is about to study love!” Newspapers dedicated front pages to it. Cameras and microphones were willingly heading towards Bershid. The researchers' quiet office was littered with mail.
Criticism of Proxmire misfired. Instead of putting an end to the "frivolous search", this media hype has created a passionate interest in the study of love. James Reston of The New York Times stated that if Burshid and others could "unravel the mystery of romantic love, marriage, disappointment, divorce, and abandoned children, it would be the best investment of government money since Jefferson purchased Louisiana." .
It looked as if Helen Bershid had blown up the dam that had held back the interest that had been accumulating for a long time in this topic. There is still a torrent of research going on, looking closely at every aspect of love. Esteemed scientists, social scientists with big names, such as Foa, Murshtein, Dion, Aron, Rubin, and many others, relatively little known outside the scientific world, presented a gift that we have not yet revealed - a gift that we " let's unfold ”only now: as a result of their research, we can learn (although this was not at all their goal) how to fall in love with anyone.
Some studies do not lead us directly to this goal. To find the necessary scientific papers, I had to “combine” hundreds of scientific studies with cumbersome titles, such as “The consequences of a change in orientation towards dyadic functioning of heterosexual cohabitants” (what would that mean?). Some studies have focused on mice listening to classical music, then jazz and blues, to find out what makes them more sexually aroused. Other studies that were useless to achieve our goal looked at sexual attraction to corpses; there have also been studies of immobile tantric intercourse, which, I assume, only works when the ship on which the couple is on a nuptial cruise hits a heavy roll.
Fortunately, many studies have yielded tastier and more practical results. Particularly helpful was the work of a daring researcher, a PhD named Timothy Perper, who spent many hours observing subjects in his favorite laboratory, the singles bar. We will also be helped by the wonderful scientific works of Robert Sternberg and his colleagues, who studied various theories of love. We used insightful research on the basic features of obsession and passionate, reckless love by Dorothy Tennov and others. Others included courageous, though relatively unknown, explorers such as Carol Ronay. She actually took a job as a dancer at a strip bar to find out what facial expressions turn men on.
My own first exploration, though not as audacious, was no less vigorous. For more than a decade before I became a communications technology consultant and trainer, I was the director of a research group I created called The Project.
The "Project" was a New York-based non-profit organization founded to study sexuality and interpersonal relationships. During my leadership of The Project, I interviewed and systematized the responses of several thousand people about what they were looking for in an ideal partner. I collected information from students at many institutes where I was invited to talk about my research.
Like the work of the researcher Helen Bershid, The Project attracted close public attention, which made it the subject of national discussion. A correspondent from Time magazine, covering one of our meetings, wrote a full-page article declaring, "Sexual fantasies are now on Broadway," which, in general, corresponded to reality.
One of the divisions of the "Project" attracted volunteers who presented their love fantasies on stage in the form of a psychodrama. Since there was no nudity or overt speech, these wordless dramatizations were unusual and one of a kind and attracted the attention of three major television channels, which presented excerpts from these productions in national programs. In turn, this caused a mass of publications in respected and well-known publications in America and Europe.
As a result, people from all over the world sent us their stories and fantasies about their longing desires and thirst for love. They called or wrote to The Project detailing exactly what they were looking for in a romantic partner. Most of the letters or calls we received started with words like “I never told anyone about this, but…”. Callers and writers then revealed their deepest desires to the anonymous "Project." We listened to them, listened with gratitude, as we received from them information about what makes or what can make a person fall in love.
Let's leave the world of sexuality for a moment. Let's move on to my second specialty - in the field of communication and communications. It was here that I conducted research and processed it into effective tricks and techniques with which you can make anyone fall in love with you.
It has long been proven that, beyond any doubt, there are ways to induce desired behavior in people. If there were no such methods, then all psychologists and thousands of corporate trainers, including me, would be left without work. There are recognized methods to evoke various emotions and change people's behavior. For example, we can learn how to deal with "difficult" people or how to get undisciplined employees to behave in the way we want.
Feedback from participants in seminars I have given to government agencies, universities, trade unions, and businesses has convinced me that we can indeed bring about change in other people's behavior patterns. We solve this complex problem first by understanding people's basic needs, motives and motivations, and then by applying the right verbal and non-verbal skills to change their behavior.
This is exactly what I do in this book. Based on scientific research, I identify the basic needs, motives and urges that make a person fall in love. Then I give you the right verbal and non-verbal skills to evoke the behavior you want—in this case, making the person fall in love with you.
This book is the result of many years of research and research in several areas of knowledge: interpersonal relationships, human sexuality, communication skills, and gender differences. We used not only scientific research on the nature of love and my own research, but also took into account the work of modern therapists and analysts in the field of communication and communications. I am especially indebted to sociolinguist Deborah Tannen for her work and to therapist John Gray for his witty analogies between Mars and Venus; it was he who made it generally known that men and women have extremely different styles of thinking and communication.
What is the recipe for falling in love, the recipe for making someone fall in love with you? Can it be reduced to a formula? What you will read below sounds very simple, but is actually quite complex.
You should start by learning the solid science behind what attracts people to each other. Then you collect complete information about your prey(that is, about the person you want to make in love with you). Next, you use sophisticated, often subconscious communication techniques to satisfy his or her conscious and unconscious needs. And finally, you master your Quarry, subtly understanding what exactly he or she desires sexually. Here it is - the formula of love, the recipe for how to make your Potential Love Partner fall in love with you.
I was not satisfied with just scientific research. I needed to see if these techniques would work in the “field conditions”. A few years ago, to test my theories, I created a seminar with the same title as this book: How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.
Invitations came from all over the country - from colleges, singles groups, dating clubs, educational organizations. In this field, the material of the book was tested. My students answered: “Yes!” It is quite possible to make a person fall in love with you.
Is this task easy? No.
Does it require sacrifice? Yes.
After reading this book, you may decide that winning his or her heart just isn't worth that much dedication. But if you really want to get into it, follow me. We will learn the skills required to complete this task - to make your chosen Potential Love Partner fall in love with you. (Did you notice that I used the words Potential Love Partner repeatedly. I will continue to use them because, although this expression is cumbersome, it is more precise than the phrase anyone, which my American publisher wisely considered easier to read.)
Who are your Potential Love Partners? First of all, a Potential Love Partner (PLP) is anyone who is ready to love. Timing means, if not everything, then at least a lot. For example, if someone has just lost a loved one, he or she may not be ready for love. This removes him or her - temporarily - from being a PLP.
Secondly, a Potential Love Partner is anyone free from hidden psychological needs. These are needs that you - through no fault of your own - will not be able to satisfy. We'll talk a lot more about your Quarry's "love cards" later on.
This leaves many Potential Love Partners, countless hearts to choose from. Let us now take the path that will lead you to the heart of the man or woman you long for.
What are these long-awaited results of Bershid's first studies and the many studies that followed? Well, maybe Freud was right. romantic love really mysterious. It is difficult to catch and turn it into bits and bytes of information available for management and calculation. And vice versa, treating it like a virus, scientists discover individual characteristic features of love, fixing more and more of its facets over and over again. So they have moved far ahead.
From this entire cascade of research, six truths stand out about what makes people in love. To be a successful Hunter or Huntress and an experienced heartthrob, you must, like Cupid, be an accurate archer and shoot your arrows at the bullseye of the following six targets.
The first moments when you notice your Prey - and he or she casually glances at you - can be decisive. Here the decision is made: “like - do not like”, “suitable - not suitable”. Scientists tell us that the seeds of love are often planted during the first few minutes of a relationship.
When two cats meet for the first time, they stop and look at each other. If one of them starts to hiss, then the second one's hair stands on end, and it hisses in response. However, if the first cat pokes at the other with its cold nose, the other responds in the same way, and they leave together, purring and licking each other.
At the moment of acquaintance, a man and a woman are like two small animals sniffing each other. We don't have tails to wag or fur that stands on end, but we do have eyes whose pupils dilate or constrict. We have hands that are clenched into fists or raised, opening the palms of the interlocutor, as if wanting to tell him: "I obey." There are many other involuntary reactions that take place in the first few moments of interaction. The good news is that we can learn to control these seemingly involuntary reactions.
The moment you lay eyes on each other, your Potential Love Partner subconsciously reads the subtlest "tones" of your body language. In these first critical moments, he or she unconsciously decides whether to aim for the romantic experience to skyrocket or to put aside all thoughts of love. His or her mind becomes like a computer and your PLP continues to make quick decisions during your first conversation, your first date.
In the first part of the book, we will look at the tricks and techniques for luring, attracting a Potential Love Partner to you, making him like you and then setting up a first date. I'll share with you science-backed methods for having an engaging conversation and ways to arrange a first date that will turn your Quarry on.
If you pass the test of first impressions, you are entering the second phase of the relationship. This is where your Quarry begins to make judgments about you as a Potential Love Partner. His or her subconscious says, “I need someone who is just like me. Well almost same".
If compatibility is required for life or just for one date, some similarity is needed. Our hearts are finely tuned instruments that are looking for that person whose values are similar to ours, who holds views similar to ours and sees the world in much the same way as we do. Similarity makes us feel good because it validates the decisions and alternatives we spend our lives choosing. We are looking for people who enjoy the same activities that we do, so that it would be nice to spend time together. Likeness is indeed a launching pad for a good relationship to take off.
But we get bored too much great similarity. Besides, we need someone to make up for our shortcomings. If we both don't have math skills, who's going to balance the checkbook? If we're messy, who will pick up our socks?
Therefore, we are also looking for complementary qualities in our long-term love partner. But not any Complementary qualities are only those that we find interesting or that improve our lives. Thus, we are looking for someone who is both similar and complementary us.
In part two, we'll explore methods for nurturing a subconscious sense of similarity in your Quarry's heart and ways to make him or her realize that while you two are basically alike, you're different in many practical, fun, and interesting ways and ways. sides of life.
Ellen S. Berscheid is an American psychologist and sociologist, Ph.D., author of numerous publications and research in the field of interpersonal relationships. - Approx. per.
John Gray is an American psychologist and therapist, an expert in the psychology of interpersonal relationships and family psychology. Author of the books “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” (1992) (in Russian translation - “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. M., Novosti, 1997), “Mars and Venus, Together Forever” (1994) (in Russian translation - "Mars and Venus together and forever." M., News, 1997) and many others. - Approx. per.
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