Recently, while conducting my own research on the expression of feelings and the consequences of these manifestations, I came to the conclusion that the more we hide our feelings from ourselves and others, the more we plunge into the abyss of indifference.
So much stuff accumulates in us that we turn into robots, without any sincere feelings towards ourselves and our loved ones.
Sincere expression of feelings is the main task and strength of a woman.
Femininity is measured by the sincere palette of feelings that a woman is able to experience and express.
But most often we only try to adjust the external to femininity.
The answer, I think, is obvious here; sincerity begins with the ability to listen to yourself and face the truth about your feelings. Very often people try to deceive themselves, hiding behind benefits or simply not understanding what they really need.
This is how they live their whole lives with people they don’t like, work at a job they don’t like, they can’t just express their grievances, collecting tons of negativity in their souls.
And all this happens because they think that they can’t do this, that they won’t understand. This is how they deceive themselves all their lives and complain that they are unhappy, that everything is not what they want, that life is passing them by.
Having analyzed different types of people and the degree of manifestation of their feelings, be it negative or positive, we can say with confidence that those women who try to be “good” and hide their feelings from everyone are much more unhappy than those who can flare up and express everything accumulated in the soul.
Also, the well-being of the family depends on the degree to which a woman expresses sincere feelings.
When a wife feeds her husband with her feelings and expresses them, even about dirty socks . It doesn't heat up internal situation, which sooner or later will lead to serious consequences.
And the problem of expressing feelings begins in our childhood, when we cannot express our sincere feelings to our parents, we quietly get offended, get angry, instead of saying that we have something similar in our souls.
You can show your feelings in different ways. And many people simply do not understand how to do this correctly. For some reason we are not taught this from childhood.
Some people think that negative feelings always lead to scandals and swearing, so trying to avoid this, they carefully hide these feelings inside.
Well, let's take a closer look at different variants expressions of feelings.
A common situation with mom is that mom is still trying to control you, even though you have grown up and expresses opinions about what you need to eat or dress.
1. We agree with everything, fearing to offend our mother, but protest of this control and resentment accumulate in our souls.
2. We growl something in response, we are also furious inside that they are interfering in your life.
3. We tell mom: “Forgive me mommy, I love you very much, but I… Lately I began to be offended by you that you still consider me a child who is not able to take care of himself, controlling such things. I really don’t want to be offended by you, so please understand me and stop doing this.”
Thus, you express all your feelings and there is no understatement or feelings of guilt in your soul. This releases a huge amount of energy and relationships become more trusting. After all, insincerity creates an invisible wall between people; it is felt subconsciously and, as a result, tension arises.
4. We can simply avoid talking on the phone or visiting people so that we are less monitored.
This is a kind of escape from showing your real feelings.
5. We scream and swear, slam doors.
This is also a manifestation of feelings, but not correct. After this, most often there is a feeling of guilt for speaking so rudely or shouting. They showed one thing, another appeared, something that gnaws from the inside. Relations are heating up.
Using this algorithm, you can break down any situation in communication with anyone and find a more correct option.
In fact, you can correctly express any of your feelings and be sincere. And this will be your truth. There won't be a ton of hidden stones behind you.
Of course, it is possible that someone may misunderstand you or be offended, but this is all temporary.
Sincerity creates a clear path for your development.
And playing hide and seek with your feelings creates tension and a veil in front of your true desires. After all, there is always something inside that you carefully hide, and at the same time, sometimes there is an added feeling of guilt for it.
Good to know
If it turns out that one of your parents is no longer alive, sincere feelings will help you, expressing all grievances and asking for forgiveness for not being a good daughter.
With love to you, Marina Danilova.
Incredible facts
Life consists of feelings and emotions. Sincere emotions are priceless.
Doing something first, we experience special feelings that cannot be expressed in words, hidden or faked.
Observe the real emotions of a person trying something for the first time, especially.
And it’s not even that important what exactly it is: first time touch the snow or see a miracle of technical progress that you had never even heard of before.
Looking at these live touching emotions, it’s impossible not to be touched.
1.Granny and new gadget
Grandma in the photo 84 years old, she never had an iPad, but she wanted to draw so much. This is the first gadget given by the family.
After the required application was installed on the iPad, the grandmother was explained how to use it and left alone with the long-awaited gift.
After some time, the relatives saw first drawing, which was drawn by an elderly woman.
Isn't it touching?..
2. Blind guy and cat
And this blind guy holds a cat in his hands for the first time in his life. He does not see the animal, but this does not make his joy less.
3. Cyclists and snow
A team of cyclists from Rwanda sees real snow for the first time in their lives.
You can't play such emotions. Accustomed to the hot sun and eternal summer, African athletes, like children, rejoice in the snow.
4. The Girl and the Sounds of the World
This deaf girl heard sounds for the first time. Thanks to a special device, the baby was given the opportunity to hear.
Her reaction is simply indescribable.
5. Toddlers and the red-haired boy
Until this moment, these Chinese kids had never seen a man with red hair.
The way the kids reacted makes me smile: each of them wanted to pat the guy’s hair.
6. Baby and fireworks
And this child saw fireworks for the first time. His reaction is amazing.
7. Boy and TV
This photo was taken back in 1948. The boy saw TV in a store window for the first time in my life.
8. Huge baby eyes
And this African baby saw for the first time white man.
9. Children and tablet
Children of one of the African tribes are holding a present in their hands miracle of progress-tablet. Based on their reaction, we can conclude that they are seeing this for the first time.
10. Baby and the rain
And this little girl saw rain for the first time in her life.
11. Old lady and motorcycle
Many years ago, this elderly woman promised that if she lived to see of its century, ride a motorcycle for the first time.
The moment came when she had to fulfill promised. He is the one captured in the photo.
12. Soldier and his child
American Army Soldier saw my daughter for the first time. The reaction is shocking to the core.
13. Girl and ballerina
ABOUT This person smells of emotions and ambitions.
H a person devoid of emotions is like a jug with a hole in the side through which all the life-giving moisture has leaked...
T Just don’t confuse an explosion of emotions with a burst of dope.
WITH Fishing is the most powerful tool. Simple and so often underestimated. They can heal. They can destroy...
I The girl is emotional and that’s why I always apply shoe polish to my eyelashes: it doesn’t flow when you cry….
T antsy - perpendicular expression of horizontal emotions
T oh, like a beast she will howl, she will cry like a child...
B Without emotions we would be just robots. Therefore, do not be shy about your emotions and feelings.
U I beat, killed my emotions... I killed... Now everything is fine... But it’s just kind of boring...
AND We live with emotions - we die from emotions.
G Rusty is the emotion of the strong, for the weak there is depression
L The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories!
E emotions interfere with thinking and make you make mistakes. And mistakes can be irreparable...
-D But where do you get these positive emotions?
-Trust me
AND Women, unlike men, love more, hate more, and miss more.
Their whole life is almost continuous emotions...
WITH ONLY EMOTIONS...AND ALL FOLLOWING
D Usha is a cloud of emotions wrapped in the body.
IN All my emotions on the Internet are deleted with just one click of the mouse.
That would be the case in real life.
E Motions are a great force, they send you further than necessary!
G nev is an attempt to change others in order to feel more secure.
E Motions can help win a battle, but not a war.
E emotions better face and not to express using the keyboard!
I I only swear when I’m overwhelmed with emotion. that is, almost always
IN If a problem arises, turn off your emotions.
T Is it silence, or is it the calm before the storm...
Try it, figure it out...
E If there is something to shout about, they will shout so much that there will be nothing but shouting.
E x... would be keyhole- but there will always be emotions! ...
N and how much easier it would be to live if we had an “Emotions and Feelings” ON/OFF lever somewhere on our back...
L love is chronic emotional trauma
IN the softened soul has too much water, and the excess comes out in the form of tears from the eyes
P Sometimes dark glasses are needed even in winter, so that the mirror of the soul can be hidden and NOT reflected...
IN what comes out of our hearts does not recognize censorship...
E If emotions forced us to act rationally, they would not be emotions.
R Fish cannot live without water. We don't live without emotions.
E emotions are a curtain for the mind.
WITH These days I have the emotional range of a toothpick.
E Motion is a spiritual surge from a wave of news.
I a very emotional, impressionable and vulnerable girl... The main thing is to direct my feelings and emotions in the right direction in time, otherwise I can end up with a fury that sweeps away everything in its path. Then it’s really embarrassing... well, then later, when I’ve already messed things up...
E emotions can talk too. It’s a pity that the mind doesn’t always understand them: either they stun it, or it shuts them up. But this is nothing more than intuition.
M at - universal remedy to express all kinds of emotions!
TO So often we hate those who simply prevent us from doing stupid things...
E If you are able to manage your emotions, chances are you don't have many.
L People like to make mountains out of molehills, but some people manage to make a whole zoo out of a molehill.
M world of feelings - we live by it, we are alive by it.
P Positive emotions are emotions that arise when you put everything into perspective.
L I LOVE driving my husband around in the car... Yelling, swearing, waving his arms... Emotions overflowing! But then she sits at home quietly, THANKING that she left her alive!
P By suppressing the child within you, you put emotions on a chain and thereby become like a shepherd dog.
X Emotions come out. Strong. Deep. So that the soul unfolds. But all that comes out is antics and jumping...
E If you don't control your emotions, then they control you.
M My main problem is that literally everyone knows about my emotions except the recipient.
Sincere feelings are a genuine, natural manifestation of emotions born in a person. The concept of sincerity is based on the word “spark”. A feeling originates as a spark, and immediately manifests itself in the outside world, consistent with the behavior, facial expressions and internal state of a person at the moment of demonstrating a sincere feeling. Sincerity implies:
The phenomenon of sincerity in psychology is studied by social psychologists. Sincerity is formed in childhood. Small child does not yet fully understand what his parents require or want from him, but he unmistakably distinguishes the emotional state of his mother and father. Expression clearly manifests itself through facial expressions, gestures, and voice intonation. The mother scolds the child, speaks in an angry voice, but he sees that the face is not angry, which means she is swearing “insincerely”, in make-believe. A person’s sincerity can be read through non-verbal manifestations:
Sincerity is a character trait, and for people who grew up in a family where any manifestation of feelings was encouraged, it is difficult to restrain themselves emotionally. Such people have a difficult time in society, because sincerity implies the broadcast of both positive and negative emotions. Sincerity is considered a quality of a mature personality, ready to resist ridicule, slander and remain oneself. Sincere feelings will always be in demand because:
Honesty and sincerity are the key to a trusting and successful relationship between a man and a woman. What is sincerity in a relationship, it can be more difficult for the stronger sex to understand whether the beloved is sincere with him or is pretending because of his own selfish goals. Some men, trying to figure this out, go to extremes and begin to watch their girlfriend’s every move. Sincere feelings on the part of the weaker sex are manifested as follows:
Friendship is, first of all, sincerity, as women believe. The concept itself female friendship very energy intensive. Women are vulnerable and emotional creatures and in many aspects they are more like rivals to each other: who is more beautiful, more successful, or who is more popular with men. True, sincere friendship between women is of great value and is a gift that should be cherished. Manifestations of a friend's sincerity:
We cannot imagine life without emotions. Good or bad, inspiring or depressing - they are part of us, although we still don’t know much about them. We have selected 50 quotes from new books and bestsellers. Let them help you paint your emotional background with bright colors or just learn something new.
1. For better or worse, intelligence can be useless if emotions take over.
2. Although emotions have always served us as wise advisers, the new realities offered by the current civilization have formed with such speed that evolution, with its sedate gait, clearly cannot keep up with them.
3. The root of the word “emotion” is the Latin verb moveo, meaning “to move, set in motion,” with the prefix e- (“e-”), which gives an additional meaning to be directed outward: “to move away, to remove.” This means that each emotion awakens the desire to act. The easiest way to see that emotions lead to actions is by observing animals or children.
4. Feelings are necessary for thinking, and thinking is necessary for feelings. But if passions rage, the balance is disrupted. This means that the emotional mind has taken over and suppressed the rational one.
5. Our emotions have a mind that holds its own views completely independently of our diet.
6. The main “switch” for painful emotions is the left prefrontal lobe. The right prefrontal lobes house negative feelings like fear and aggression, while the left lobes control these raw emotions, likely inhibiting the right lobe.
7. Empathy, another ability that relies on emotional self-awareness, is a fundamental “human gift.” People really pick up on the feelings behind the words.
8. If no changes have happened to you for some time, you have a false feeling that everything is stable and you are in control. But control can only be in one area: yourself, your emotions, confidence and development.
9. Life is time. This is what you do, how you feel, with whom you spend your hours and days, what interesting things you do. And it is within your power to start doing this now. Without delay.
10. If the movement has not started, the person freezes in the “emotional trampling” mode and spends his battery on throwing. And in this mode, she quickly “sits down”
11. Learn not to get driven, not to freak out and not to fall into emotional collapse, even in uncertainty or under the pressure of circumstances. “No money, no work, what tomorrow? A-a-a-a!”
12. When wondering whether to meet with friends in the evening and have fun from the heart or stay at home and sort out the accumulated mail, choose the first! The positive emotions from the meeting will make you much more creative and productive in the days that follow.
13. Happiness arises through the gradual “cultivation” of positive emotions. Likewise, negative experiences create a downward emotional spiral. For example, to a frustrated person, the workday seems endless and the traffic seems terrible.
15. Listening to your body and making choices in its favor every time, you receive a powerful emotional charge.
16. Sometimes excessive consumption of a particular food is caused not by physical, but by emotional hunger. Your brain remembers, “When I’m sad, I eat chocolate and peanut butter.” The trick is to separate food from satisfying a specific emotion.
17. Dreams are also closely related to our emotional state. When we experience negativity in our dreams, we often wake up with a more positive attitude and clearer thoughts. Have you ever wondered where the expression “sleeping with your problem” comes from?
18. A person who doesn’t get enough sleep is like a living wire through which instead of current they pass negative emotions. The part of the brain that controls anger becomes overactive.
19. By mastering your senses, you will form healthy habits. Once you understand that every emotion does not arise out of nowhere, it will become easier for you to control your reactions and mood.
20. Cheerful, sad, melancholic, gloomy, inspired, joyful... A person is a real whirlwind of emotions. Even when you feel bad, you are not helpless. No one can take away your right to choose, and only you can decide how to approach the situation.
21. The time-honored history of emotions goes something like this: Everyone has emotions built into them from birth. This is a separate, easily recognizable phenomenon within us. When something happens in the world - a shot or a flirtatious glance - our emotions manifest themselves quickly and automatically, as if someone turned a switch. We express emotions on our faces through smiles, frowns, or distinctive expressions that other people can easily recognize. Our voices express emotions through laughter and screaming. Our body reveals our sensations in every gesture and posture.
22. Your emotions are not built-in, but made up of basic parts. They are not universal, but different for different cultures. They don't start themselves; you create them. They arise as a combination physical properties your body and a plastic brain that makes connections with the environment in which it develops and the culture and upbringing that provides that environment.
23. The law considers emotional harm to be less serious than physical harm and less deserving of punishment. Think how ironic this sounds. The law protects the integrity of your anatomical body, but not the integrity of your psyche, given that the body is just a container for the organ that makes you who you are - your brain.
24. Your genes can make you sensitive to your environment and every little problem. And if you're a woman in your reproductive years, the connectivity in your interoceptive network changes every month, making you more vulnerable at certain points in your cycle.
25. Pain is an experience that occurs not only from physical damage, but also when your brain predicts that damage is imminent. Let's say you're getting a tetanus shot at your doctor's office. Your brain constructs an instance of “pain” because you have previous experience with injections. You may feel pain even before the needle touches your arm.
26. When you feel sick, assume you have a virus rather than thinking that your discomfort means something personal. Your sensations may be mere noise. Maybe you just need some sleep.
27. When teaching your children about emotions, try to look beyond essentialist stereotypes: smiling when happy, frowning when angry, and so on. Help them understand the diversity of the real world - that depending on the context, a smile can mean happiness, embarrassment, anger, or even sadness.
28. And now I advocate using anger as one of the additional incentives on the way to your goal. It's a beautiful emotion. And, as it turned out, it is very creative if directed in the right direction. The emotion should not be “This bastard is now going to burst into tears because he lost such a beauty like me. Let him suffer for the rest of his life!”, but rather like this: “I’ll blow the nose of everyone who doesn’t believe in me!”
29. Often excess weight- this is a subconscious desire to hide, run away and close off from the world. This fear arises from dissatisfaction with life in general or from the fact that a person lacks emotions.
30. Our emotions are like food in the refrigerator. If you don’t survive (“eat”) them on time, they begin to rot and poison our lives.
31. Almost all pregnant women are characterized by increased emotionality. Often this is one of the first signs of pregnancy, which is very puzzling if the woman does not yet know that she is pregnant.
33. Very often a tired baby, who has had too many emotions and impressions, cannot fall asleep. This is one of the reasons why children who don't get enough sleep during the day don't sleep well at night.
34. More and more scientific research shows that emotional inflexibility—getting stuck on thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that don't serve us—leads to a range of psychological problems, including depression and anxiety.
35. Negative experiences are normal. This is human nature. And an overemphasis on positive thinking is another radical way our culture tries to combat normal fluctuations in emotions, just as society sometimes rushes to treat childhood hyperactivity or mood swings in women with pills.
36. Firstly, everything is decided by your emotions. Secondly, suppressed emotions inevitably take their toll, and find a way out in a completely different place than you expect.
37. When we are too joyful and cheerful, we often do not pay attention to serious threats and risks. It would not be much of an exaggeration to say that excessive joy can be life-threatening: in this state, you are more likely to take adventures and underestimate the risks of alcohol.
38. Courageously and with interest, accept yourself entirely - with a peeling nose and frayed ears, with “good” and “bad” emotions, without missing anything and without bypassing anything with sympathy. Accept your inner experiences, try to get used to them and explore them without trying to get rid of them as quickly as possible.
39. Don't try to get rid of fear. Try to go towards what is valuable to you, straight through your fears, lighting the path with your values. To be brave does not mean not to be afraid of anything; to be brave is to move forward, no matter how scary it may be.
40. There is a huge difference between stress and anger, stress and frustration, stress and anxiety. If we cannot clearly express how we feel, those around us are unlikely to be able to understand us and provide the support we need.
41. Neuroscientists have proven that stress, as well as negative emotions: anger, sadness, uncertainty, anxiety, put the brain in reward-seeking mode. You end up wanting what your brain thinks promises a reward, and you are convinced that this “reward” is the only source of joy.
42. Attempts to repress thoughts, emotions and drives backfire and force you to think, feel and do what you most want to avoid.
43. Feel what you feel, but don’t believe everything you think. When an unpleasant thought comes to your mind, notice how it feels in your body. Then bring your attention to your breath and imagine how the thought dissolves or goes away.
44. Journaling allows us to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our emotions, even difficult or painful ones. The more aware we are of our feelings and thoughts, the more prepared we are to gain life experience and develop ourselves.
46. Smiling brings positive results. But laughter is a much stronger manifestation of emotion. It helps cope with worries and fear, improves mood and appearance and makes it easier to worry difficult situations and disappointments.
47. You know better than anyone else how you feel in stressful or difficult situations. Therefore, it is very important in such cases to listen carefully to your thoughts and reactions in order to take appropriate action if necessary.
48. Morning exercise is critical to maximizing your potential because it puts you at the peak of your mental, physical and emotional state, giving you the chance to be a winner that day.
49. By visualizing what you want to get from life, you stir up your emotions, which, in turn, lifts your spirit and mood and simply pulls you towards the realization of these images.
50. The average person allows their emotions to dictate their actions, but the actions of people who have achieved great success in life dictate their views and beliefs.
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