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Today we will talk about how to find your calling. What is it: an activity you love, a job you love, your own business, the path of your whole life, something else? Let's figure it out and try to find within ourselves the answer to this, the most important question in life.
As effective and conscious people, before we take on any task, let’s stop for a minute and think - what are we going to spend our time and energy for, why is this important to us?
I see three main reasons for finding your purpose.
He who knows the “why” of living will overcome almost any “how”.
F. Nietzsche.
A great expert on this issue was Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist who survived a fascist concentration camp and became the founder of logotherapy, a healing method based on the revival of a person’s meaning of existence. You can read more about this in the seminal work « The will to meaning» . According to Frankl, the main driving force in human life is the desire to find and realize the meaning of life.
Now let’s clarify what we are going to find.
Dictionary Ushakova explains that this is a calling:
1. Inclination, internal attraction to some business, some profession (with the possession or belief that you have the necessary abilities for this).
2. Role, task, purpose.
Having delved into the definition of the word purpose, we will find the following formulations: as a goal, scope of application of someone or something.
At the same time, you cannot put an equal sign between the words vocation and destiny. They relate as part and whole.
Vocation- this is a predisposition, inclination and ability to perform any activity.
A purpose includes: abilities, activities, and our role in it; covers both the goal and the result.
In the self-determination scale that I described in purpose, it is represented by three elements:
We’ll talk about how to determine your mission and purpose in life in future publications, but now let’s focus on vocation.
Looking at the unified tariff and qualification directory, we will find that in Russia there are about seven thousand officially recognized professions.
It is quite difficult to feel a calling when reading names of specialties such as:
Obviously we need a different method.
Knowledge about any business can be represented in the form of a pyramid, on top floor which contains the most general concepts, and each subsequent level provides more and more detail.
In search of your calling, it is more logical to start not from the bottom, but from the top.
So, what are the most general groups that people are divided into according to their abilities? There are a couple of well-known methods that will allow us to choose one of four or five areas of activity for ourselves.
One method developed by academician V.Ya. Klimov, who proposed self-determination based on what is easier for us to work with in life.
He identified five possible areas of effort.
Another method simpler and more time-tested. This is the Vedic concept of classifying people according to their natural qualities. I already wrote about it in an article. Knowing your qualities, it is easy to understand what type of activity you are inclined to.
In fact, the area of activity you have defined as your own is already a calling. Further searches will lead us to the next level of specification. To determine your life mission: the role that you would like to play or the activity that you would not mind devoting your entire life to.
Perhaps you immediately determined what kind of activity you are inclined to. Then I suggest you immediately do a little warm-up before the thorough work of defining your mission.
Answer these nine questions, and understanding your purpose may begin to dawn on the horizon of your consciousness. Or maybe you'll get lucky and it will go supernova, highlighting a greater purpose and giving meaning to every victory or defeat left behind.
Now, I think, enough has been said. In the next article we will talk in more detail about finding your mission.
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A few months ago I decided to launch my online project in the field of job search and career consulting. After some time, I noticed that among the standard questions of my clients “how to write”, “how to behave in an interview”, I very often hear a completely different, more in-depth request: “how to understand what I like to do?” and “how to start doing what you like and connect it with work?”
It turned out that my clients aged 25 to 35 do not experience satisfaction from having a prestigious job with a good salary, but have completely different requirements for the job and the employer. It is important for them that they enjoy the activity (all more people want a flexible schedule and remote work), and they also prefer to understand some deep meaning of their activities and know what benefits it will bring.
Naturally, with such high expectations, these people are doomed to constant dissatisfaction with their work. Without a clear idea of their interests or without finding an opportunity to combine them with work, “pushing papers” from 9 to 18 in the office instead of saving the world, they get less and less pleasure from work. Longing, they cherish the dream of leaving everything and going somewhere warm, so that they can indulge in the search for themselves and their calling, hoping to find a magical recipe for a harmonious cocktail of pleasure, meaning and work.
In my opinion, such a trip will only be a change of scenery. Will the answer be found? Maybe. But, it seems to me, it is not at all necessary to travel far for this. I am convinced that each of us, deep down in our souls, knows our calling. It’s just that someone reveals it at the age of four, and someone remembers it at 80. But no matter how old you are, finding a calling is always an exciting journey and not at all to a tropical country! It is also a painstaking, jewelry-like work that requires courage, creativity and perseverance. After all, to prepare your own exclusive culinary masterpiece, it’s not enough to find good recipe. You will have to first learn how to cook it, and then experiment many times to find the ideal proportions and your own unique ingredients.
For my clients, I decided to study in detail the scope of searching for a vocation, collect the maximum and choose the best. In the last three months of deep immersion alone, I have accumulated more than 100 exercises, and I have only just opened the door to this interesting world. Some exercises are hints and help to determine your vocation, others allow you to transform it into new job or lead to harmony with an existing one. I will be happy to share my findings with you!
For those who are ready to go to independent travel, compiled a universal route in seven days. Naturally, the timing will be individual for everyone. Perhaps someone will find the answer on the first day, while others will need to take a break after each task for thoughtful reflection. But timing is not the most important thing, especially if the journey is exciting. Well, are you ready? Go!
Our fantasies are not only a storehouse of information about ourselves and our goals, but also powerful source motivation for their implementation. To make it easier to fantasize, let's play a game. Imagine that you are a lucky hundred-year-old dreamer. Not only did you survive in your mind and health until such a serious name day, but you were also incredibly lucky in life, and you achieved fantastic success in everything you undertook. Healthy, prosperous, living in abundance, in a word, prospering. Your family and friends have gathered to congratulate you and celebrate this significant event with you. Or maybe not only friends, but also reporters, the press, celebrities...
Introduced? Now remember all your happy life full of interesting and exciting events. What were you doing? What they were doing? Where, in what setting? Who was next to you? How did you feel? Describe your lifestyle, everything that was important to you, all areas of your life. Preferably on paper or in a text editor.
Then read your text, preferably out loud, paying attention to your feelings and the sound of your voice. Do you really want these fantasies to become reality? Are you ready to try?
To be where you want to be in 100 years, you need to start in your chosen direction right now.
Very often our calling is hidden somewhere between the area of our interests, the sphere of our innermost desires and a few deeply hidden and forgotten childhood dreams. We are so afraid of this Pandora's box that we hide it away in the closet of our memory, so that later we can hastily push into it everything that we wanted, but did not come true, was planned, but did not come true. And then forget.
To lift the curtain and take another step towards your calling, you will need to take out this box, blow off the dust and carefully shake out everything that you have shoved into it. Think about all your dreams, desires, interests and everything you've ever wanted to try and write it down. To complete the picture, add to them a list of improbabilities. Don’t limit your imagination: the more points you write, even the most ridiculous ones, the better. Let there be 100 or more, but not less than 20.
By the way, this exercise has an interesting by-effect. Save the list and check it after some time. Some of your wishes will come true by themselves, without your participation. In order for everything to come true, you will need to take some actions, but that is a completely different story.
When we were little, each of us knew our purpose. If you have forgotten what you dreamed of as a child, ask your family.
Imagine that you are a star! You are so professional, in demand and popular that headhunters are chasing you, ready to do anything to get you. You are offered to sign a contract with an ideal salary, in which you are allowed to independently choose what you will do, in what area and under what conditions. Yes, you are such a lucky guy!
You, of course, guess that each of us actually has such an opportunity? If not, I’ll share a secret with you. Modern world offers a wide variety of professions and fields of activity to choose from, any options for work schedules and other conditions. Unfortunately, very often many people do not know what they want or do not want to put in the effort to achieve what they want. Or for some reason they don’t find the opportunity to sit down and think seriously about this issue.
So allow yourself to be puzzled by it right now and choose perfect job. Let's think more broadly, because we ourselves are the authors of all our frameworks and limitations. Let your list have 100 items, or at least at least 20. By the way, this exercise is useful to do from time to time, since your preferences may change and it is important to adjust your ideal contract so that the work continues to inspire you.
It is worth not only drawing up your ideal contract, but also reviewing it from time to time. Our preferences may change, and it is important to make adjustments in time to ensure that our work continues to inspire us.
All of us . We live in a society and cannot exist independently, on our own. Therefore, I am always alarmed when I hear that someone wants to do something exclusively for themselves. Wants to have fun in the process, achieve self-realization through favorite activities and receive satisfaction from achieving results. All these desires are wonderful, but the questions “Why?”, “Why are you?”, “What is your meaning?” remain unanswered.
It seems to me that such a self-centered position is initially inferior and defective in relation to the one in which the motive to “give” is present. Activity can only bring complete satisfaction if you share something with others and serve them. And you can only transform your favorite activity into work if you find a way to benefit others through your activities.
A combination of answers to the questions “Why?” and “What do I want to give to others?” will give the very meaning without which complete satisfaction from work is impossible.
Until this day, we have focused on your dreams, interests, desires and what you would like to do. You were not limited by anything except your fantasies and self-created restrictions. Your dreams, interests and desires are guides to your work, but contain some risk. If most of them remain in the world of fantasy and you have not tried to realize them, you cannot be sure that this is exactly what you like and enjoy. Nevertheless, these lists are very important for discovering a calling. Let's leave them for a while.
Now we will return from the realm of fantasy to the real world. Your personal experience- this is another important source of information on the path to your calling. By carefully reviewing all your attempts at doing something and the degree of your enjoyment of the process, you may also discover clues that will lead you to your calling.
Remember what you really like to do and what you definitely enjoy - in your previous jobs, while studying, during any other activity you were involved in. As a reminder, the key difference from the list you made on day two is that you've tried it and know for sure that you enjoy it. As always, aim for 100 points, and keep them at least 20.
You can be sure that you really like it and bring pleasure only by trying what you dreamed of. Find your calling in your experiences and experiment more with your fantasies and interests.
Each of us has many talents, whether we develop them or not. Think about what you do well, what have you achieved heights and achievements in? You probably have something that you can do better than others. Don't know about this? Remember what requests are usually made to you. Don't remember? Then take a chance and ask! Call your family and friends and ask them what they would be missing out on if they didn’t know you. Be prepared for the most unexpected answers. You will definitely learn a lot of interesting things! :)
Your talents and abilities will point you in the right direction towards your calling. If you don’t know what you are strong at, ask others!
The seventh day is a day of analysis and answering questions. Read each list and analyze it. Pay attention to the points that:
Select about 10 items from each list (the number of items is a loose parameter). Distribute the points into four groups:
Write down all points on clean slate A4 or in a new document text editor. Add a description perfect style life from the first day and answers to the question “What do I want to give to others” from the fourth.
Analyze the resulting description and answer the questions: “What am I really I do in peace when I do this?”, “What am I really I give to the world when I do this?”, “What is my real role , when do I do this?”, “What is my exceptional gift what's mine skill And vocation when am I doing this? Take your time, these questions require serious thought. The answers to them will allow you to find yourself.
Want to connect with work? Abstract yourself and look at the resulting result as if from the outside, as if it was written not by you, but by another person. Write job options that would fit this request. Show it to others and ask them to name job options that are suitable for you. If you are brave enough, publish it online. How more you will show people with different professional erudition, especially various options get a job. It is advisable to have a list of 20–30 various options professions. Choose one or two or three that you like best.
Assess reality. How close and consonant with your request is what you are doing now. Think through your strategy. Dramatic change? Smooth transition? Work at the same job, but your calling is to make a hobby and develop in an interesting direction at the same time? Write a plan. Take the first step. Check experimentally.
This will take several months or years. Scary? Be afraid, but do it. These few months or years will pass sooner or later, and you will either try or not. Hurry, because no one knows when his centenary will come. Remember, happiness is not the final destination, it is the journey itself. Even just a few seconds closer to your ideal life is already a result.
Hello, dear readers! A person who makes money thanks to his favorite business is considered lucky. How many people like this do you know? Units. Why is this happening? After all, each of us has certain talents and abilities. Today I would like to talk about how to find your calling in work. Where are the clues hidden, what steps need to be taken to achieve your goal and what prevents you from achieving success.
No matter how trivial it may sound, our calling appears already in childhood. It is as a child that we do those things that attract us most. But more often than not, adults don’t remember their childhood well. They forget what they liked to do. They think that this is just pampering.
If you don't remember what you liked to do when you were a child, just ask your parents. Let them remember every little detail. Maybe you liked to paint on the walls or put on theatrical performances for the whole family. They played doctor and tried to cure their dog. We were constantly making something with our own hands. Try asking your parents about all the activities that piqued your interest.
After all, what happens to adults? They forget about curiosity and children's interest. Life becomes more difficult, you have to solve problems, look for work, buy an apartment, pay off a car loan and much more. While we are children, all this does not bother us and does not concern us. That's why we just do what we love.
Remember even the stupidest and most incredible things. They wanted to become a warrior of light, an intergalactic paratrooper, a penguin flipper. From all this you can find out the very occupation in which you will find your calling.
Another way to find your calling is to understand what you are good at. After all, what is a calling? This is the activity that you do best. An activity that gives you real pleasure. The kind of activity for which you are ready to wake up at five in the morning.
So, do some introspection. Think about what you did well at school, at college, and what your friends envy. You know how to speak beautifully, you make an excellent leader, you are creative, you always find a way out of a difficult situation.
Don't get too hung up on success just yet. Just look for those qualities that make you stand out from the crowd, so to speak.
You may not even notice that you already have a calling. You just think it's stupid or self-evident. One of my friends was very good with numbers. Since school she has always been the best in exact sciences. But she went to work as a veterinarian - a family business. For many years the woman was unhappy and could not find a place for herself. We talked and tried to understand why she was experiencing discomfort at work. Veterinary medicine was not her calling. Then I reminded her of her love for numbers. To which the woman replied: well, they still know how to count, there’s nothing special about it.
Do you understand what her problem was? The calling was right in front of her nose, but she couldn't see it. You can arrange a survey among your friends. Ask them what quality of yours they consider to be the main one, what you are especially superior to others in, what they would like to learn from you.
And then start developing your skills. Become a professional. If your main quality is the ability to speak, then go to speaker courses and increase your lexicon, learn to speak in front of a large audience.
The first is laziness. Don’t get yourself out of bed, don’t spend time thinking, too lazy to delve into yourself, change something. If you want to move on, find your calling and succeed in it, then laziness should become just a word for you. You just have to start, force yourself, get into a certain mode, and then the impulse will work. In the future, you won't need as much effort as you did in the beginning. But exactly First stage programs the entire further process.
The second is the fear of starting over. In fact, you are not afraid of the unknown of something new, but of the loss of the old, familiar. You, one way or another, become attached to your job, even if you don’t like it, to people with whom you may even be bored, and so on. Until you can calmly let go of the past, it will be very difficult for you to start something new.
Third - closed-mindedness. You may already have a job you love that fits your calling perfectly. But due to stress, social opinion or something else, you are not aware of it. Read the article "". Perhaps you just need to change your job, find another boss, change your team.
Fourth - self-doubt. It’s very scary not to believe in yourself and think that nothing will work out. To be afraid of mistakes, to be afraid to start, and because of this not to start anything at all. Be brave and everything will work out. Mistakes are made in order to draw conclusions and move on. If you fail, get up and start again. You can always give up.
Dear friends, believe in yourself, don’t be afraid, don’t be lazy, search and you will find. Be more confident, use mistakes to your advantage, don’t stand still. Don't listen to others. If you have a dream, then boldly go towards it!
Share your story. Maybe you have already found your calling. How did this happen for you, what helped and what hindered you. If you are still searching, then share how this process goes for you, what you fear most.
And I wish you success in any endeavor!
