We call a situation hopeless if we don't like the way out.
There are no hopeless situations extra people, chance encounters and wasted time.
There are no people with whom it would always be easy to live. But there are those with whom you want to overcome difficulties.
I've had a lot of troubles in my life, most of which never happened.
There are such messages after which the heart beats faster and the hands tremble on the keyboard.
Clever man will find a way out of any difficult situation. The wise man will not find himself in this position.
Not only tea, gloves, and a blanket are warm. Everything can be warm - conversations, looks, letters, people. This is that special feeling that gives us strength: to live, believe, dream, love.
There are such dreams, after which, when you wake up, you lie for a long time with your eyes closed, hoping to hold on to these moments.
It doesn’t matter how many friends you have, What matters is whether they will help you in a difficult situation!
There are people with souls as deep as the ocean, in whom you want to plunge. And there are people, like puddles, that you have to go around so as not to get dirty.
Where is the way out of a hopeless situation?
A couple of years ago, I heard one phrase from a successful person that changed my outlook on many things. The phrase sounded like this: “There are no hopeless situations, there are unpleasant decisions.” And indeed, if you consider any hopeless situation, you can always find a way out, and not always an unpleasant one. So why do many people constantly find themselves in “no-win” situations?
Each of us has faced the problem of choice. The need for choice is constantly pursued: when shopping, looking for a job, lifestyle, and so on. What is better: to choose or to be in a situation “without choice”.
While understanding this situation, I discovered several main reasons for “hopeless situations.” And almost all of them are subjective in nature, which allows us to draw the following conclusion: a person drives himself into a framework. So, what are the reasons for this behavior:
And yet, despite the situation of hopelessness, we unconsciously make a choice. After all, by refusing to change anything, we choose the current state of affairs or allow life to choose for us. In fact, we choose an option when someone else can choose for us. By staying in a job we don't like, we allow the employer to burden us unpleasant work; not daring to leave our tyrant husband, we allow him to choose us as a victim.
All aspects of life involve choice, although not everyone can admit it. By complaining about hopelessness, we actually put our lives at the disposal of others and chance. By refusing to look for a way out, we allow others to choose for us. And this in turn leads to dissatisfaction and disappointment, because others choose in favor of their interests or according to their life views.
A person wants to be the master of his life, but desire alone is not enough. To keep it under control, sometimes it is enough to simply take part in it, namely, choose those situations and circumstances that are important and of value to you.
Making an optimal decision is not the same as simply making a decision in general. Do you think that it is not enough to simply resolve the problem, but that the situation needs to be resolved in the best possible way? Welcome to the camp of neurotic perfectionists. But seriously, every person from time to time in life comes to realize the concept “ hopeless situations" And you need to gain experience interacting with them.
Two conditions
In fact, even the term itself is highly controversial. What is a no-win situation? This is a state of affairs in which certain actions are required, and they and only they can help change the situation. That is, it is only assumed the right decision and the inability to refuse this decision.
Technology is easier than life
As you can see, there are two conditions. The first condition is met for a huge number of situations in technical systems. That is, in situations where everything is simplified by man (and technical system deliberately made simple), it turns out that the solution is unique and correct. That is, this is the first criterion of a hopeless situation.
Just inaction
But with the second it is more difficult. It is almost never observed - so there are no hopeless situations. So, in almost every situation, you can refuse to act at all. Yes, this will also cost some difficulties, but this is solution option number two. This means that the situation is no longer hopeless.
Backed into a corner?
You might think that if there is only one solution to a problem, then you cannot assign it the characteristic being discussed. But it should be remembered that hopeless situations are called that way not because of the lack of a solution, but because of the lack of freedom in the process of trying to improve the situation. It turns out that assigning status to this state of affairs is a little complicated. That is, a situation with no solutions at all and a situation with the inevitability of action with one solution option are hopeless situations.
Emotions get in the way
However, we must remember that a person’s assessment of a problem is often complicated by negative emotional perception. For example, it has been found that poor people tend to make worse financial decisions when faced with unplanned spending. Negative emotional perception worsened the situation several times. And the intelligence of those making the decision dropped by several dozen points. This is why it is so important to learn to work with emotions in difficult situations.
Subjectivism makes it difficult to understand
It is also necessary to be aware that you may see the situation differently from those around you. And it's quite possible that you don't notice additional features exit. Therefore, if you encounter “hopeless situations” too often, then you should make several friends who can help with analyzing the situation.
A little more psychology
And remember that the course of action begins “in the head.” Therefore, it is not so easy to solve a problem if mentally you have already failed. Of course, this does not mean that you should construct a fairy tale using methods and try to believe in it. Leave this to the gullible lovers of esotericism. But don't give up prematurely. Statistically, in difficult situations, the third or fourth solution often works, provided that the person does not give up. But before that you need to not stop active actions!