What is the most commonly confused diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)? Can the lack of treatment of hyperactivity in childhood really ruin a person's life? And what is the benefit - or harm from "Indigo children"?
The child was diagnosed with ADHD and treated. The mother is trying to figure out how to live now and how to build relationships with him. Share new information with others. But each of those around him has his own view of the situation. There are many points of view, and they are incompatible with each other. Let's try to deal with each group of beliefs separately.
This point of view is more common than others, and its bearer is best left alone. It's almost impossible to convince him. You can bring him special literature, show him diagrams, talk about the frontal lobes, about control dysfunction, even about the reuptake of neurotransmitters in the synaptic cleft ... But for one picture of the world to change in the mind of a person, a long time must pass, he must do some then observe and come to certain conclusions.
The problem with spoiled children is that adults have not put limits on acceptable behavior for them. As soon as these boundaries are set with the proper measure of seriousness, the behavior of children is normalized. In the case of ADHD, the problem is different: even if the child knows very well how to behave and really wants to behave well, he still fails because of his impulsiveness. This does not mean that he does not need to set boundaries - he definitely needs to!
"Where were these kids before?" - ask people who are sure that ADHD was invented a few years ago. But even before these children were in the same place where they are now: in every class. Everyone, perhaps, can remember one or two hooligans and losers, cool jesters, brawlers and ugly people. With a high degree of probability, this is exactly what they were.
Moreover, a loser and a bully is a very popular figure in children's literature, described in detail in many works in all its glory. If we analyze favorite children's books, taking into account modern scientific ideas about the nature of school difficulties, we will see there an attention deficit, a reduced level of brain activation, and hyperactivity, and specific learning difficulties, classified, however, as laziness and hooliganism.
The problem of overdiagnosis does exist: the diagnosis of hyperactivity in children is sometimes made not very carefully, and sometimes completely unprofessional. One often hears something like "the doctor made the diagnosis during the school medical examination" or "psychologists came to the school, tested, diagnosed."
This is a violation of the normal diagnostic procedure, which requires filling out multi-page questionnaires, a thorough history taking, and a conversation with the teacher. Doctors who are serious about diagnosing spend several hours just talking to parents.
A psychologist cannot "diagnose" anything. The teacher, even more so. A psychologist can describe the problem to the parent, suggest what it may be related to, and advise them to see a doctor.
The doctor does not diagnose "ADHD" on the basis of a five-minute examination of the child during the school medical examination, and in the fifteen minutes allotted for an appointment at the clinic, he cannot diagnose it either.
In addition, there is no officially accepted protocol for diagnosing ADHD in the country. In the meantime, the problem of overdiagnosis will not go anywhere. However, if someone is diagnosed with ADHD illiterately, this does not mean that such a disorder does not exist.
The question of who is more bothered by ADHD - the child or others - is not as simple as it seems. Indeed, such manifestations of a child exhaust adults, bring them to exhaustion, especially if it is hyperactivity in younger preschoolers.
But the kids have a hard time too. A study published in the journal Advances in Medical Sciences in 2009 shows that children with ADHD are almost twice as likely to injury rate(sprains, open wounds of the head, neck, body and limbs, as well as fractures of the limbs are especially frequent). The risk of serious injury (fracture of the skull, neck, spine, skull fractures and brain damage, nerve and spinal cord damage) is three times higher with ADHD.
In severe forms of hyperactivity and inattention, some children even develop pedagogical neglect- this is with normal intelligence and loving, attentive parents! Just in order for a child to sit down to listen to a book, learn colors, begin to understand letters and numbers, he must concentrate. But he cannot do this under normal conditions, and it’s also good if parents or teachers can come up with methods to capture his unstable attention and use the few minutes that they have to the maximum.
Common in ADHD problems with social skills: children understand the rules of behavior with peers worse, jokes, it is more difficult to understand gestures and facial expressions, they react too impulsively, they are too impatient, they do not follow the queue, they like to command not on business. Sooner or later, many of these children find themselves without friends, and this already prevents them from living personally, and not adults at all.
Inattention, randomness, disorganization also create problems for them: it is very difficult to study, it is impossible to cope with such simple things as maintaining a minimum order in one's things and affairs without outside help. Even harder - when these features lead to conflicts with others. By themselves, the manifestations of ADHD are not as severe as their consequence - social maladaptation.
Many studies show that the social cost of ADHD if a child does not get help in time is very high. In most grown children, the disorder persists into adulthood.(Researcher Russell Barkley believes that only 20-35% of adults "outgrow" their ADHD in reality.)
Many children with ADHD develop more serious problems (antisocial behavior, learning disorders, low self-esteem, depression), and in 5-10% of cases more severe diagnoses (bipolar affective disorder, antisocial conduct disorder).
10-25% abuse alcohol and psychoactive substances. 25-36% do not finish school. People with ADHD have difficulty adjusting to new jobs, and the jobs they find often do not match their level of education and qualifications. They change jobs more often, usually because they are bored or because of conflicts. They have more problems in relationships with friends and lovers, a higher level of family conflicts and divorces. Higher levels of traffic violations, more accidents - and these accidents are more serious.
Some radical parents demand that society adapt itself to children. Ideally, of course, the movement should be two-way. But if society does not move towards the child, it is necessary not only to work on changing society, but also to help the child survive in the society that exists.
In the middle of the 2000s, the concept of "Indigo Children", which is set out in the book of the same name by Americans Jen Tober and Lee Carroll, became widespread among parents of difficult children. Its supporters are convinced that children with ADHD are in fact a new stage in the development of mankind: children are especially gifted, brilliant, they are simply bored at school, and they need a different, non-repressive pedagogy.
This concept is entirely religious, esoteric, adjoining the ideas of the New Age occult movement (New Era). To accept it on faith or not is a matter of personal worldview. The scientific value of the concept is zero; the main ideas are mainly of religious interest.
The history of the emergence of "Indigo children" is something like this: Lee Carroll, a businessman selling radio equipment, in 1989, according to him, came into contact with an alien entity called Krion. Krion began to dictate messages to him. Then Carroll's followers, who call themselves "lightworkers," began to gather for dictation sessions. Krion dictated to Carroll a lot of various information on the salvation of mankind, including mentioning that shifts are expected in human DNA, and humanity will evolve further. Indigo children, according to the beliefs of "light workers", are the next link in human evolution: the book says that their DNA is arranged differently (which is completely absurd from the point of view of genetics).
The book announced that a new generation of children had come into the world. Now 90% of them are born (that is, 10% remain standard). Indigo they are named because the clairvoyant Nancy Ann Tepp saw a bright blue color (indigo) in their aura. For some, this is already enough to put the book aside forever - usually these are people with rational, scientific thinking.
But if a person loves the unusual, occult, esoteric and at the same time has an inattentive hyperactive child, the book sinks deep into his soul. It specifically points out that often wise souls are misdiagnosed with ADHD and treated instead of educated as kings, gods, and geniuses should be raised. As one mother of a child with ADHD told me, "I would rather consider his actions a manifestation of genius than the antics of an idiot."
The book "Indigo Children" contains the idea that children do not need to be brought up, they already know and understand everything; they just need to be directed. For confused parents who find themselves in difficult educational situations, this sounds like a message about salvation: you don’t have to invent anything, you need to trust the child, he knows everything.
But in the end, this turns into shifting the choice and responsibility for the choice to the child, who is not yet ready to make it. So the authors had to make an amendment - set boundaries, do not allow permissiveness. Someone himself has known this old law of pedagogy for a long time, but someone, in order for simple thoughts to penetrate into consciousness, needs news from outer space, aura vision and the promise of a ready-made genius at the exit.
The sound idea of the concept is that a child is a unique individual, talented and deserving of respect; the child has great potential that needs to be developed; treating a child as "sick", "defective" can ruin a lot.
Does your child have trouble sitting still or paying attention? You may have been told that ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) could be the cause. This article will help you understand what ADHD is and how to help your child.
Why ADHD is a problem
It is difficult for a child with ADHD to stay focused for a long time ( attention deficit). In addition, it may be difficult for him to control his urges ( hyperactivity). A child who has one or both of these problems struggles with them daily and tries to behave well. There is no one's fault in ADHD. But left alone, ADHD can lower his self-esteem and limit his success.
How can you help
You want your child to be happy and healthy. In your 
power to contribute to this. Work with your child's doctor and other professionals. With appropriate assistance, the child will be able to better control himself. (For example, pediatrician + child psychologist http://www.indigo-papa.ru/).
Each person with ADHD has a different set of symptoms. In most cases, some of the characteristic symptoms of ADHD occur before age 7. Most of the symptoms associated with ADHD occur in a variety of settings, such as at home and at school.
Which of the following describes your child?
The following is a partial list of symptoms that are specific to ADHD. Your child may have signs from one or both groups.
attention deficit
- Can't stay focused for long periods of time
- Has difficulty following tasks consistently
- Easily distracted
- Difficulty switching to other activities
- Disorganized or losing things
- Forgetful
Hyperactivity/Impulsivity
- It is difficult for him to control his urges; talkative, interrupts others, or has difficulty waiting his turn
- Easily upset or irritated
- Constantly in motion (sometimes aimless)
- Doesn't learn from his mistakes
New Features Registered in Recent Years
- "The phenomenon of a broken mirror" the child writes letters mirrored upside down
- "The phenomenon of slipping eyes" - the loss of the line. Lost reading comprehension.
Brief interruptions of attention. The child is not here. Gaps in the perception of the lesson. "I do not remember".
Remember your child's strengths
It is difficult to raise children with ADHD. That is why it is so easy to overlook their good qualities. What is special about your child? Do your best to appreciate and support his unique abilities, strengths and interests.
The brain controls the body, thoughts and feelings. It does this with the help of neurotransmitters. These chemicals help the brain send and receive signals. In ADHD, the levels of these substances often fluctuate. This causes ADHD symptoms to come and go.
When signals are not received
With ADHD, certain parts of the brain may be deficient in certain chemicals. Therefore, some signals are not transmitted by nerve cells. Signals that "tell" a person to control behavior or pay attention do not go through. As a result, symptoms characteristic of ADHD may appear.
With low levels of chemicals in the brain, signals cannot travel the distance between nerve cells.
With normal levels of chemicals in the brain, signals can travel the distance between nerve cells.
Impact on brain function
Each part of the brain controls certain behavioral and thought processes. It is believed that ADHD affects more than one area of the brain. Depending on which part of the brain is affected, the child may show more signs of attention deficit or hyperactivity disorder.
Color-stained areas of the brain may be affected by ADHD.
Any child can experience depression, fears, or learning difficulties. These problems may accompany ADHD or exist on their own. Only a thorough examination can determine their true cause.
Depression
A child with depression is sad most of the time. He may have low self-esteem and may show little interest in life. The child may eat or sleep more or less than before. He can shut himself off from the whole world. As a rule, if a child has depression, then one of the lines of ancestors (mom-dad, grandparents, uncles-aunts) has or had severe depression. Here is what is written about depression in the Bible http://www.indigo-papa.ru/depressiya_bible
fears
It is normal if the child is afraid of something. But excessive fear can make a child fearful and vulnerable. He may be haunted by disturbing thoughts. He may be restless, too active or withdrawn.
The child's depression and fears may be related to ADHD or may be due to other causes.
Learning problems
A child with learning problems cannot fully process certain types of information. Some people don't understand what they see. Others are what they hear. For example, even if the teacher gives clear verbal instructions, this message does not register in the child's brain. As a result, the child may have difficulty learning one or more school subjects.
There are many methods used to diagnose ADHD. Parents and teachers describe the behavior of the child. Health workers and educators may also observe the child. This process can help rule out other problems.
Adults describe the child
Specialists examine the child
A specialist can check your child's attention. He may also observe your child in class. ADHD seems to run in families. Tell your doctor if another family member shows signs of ADHD. The doctor will get all the information. If ADHD is diagnosed, treatment may be indicated.
Although ADHD is not completely curable, it can be treated. The goal is to help the child realize their potential. Treatment may combine educational, pharmacological, and behavioral therapies. Each type of treatment is selected individually.
Education
Your child and the people they spend time with need to know about ADHD. It is desirable that your child's school environment be adapted to it. These activities can help your child learn better and improve their social skills.
Medical treatment
Medications often help manage the levels of chemicals in the brain of a child with ADHD. Some medications help such a child stay focused. As a result, it is easier for the child to learn. It also contributes to the success of behavioral correction.
Behavioral correction
Behavioral intervention helps the child act on what he knows instead of responding to the impulse he feels. Over time, the child can develop good skills and improve behavior.
Before you can help your child, you must understand what ADHD is. Although ADHD is not an educational problem, it can interfere with learning. With the right help, your child will find it easier to learn both at school and at home.
Exploring ADHD
One of the best ways to help your child is to learn about ADHD. You can start by believing that your child is not lazy or stupid. Once you understand the special needs caused by your child's ADHD, share your knowledge with others. Some people may resist the diagnosis or deny the problem. Even so, let them know how they can help your child.
Studying with ADHD
With rare exceptions, the mental abilities of a child with ADHD are not impaired. To make learning easier for him, work with his teacher. Remember, federal law affirms your child's right to get the help they need.
What can parents do
Here are some ways you can help your child:
Be informed. Read about ADHD. Join a local support group for parents of ADHD children.
Reassure your child that ADHD is not their fault.
Make sure your child has a teacher who can help him. Keep in touch with him.
Create a neat and quiet workplace for your child at home.
What can a teacher do
Here are some tips for teachers:
Find the best way to teach your child. Use a tape recorder, computers, or games if they help you learn.
Encourage your child to do things they love. Offer him special projects to increase his self-esteem.
What can a child do
Tell your parents and teachers when you need their help.
Designate a place at home and at school to store your textbooks, folders and projects.
Make a list of your tasks with due dates. You can also mark dates on the calendar.
If it helps, take short breaks between homework assignments. Use a timer to remind you when to finish your break and get back to your homework.
In many cases, drug treatment is part of the child's treatment plan. Medications provide a steady supply of chemicals needed to send and receive signals in the brain.
Signaling
Some stimulants act on certain areas of the brain so that they send out stronger signals. With stronger signals, the child has better control over his attention and activities. Stimulants act quickly for several hours.
Receiving Signals
Some antidepressants help the brain receive signals better. These medicines are used to treat depression and inattention and are taken daily.
For your information
It may take time to find the best medicine for your child. The dose and time of administration should also be verified. In some cases, you need to check if your child has any side effects. If the medicine does not help, consider re-examining the child.
What can parents do
If your child is prescribed medication, you will need to:
Know about the medicines your child is taking. Ask what results to expect and how soon they might appear.
Talk to your doctor about any side effects.
Get a second opinion if you have questions about your child's treatment.
Follow your doctor's instructions for taking your medications.
Watch for positive changes in your child at home and at school. Watch for any side effects. Tell your doctor about anything you notice.
What can a child do
Here are some tips for a child:
How do you feel after taking the medicine? Tell your parents and doctor about your feelings.
Your medicine is a pill. If you can't swallow a whole pill, ask your parents how to make it easier for you to take your medicine.
Know when you need to take your pill. Remind your parents about this.
If someone teases you about taking medicine, tell your parents or teacher. They can help you with what to say to this person.
A child with ADHD often misbehaves and does not pay attention to others. But you can show your child other ways to react to what is happening. This process takes time and practice. This is where a psychologist can help.
Self-control skills
Consolidation of success
Children with ADHD do not learn well from past events. Positive feedback helps reinforce positive behavior. Praise your child for a job well done. This will help him remember this behavior for a long time. Celebrate each success with a sticker in the rewards table.
What can parents do
Here are some ways you can help:
Teach your child self-control skills after he has taken the medicine. At this time, training is likely to be more successful.
Praise your child for success. Smile at him, give him a hug, give him a positive remark, or give him a small reward.
Set clear rules. Explain what the child will lose if they do not follow these rules. Stick to this policy to the end.
Try to stick to the routine. Prepare your child for any change in this order.
Help your child stay focused. For example, avoid crowded noisy places if they piss your child off. Also, limit your choices.
What can a child do
Here are some tips for a child:
Try new ways of reacting to people and places that piss you off. When you're upset, you can talk, draw, write, throw a ball, or be alone for a while.
Do this: stop, think, do, and then think again if you did the right thing.
Caring for a child with ADHD can create relationship problems between households. It should not be. Each family member can help build strong relationships. That way everyone will be better off.
What can you feel
If you have a child with ADHD, you may feel guilty, anxious, and tired. Try to relax more and do what gives you pleasure. Seek support from family and friends.
You and your spouse
It's easy to blame each other. You may disagree about the child's diagnosis, treatment, or discipline. Finding solutions isn't easy, but try to talk daily. This is the time to rebuild your relationship.
Raising other children
You probably give a lot of time and attention to a child with ADHD. As a result, other children may feel left out. Make every effort to spend time with your other children. Perhaps you will see that such moments not only do not waste your strength, but, on the contrary, replenish them.
What can parents do
Try the following to take care of yourself and your family:
For you personally: Relax and replenish your strength. Free up some time for yourself by finding a babysitter who understands ADHD. Ask a counselor or your support group to recommend people who can look after your child.
For your marriage: Try to respect other opinions. Also, spend time together. Talk not only about ADHD and your child, but also on other topics.
For other children: Take care of them. Ask about their favorite activities, desires and fears. Let them know that you love them. Help them build a relationship with a child with ADHD.
Encourage everyone to try to act as a member of the whole - the family.
Professional counseling can help you manage your mental health. They will help strengthen your marriage and resolve family conflicts.
There is a future perspective
As your child gets older, their ADHD symptoms will likely change. But over time and with the right help, your child can learn to manage their features. There are many happy and successful adults with ADHD.
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Translation: ADHD Mom
Who is this child who gives everyone so much trouble? He is in constant motion, distracting other students and does not participate, like everyone else, in any school event. When he appears in the classroom, he breaks the whole learning process. One such child is enough, and the work of a teacher turns into a continuous struggle.
Such children are called hyperactive and treat this definition as a medical diagnosis. There is only one cardinal way out of this situation today - to suppress the child's activity with a sedative.
Anyone who decides to prescribe Ritalin or another similar medicine to a child, thereby admits not only to a misunderstanding of the situation, but also to their complete indifference, unwillingness to understand and help the little person. The medicine helps only teachers and school administration, calming the restless student, it makes him quiet and indifferent, but does not solve the problems of the child himself.
Forcing a child to take tranquilizers, driving the problem inside, we simply turn him off from life, preventing the processes taking place in him from developing and ending in their natural way. We hinder its development, and this will definitely manifest itself later in a predisposition to drugs, mental illness, problems in the sexual sphere.
There have always been quiet kids and restless kids in every class, but hyperactivity is something else. This is some unconscious internal restlessness, which the body tries to drown out with constant physical movement. Therefore, it is difficult for the child to maintain attention, he cannot concentrate on the speech addressed to him, and it seems that he ignores our words and remarks. He is impatient and finds it difficult to see things through to the end. He often refuses to complete tasks and participate in common activities, not because he does not like them, but because they require patience and attention, which he is not capable of.
Any person can remember being in a state of anxiety and understand that he would have behaved the same way. He would rush from corner to corner, could not concentrate on anything, would be absent-minded, inattentive to the words addressed to him, and would always return in thought to the subject of his concern. Only the anxiety and discomfort of a hyperactive child does not have a clear reason that is understandable to him and those around him.
An adult can also be hyperactive, but it is easier for him to find an occupation suitable for his properties. It can be a profession that requires physical activity, quick switching of attention and the ability to make unexpected decisions. It can be extreme sports or even a frequent change of sexual partners.
If you think about it, our entire civilization today is hyperactive. For thousands of years, people lived a very leisurely life, adopted the profession and lifestyle of their parents, married the daughter of a neighbor and died in the same village as they were born. Today, people easily change their place of residence, profession and family. Today I have to go somewhere a couple of times a year, and the further the better, - someone who has not traveled somewhere to Africa, to India or the Far East, simply has nothing to talk about with him.
Today, our lives are changing very quickly, and the gap between generations is growing. Our children are different. They grow up quickly, have a different outlook on life, different desires and abilities than we do. They have other problems. They lose interest in everything and do not find something to fill themselves with, despite all the huge amount of entertainment that they have compared to previous generations. They appear to be more self-centered, have difficulty understanding others, and have difficulty communicating.
This is how the evolution of mankind manifests itself, this is how nature works, and not recognizing this, trying to fight its laws, is a vain attempt. If you force a child to be like everyone else, then this will cause protest and conflict, but if you direct his energy in the right direction, this will give him additional opportunities in life. These children have a lot of energy, they can do many things at the same time and get more done during the day. There are professions in which it is hyperactivity that becomes the key to success.
We must help children understand themselves and in no case blame them for something that does not depend on them. They should be explained what is happening to them, why they are so "explosive" and how their hyperactivity looks from the outside - so that they, in turn, do not accuse others of misunderstanding and close themselves off from them.
A hyperactive child, as a rule, is more developed - he comprehends the world around him more actively than ordinary children. He can achieve more in life than others, but he needs to learn how to control his qualities. He is like an ugly duckling that can become a beautiful swan if we do not clip his wings.
With the development of science, medical and pharmaceutical business, some conditions that were previously considered “a feature within the normal range” are becoming curable or at least correctable diseases. That disease is ADHD.
Excessive fussiness of the child, the inability to concentrate on the task and the tendency to rather aimless superficial communications have always alarmed parents. The reason is simple - these features negatively affect social adaptation, hinder effective learning, and are not very pleasant in everyday life.
At the beginning of the 20th century, physicians began to pay close attention to such behavior of children. There was every reason to believe that such behavior is not always due to bad upbringing and promiscuity of the child, sometimes it has chemical and biological causes. The first such point of view was expressed in 1902 by the English physician J. Frederick Still.
Conducted throughout the 20th century, medical research gave reason to include Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (it is he who is hidden behind the repeatedly mentioned abbreviation) in the list of mental disorders (DSM-I).
Due to the fact that perseverance, discipline and obedience among children is not such a frequent occurrence, many caring parents, having read about ADHD, rushed to the doctors and ...... a generous distribution of this diagnosis "right and left" began. Not all doctors have enough time, conscientiousness and qualifications to check for other reasons for such behavior (the notorious wrong upbringing, the temperament of the child). In our time of continuous information flows from all sides, in which an adult, not to mention a child, sometimes drowns, problems with concentration can manifest themselves without ADHD, they can simply be the result of information overload and a lack of self-discipline skills.
There are no special discussions about the symptoms of ADHD, the disorder manifests itself in:
The behavior of the child described above may become a cause for concern no earlier than his 3-4 years.
At the same time, individual manifestations of these symptoms do not always mean the presence of a disorder in a child. To make a diagnosis, it is necessary that such behavior be "chronic", pronounced and not be due to the conditions of the child's existence. It is optimal if, in parallel with doctors and biochemical research, there will be work with a competent child psychologist.
The disorder in question is often accompanied by other problems: tics, phobias, systematic headaches. In such situations, it is impossible to neglect qualified medical care in any case.
Frequent confusion with the diagnosis is also due to the fact that modern research has made it possible to distinguish two forms of the disorder:
1) ADHD-N, where the existing symptoms are associated precisely with attention deficit, and hyperactivity is not pronounced. Children affected by this disorder are inhibited, apathetic, and there is no question of constant excessive motor activity.
2) Combined form with classic "manifestations - a combination of attention deficit and often aimless excessive motor activity.
The simplest explanation of ADHD as a disorder can be given using the "4 deficiency theory", that is, this condition is due to:
The disease is a consequence of biological characteristics - in some parts of the child's brain there is a deficiency of dopamine and norepinephrine. The intensity of the manifestations of the disorder depends on the severity of the relevant features, in most cases it is correctable.
Among the reasons, one can single out a genetic predisposition (the disorder is often inherited, observed in several children from the same family at the same time). This issue is not debatable.
There is also evidence of a possible relationship between the development of ADHD and perinatal trauma and trauma and infections suffered at an early age.
If the diagnosis of ADHD is confirmed in your child, treatment should be left in the hands of specialists. The simultaneous presence of drug therapy and psychological correction is considered optimal. Back in the 80s. of the last century, a well-established method of transcranial micropolarization was developed in the Russian Federation.
Physicians and psychologists do not hide the fact that in case of problems in the behavior of children with such a disorder, the correction of the behavior of their parents is essential.
In everyday life, parents of children with ADHD can be given the following recommendations:
The positive model means:
It is important to eliminate distractions as much as possible from the child's attention zone (thoughtful environment), as well as to plan things and activities correctly, involving the child as much as possible. Teaching children with ADHD planning and self-discipline is a time-consuming process, but an essential one. It is highly desirable that in the daily routine there is time not only for planning, but also for calm games, as well as water procedures.
In adults, ADHD does not appear out of nowhere, it is possible only if, in the presence of symptoms, it was not diagnosed in childhood, therefore, treatment and development of life skills with this disorder were not carried out. Treatment or correction (if not very severe) does not differ much from ADHD detected in childhood, but an adult will have to deal with this on their own.
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Where did it come from? It came from our Ancestors, i.e. after the body was cremated on Kroda, the body was burned, and the ashes were collected in a domino, in a house, but now it is called an urn where the ashes are placed. The bones, if left, then they are also in dust, and the remaining ashes scattered over the fields of this Family. Therefore, they said that this land would be defended to the last drop of blood, because it was watered with sweat, blood and ashes (ashes) of Ancestors. Next, they made an urn. As a rule, our Ancestors set up a table, and all relatives had to be present at the funeral, from all Clans and tribes that were related, and each threw a handful. And just imagine, a table, a platform is full on it, there are four pillars on the platform, an urn is placed there, or a domino, a firelight is lit nearby, and things are laid out. Now I'm not talking about a log house, I'm talking about a pure barrow with ashes. If this is a warrior, then this is a sword, and everything that he needs for the next life - everything was tied to a pole with ribbons, or simply folded. Further. A cover was put on these four pillars. And on top - a white board, it descended below the foot of this square, on which the domino stands. He closed. And what did all the relatives do? They took a handful of earth and threw it, and a mound was obtained, which completely hid all the utensils, and everything that was donated. As a rule, a memorial stone was placed next to the mound, or at the top. But these mounds were made on the churchyard, and Kummir Rod was not far away. And the skull, in the same place the bone is denser, which remained after cremation, was laid next to other skulls near this mound. A fire burned there, and trebs and gifts were brought into the fire. And nearby, if it was a warrior, a lists and a trizna were arranged. Those. warriors showed in fights, as it were, past battles in which he participated, i.e. The gods were shown how he defeated his enemies. Those. one could say that it was a type of theatrical performance. And at the same time his sons, children, and from other neighboring communities participated. Then tables were set there and the deceased was commemorated, saying only good things about him. If a boat was made, then everything necessary was placed on the boat, which was considered necessary for him in his next life. And in ancient times it was still that the boat was included, for example, he raised all the children, all his children had families, and his wife entered this boat and stayed with her husband. But when the boat set off down the river, there were archers with lit arrows, with which they set fire to this boat, and she, as it were, with her husband set off on this fiery boat to Svarga. If he had small children, then the wife had to stay with the children. But at will, for example, it was such that he was married, but someone likes him, then any woman or girl could go instead of his wife to the boat so that the deceased would not be bored waiting, but it was all voluntary, and thus go to the upper world as an accompaniment. But after the Hindus saw these rites, but life does not end, especially the woman was prepared and given a special drink, and for her all this happened painlessly. And among the Hindus, who used to hide their dead in stone caves, i.e. they walled up the bodies, and when they saw how among the Aryans the women themselves ascended to the funeral pyre or to the boat, they introduced this in order to become like the white gods-creators. Those. in this form: The husband died, and the wife is obliged to go to the funeral pyre. Christians brought the burial rite to our lands, but we did not have this burial, but only cremation, because it was said in the commandments that it was impossible to defile the land of the Ancestors with your decay. Because cadaveric decomposition, cadaveric poison, it destroys the earth. And there were, as a rule, few relatives at the burial, because Christians were against people remembering the entire genealogy of the Ancestors. Those. father and mother, well, even grandfather and grandmother, they still allowed to remember, but the rest, it seems, as if they were not necessary - everything is still before God. And there are already servants with shovels, but at the same time, SHOVELS, WHEN THEY ARE BURIED IN THE CEMETERY, SHOULD NOT BE TRANSFERRED FROM HAND TO HAND, i.e. a man is digging a grave, he is tired, he must stick a shovel into the ground and move away. And the other one comes up, takes it and continues to dig in. What happens to the Soul itself? On the ninth day, the silver thread of the connection between the Soul and the body is interrupted, and the Soul rises and describes the eight around the Earth and the Moon (Fig. 41), and here at point “A”, as an atmospheric order, I mean, the layers of the atmosphere, they are perceived in the form of a man, like a river separating two worlds. Catholics call this ball “A” Purgatory, our Ancestors call it the City of Light or the Solar City, some call it the invisible echo of the Earth, or Planet number seven, i.e. different nations have different ways. And so the Soul gets here in "A" and stays there, receiving answers to all its questions that were of interest during its lifetime, and stays there for up to 40 days. But forty days 40 is a month for us, for us living on Earth. And there time can pass like one day, and like a thousand years. Those. there is a little different time. For us, it's been a month. And after a month of 40 days has passed, after a person has received answers to all his questions, where he goes through three trials. The first is the Court of Conscience, when a person is judged by his own Conscience, i.e. he himself judges a person, he himself will be the defendant, and the prosecutor, and the lawyer, and the judge, but this court is called the most terrible court. Why? Because no one will judge you more terrible and stricter than you, and you yourself will never be able to deceive yourself, because only you know how it really was, and that it was exactly like this, and not otherwise. The second court is the Court of the Ancestors, I didn’t say in vain that the Soul meets relatives, it is met by the Ancestors. And a person gives an answer to the Ancestors, holds an answer to the Ancestors, and they ask him: We gave birth to you, and what did you do for the prosperity of our Family, what did you achieve in your creation, what level of soulfulness, spirituality did you rise to? Those. what have you achieved? And when the person answers: I did what you commanded, I did this and that. Then they take him and carry him here - to the next world (Fig. 41), again to a new land, but there already, if he goes to a harmonious world, then this is a world of 16 dimensions, the so-called World of Legov, where a person continues life develops, and then - Mir Arlegov, etc. And if the Ancestors ask him: But why didn’t you do this and that? And he replies: And I died in battle. Those. protecting Rod. In this case, if he has a little left to do there, then they can immediately take him to the new Earth, to the next World, more multidimensional. But if there is still a lot to be done, then the Goddess Karna comes into force. And she allows him to return to Earth again, and then we observe the phenomenon of reincarnation. There is another option - the husband of Karna, God Varuna, who enables the deceased person to return and complete what he did not have time to complete. In one case, God Varuna sends his helper to bring back, so we even have Varuna's Raven Day holiday. Varun returns the Soul, and then the person is said to have returned from a state of coma, i.e. out of a coma or a lethargic sleep, and he goes on with his life, but he has, as it were, changed. By the way, on the basis of this ancient legend that God Varuna sends the Raven, the film "The Raven" was filmed, however, in English, when the hero returns to bring everything in line, punish the guilty, etc., but everything is a little exaggerated there . Remember the favorite song of Vasily Ivanovich Chapaev: “Black Raven, why are you hovering over my head? You will not achieve prey. Black crow I'm not yours "i.e. even in these songs there is a legend, a tradition that Varuna and Karna send a Raven. And notice, in all fairy tales - the raven is a prophetic bird, it gives the Souls an opportunity, what? Return to Earth again and incarnate. But not just Souls, because. Raven, he is an assistant to Varuna, and Raven, like a wise bird, prophesying, at will, helped another God, who brought warriors - warriors back to life. And this God was called - Odin. But note that the Soul will fall into the World of Glory, into the 16-dimensional World. But on the way from the City of Light to the World of Glory there is one more intermediate link, there is, as it were, an invisible orbit that preserves the Midgard system of the Earth. And the invisible Earth, as it were, revolves around it, i.e. it is in a different dimension. And there on this Earth another God reigns, his name is Volkh. And on this invisible Earth, there is the abode of warriors, the so-called Guard Watchtower, which is called Volkhala. But many people mispronounce: Volgala. Volkhala. Khol is like a hall, and Volkh is the son of the Mother of the Raw Earth. Here she is - Mother Earth Cheese, i.e. as if the Heavenly Host, which guards the Earth. But it protects it not in our four dimensions, but in others, so that from there, through those dimensions, the dark forces could not penetrate the Earth. For Catholics, this is the "A" system - Sunny City. It is Purgatory, where judgment takes place, as Catholics say, from where a person goes further to the Abode of God, as they call the World of Glory, or he goes from "A" to the Galactic East, or he goes to hell, or even down (Fig. 41), i.e. from "A" you can go to several varieties of hell. Some say that everyone has their own hell. Our Ancestors, as well as the Scandinavians, called the Lower World Hal. In the English language, it remains like hell - the underworld. Therefore, a halizer is like hellraisers, hellins, i.e. come from hell. But notice, after all, getting here to Hal, or to Gades, to hell, it’s not in vain that they say: Nine circles of hell, there are nine plans, they don’t get there forever, but they are given the opportunity to realize, work out and rise, and again on higher level. But you can slide even lower, but still no one forbids you to correct yourself and return to "A" - the Sunny City, in order to go to the World of Glory later. And from here, from the World of Glory, the Soul enters the Rule, and there it continues to develop. And the information that this Soul has accumulated, it again comes to the Goddess Jiva. And already this new information will fall into the matrix for the new Soul. And they are already coming into the world, into an already more developed system, and already prepared, more developed. Because knowledge from all living beings of the Light World and partial information from those who have risen from the Dark World, about the inhabitants of the Dark World. But since partial information, it means that it is not complete. Those. there is information about the higher forms, but either not or not enough about the lower ones. Therefore, our Ancestors - Slavs and Aryans, they never personified evil, and, as it were, they did not talk about it. Even what they are trying to write Chernobog to Satan, there are clerks of Belobog and Chernobog. Chernobog, in order not to follow the path of spiritual development, he wanted to gain knowledge of a higher world, and for this, what did he do? He opened the knowledge of his world to the worlds below, so that, according to the law of correspondence, the Upper worlds were opened, and he received knowledge. And Belobog covered this case, especially since the dark ones came to the call of Chernobog. This is described in the Charati of Light. Therefore, the knowledge from the Higher world also penetrated into the lower ones. But there, Spiritual knowledge was, as it were, ignored, and mainly technological knowledge, or technocratic systems, were mastered. And a person, ascending to the Rule, goes to the Jiva, and through it, rising through the levels of the Rule, a person, sooner or later, can reach the state of Ramha Awareness. What is Ramha? This may take billions of Earth years. Many people ask: So what? Is this the end of the process? No. Remember the Book of Light: Before the birth of everything, there was only one Great Ramha. Those. he was, not incarnate. He manifested himself into a new reality and ... into a new boundless infinity, he lit up with the light of joy. It means that if it manifested itself into a new reality, it means that somewhere there is an old reality. Those. realizing the state of Ramha, one can penetrate into the old reality and develop further there. Those. this tells us once again that life in all its diversity is endless. In addition, in these harmonious Mirahs of Glory - 16-dimensional, 256-dimensional, 56536, etc., the opportunity is given, if a person on Midgard - Earth has started some business, then who will forbid him to descend again to the lower world, and come here as a wanderer, a mentor? Those. he still has descendants, and so that the Family does not die, especially the Family, they multiply, he can come into this world, but, being in a four-dimensional system, remaining multidimensional, he broadcasts, and many do not understand, therefore he broadcasts on images, parables. And such people were called Prophets, Saints, Prophets, Messengers of God, i.e. Jesus, Krishna incarnated, etc. Ie. they could already in their own, since the 16-dimensional World, the World of Legov, and they are perceived as angels descended from heaven. Those. they are in a different form. When a person comes to the World of Glory, there God is the Patron of the Family. Remember, part 1 of the zone of the matrix was given by Jiva, and part of zone 2 was given by the Patron of the Family. And he manifests himself here, in the World of Glory, and asks: I sent you for what? I showed you the goal in life, your path? What did you do for this? The third judgment is the judgment of the patron God. Those. whether you are fit to be a creator or not. Do not forget, we do not just come here to fulfill someone's will, Jiva, or God - the Patron, or our Ancestors - Heavenly Parents. We come into this world to become Creators - Creators. Each of you, being a small child, imagined the World more beautiful than the present one. There was no evil, there was no violence. When you were growing up and getting older, young men and women already had, let's say, allied associations, i.e. prototypes of creating a family, and imagined: How would I live in a family with this or that girl, or with this or that guy? But all this was imagined as if you were on a desert island, where there is no evil, violence, etc. What was created in the prototypes, the thought tends to materialize. And you, starting from your childhood, have already begun to create your own Universe. And moving along the path from the Solar City to the World of Glory, you still think that in this case I would have acted or done so, i.e. thus, you work out for yourself the laws of creation, the laws of life, i.e. how would you act in this situation. Those. not only do you create, create, you also establish the laws of the Universe, which are acceptable for your life system, which you invented earlier. Moving from the World of Glory to the World of Rule, we are all learning to create in a multidimensional world, each time adding something, something and something, and plus, since this is a harmonious, bright and pure World, then what is present? Kindness understanding, mutual assistance, love, we become what? We all become full-fledged Gods and Goddesses - creators, who at first represent a cozy corner, then this is an island, then this is a city, then this is a country, then this is the Earth, then this is the Universe. And each of us creates his own Universe, and the universes, like cabbage leaves, are layered, projections, and the Worlds get bigger every time. And a person reaches Glory, and then goes to the Rule, where he already works and creates, creates his own Universe - that harmonious world that he creates for himself.
