█ One day, a daughter, a young woman, came to her father and said sadly:- Dad, I’m so tired of everything, I have constant difficulties at work and in my personal life, I just don’t have the strength anymore... How to cope with all this?
█ █ Failure doesn't mean I'm a failure;It means that success is yet to come.Failure does not mean that I have achieved nothing;It means I learned something.

Sit back, relax. Turn to your breath, trust it without trying to control it. We have some difficult issues to address, and it's important that you feel comfortable...

█ █ Pay attention to any occasion (even a very minor one) that will allow you to feel pleasure. Use affirmative sentences.

█ █ They come when you have lost your way so much that the light at the end of the tunnel has become barely visible.

█ █ Once upon a time there lived a Little Soul who once said to God:- I know who I am!

█ █ I spoke to my inner lover and asked: why such a rush? After all, we feel that there is some spiritual force that loves birds, animals and insects.

█ █ One day a small gap appeared in the cocoon, and a person passing by stood for long hours and watched a butterfly try to exit through this small gap. A lot of time passed, the butterfly seemed to give up its efforts, and the gap remained just as small.

█ █ How did I create this situation? - you ask from the position of the owner. “I take responsibility for the situation I created.”

█ █ When we give ourselves a second chance and get a little help, very often things work out for us!

█ █ A distinctive feature of the happiest people is the ability... to overcome the most serious obstacles.And happy people are fired from their jobs, they also go broke, get sick and become depressed!Like everyone else, they have many problems.But they have the mental strength to concentrate not on problems, but on solving them.

█ █ “WHY me?” "Why now?"“WHY did she leave me out in the cold?”This question can drive anyone crazy.

BOOKS ABOUT DIFFICULTIES:

QUOTES ABOUT DIFFICULTIES:

If your life is a struggle with a headwind, then stop this pointless activity and use the time to talk with yourself, think about your own life. Then you may be surprised to find that the wind has changed direction.

Luule Viilma

I don't like difficulties...
I love candy!

Under no circumstances should you lose hope. The feeling of despair is the true cause of failure. Remember: you can overcome any difficulty. Be calm even when you find yourself in a difficult and confusing situation: it will have little effect on you if your mind is calm. On the contrary, if the mind allows you to get angry, then you will lose peace even if the world will be serene and cozy.

If you fall, try to pick up something from the floor while you are lying down.

Scottish proverb

Difficulty is a good thing. When everything is comfortable, easy - well, boring, because you want it even softer, and you feel that you won’t be touched at all, you can’t do anything at all. Therefore, we must perceive difficulties as medicine, as a saving work, as a blessing. Petr Mamonov

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Never regret anything: sometimes troubles happen for good, and dreams don’t come true for the better.

Everything has a reason. Everything is done for a purpose, and every failure carries a lesson. I realized that losses - both personal, professional, and even spiritual - can significantly expand the horizons of a person. They lead to inner growth and provide a whole range of spiritual gains. Never regret the past. Treat him better as a good teacher. Robin Sharma

TESTS MAKE US IMPROVE

Many believe that the trials of this life are certainly retribution for past sins. But is metal heated in a forge because he has sinned and must be punished? Isn't this being done to improve the properties of the material?

Mother Teresa

Turn troubles into strength

conducive to your spiritual development.

Some situations you can handle, while others you have to endure. For example, it doesn’t matter how upset you are that your house is not made of gold, you are still powerless to turn your bricks into gold. No matter how upset you are that the earth is not heaven, you cannot turn the earth into heaven. And there is no point in worrying about such things. No matter how upset you are about your problems or how irritated you are about little things about other people, there is absolutely no reason to worry.

Lama Zopa

I asked for strength - and God sent me trials to strengthen me.
I asked for wisdom - and God sent me problems to puzzle over.
I asked for courage - and God sent me danger.
I asked for love - and God sent the unfortunate ones who need my help.
I asked for blessings - and God gave me opportunities.
I didn't get anything I wanted, but I got everything I needed!
God heard my prayers...

Mother Teresa.

Take a broader look at your troubles. If someone accuses you of something, do not respond with abuse: imagine that this accusation loosens the bonds of your narcissism, and therefore strengthens your ability to care for others.This method is very difficult to use, but if successful it will bring many benefits.

Dalai Lama

Life gives you only those experiences that best contribute to the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know what kind of experience you need? Very simply - the one you are living at the moment.

Eckhart Tolle

The best indicator of the level of consciousness is the ability to calmly relate to life's difficulties.
They pull the unconscious person down, while the conscious person rises more and more.

Eckhart Tolle

When you ask God about your problem, don't give Him instructions, just tell Him about it...

Difficulties in life are more than just isolated difficulties or failures. Adversity or difficulty can be seen as a series of difficulties or misfortunes that keep you from achieving your goals and you do not feel happy. So how can this situation be overcome? It's actually easier said than done, but you can overcome all adversity if you develop the right attitude and take steps to get what you want and deserve. If you want to start overcoming challenges now, see step 1.

Steps

Part 1

Don't let your past dictate your future. There are a number of ways this can be done. Maybe you grew up in a harsh environment where you were never encouraged. This should not make you think that you will never succeed in your current environment. Maybe you're trying to become an actress but haven't made it past the last thirty auditions; don't let this make you think you'll never get a call again. Focus on what's in front of you and on achieving what you want to achieve, despite your past.

• Think about how much sweeter success will be when you can say that you got what you worked for, despite a past that dictated otherwise.
• A difficult past can make a successful future even more productive. You can't measure your success in acting, business, painting, etc. if you get everything on the first try.

1. Focus on the positive. Although this is the last thing you can do after a series of failures or a general feeling of hopelessness, you must focus on the positive. This is exactly what you need to do to ensure your survival. If you want to overcome all adversities, you must focus on the positive, whether that means the positive aspects of your situation or the positive results you will achieve in the future. Make a list of all the positive things in your life or all the good things you might be looking forward to, and you will see that you are much happier than you think.

   • Focus on positive points will help you develop a more positive attitude, which in turn will help you achieve success.
   • Start being happy right now. Some people think, "Once I achieve goal X, I will be happy. I will work, work, work to achieve it, and then fulfill myself." Well, that's the wrong attitude. The right attitude is: "I'm already happy because I'm working towards goal X. And being happy while working on that goal will help me achieve it faster. Everyone wins!"

2. Accept the inevitability of fate. Another thing is what you need to do to overcome all adversities and accept the fact that this can happen to anyone. Unfortunately, some people face more trouble than others, but that doesn't mean you can't accept your fate and work to overcome your troubles as much as you can. Instead of denying that you are struggling, feeling that you are not really there, or that you can run away from the conflict, you must be able to accept adversity in your life if you want to be able to fight it.

   • Don't look around at your neighbors, friends and colleagues and think that everything that happens to you is unfair. Of course, this may be true, but instead of dwelling on it, accept what is happening and move on.

3. Find inner strength. Kelly Clarkson, among many others, once said: "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger", unfortunately this is not 100% true. Of course, people can grow morally from adversity and become stronger in the process if they develop methods to deal with the problem. But people who are repeatedly beaten and do not have the mental toughness to deal with their problems eventually become weaker. Don't be afraid of it. Work on building your mental toughness so that you can deal with any problems that may arise. Here are some things you can do:

   • Write down everything that worries you in a diary. Don't rant or complain. Rather, get into the habit of chronicling the events that bother you and begin to understand them.
   • Meditate daily. Just 10-20 minutes of daily meditation can help you overcome challenges with honesty.
   • Don't set unrealistic goals. If you're planning on being a rock star, a pop star, general director(within a year), an Olympic athlete after three months of training, etc., then you are bound to be disappointed. You can still set high goals, but don't let all your happiness or success depend on whether you've actually achieved something extraordinary.

4. Embrace mistakes as a way to explore possibilities. Don't look at your mistakes as failures or failures or punishments for thinking differently. Instead, understand and admit when you did something wrong and ask yourself what you learned from that situation and what you will do differently next time. Think about what you could have done differently, but don't beat yourself up over what you did; make a list of all the reasons, this experience will make you more focused next time.

   • You must also learn to recognize your mistakes. Don't blame yourself or think you did something wrong if someone really hurt you, or if you suffered a professional failure despite doing everything absolutely right.

5. Define the problem. Maybe the problem is a general feeling that you just can't succeed at something. Maybe you feel like environment pulls you down. Or maybe you feel like you're too hard on yourself or that you're setting yourself up for failure and will never achieve anything. The sooner you identify the real problem, the faster you can move toward a solution. If you spend some time really thinking about a problem, you may discover that the problem is something different than you thought.

   • For example, you may think that adversity is the reason for the complete lack of respect in the workplace. Maybe people treat you rudely, load you up with extra work and participation in events without saying thank you, and so on. But if you dig deeper, you'll see that the real problem is that you don't believe in your work and want to find something more meaningful. In this case, none of the original problems have of great importance!

6. Self-control must be paramount. Even though no one will expect you to laugh and be full of life during times of great difficulty, you should try to maintain your composure as much as possible, if only to succeed yourself. You can cry, you can let your emotions out, you can talk about the situation with your three best friends, but after a while you have to let go in order to move forward. If you're sad, apathetic, or struggling financially for months after some serious trouble, you won't be able to move forward, think creatively, or find answers to your questions.

   • If you really need some time to recover, take it. Don't force yourself to act like you're okay if you're not. But you can't let the external situation upset you all the time. You must find a way to keep you calm and balanced.

   Part 2

   Taking action

   1. Go back upstairs. It's important to get back on the horse and try to achieve it until you achieve it. You stop, ask meaningful questions, and regroup, all of which are important to your success. You cannot continue to feel sorry for yourself or feel like a failure for the rest of your life. And the sooner (to the extent possible) you get back on your horse, the better! This doesn't mean you have to go out and do what you did before (see next step), you have to make a plan, go out and do something that can help you.

      • Determine the limit of pity for yourself. If what happened was really bad, give yourself a month or two to recover. If it was only somewhat bad, give yourself a few weeks. A "moody" mindset can help you visualize future success and will keep you from getting stuck in that rut forever.

   2. Stop doing the same thing to get different results. If what you have been doing is not working (whether you have been doing it for a year or ten years), then something needs to be addressed. If you keep doing this, you are probably going to get the same old results over and over again. This means you have to do something different to get a different result. For example, find a different job, find a different partner, move to a different area, or do something that you think will lead to new results.

      • Of course, sometimes it's just a matter of trying until you succeed. If you want to be an actress, then yes, you should keep going to auditions. But if it doesn't work, think about what you can change. Perhaps go to other types of auditions or change your acting style to make it successful.

   3. Make a gratitude list. Make a list of at least three things you are grateful for every day. Keep a journal about positive experiences at least every other day, so that you are constantly reminded of the good things in your life. Write down the things you are grateful for, the things that make you happy, and all the joys that fill your life. You may not feel like there are many things to be happy about right now, but if you dig deeper, you'll see that you have more to do than just be grateful than you originally thought.

      • Spend just 10-15 minutes a day thinking about what you are grateful for. Surely you have time for this?

   4. The key to success is to attract attention. If you are not visible, how will you be able to overcome all adversity? You have to try, keep going, keep fighting to succeed, even if it means you have to change your battle plan. Be stubborn. Be aggressive. Be persistent. Know that nothing good can happen if you just lie in bed thinking about great things that are about to happen to you. No one is going to call you and acknowledge your hard work if you don't try!

   5. Spend time with successful people. You don't have to be the most successful person in your friend group. Okay, if you're Bill Gates, then these things are inevitable, but overall, you have to spend time around people who are working hard to chase their dreams and find meaning in life. This doesn't mean they have to be leaders. They can be poets, sponsors, avid gardeners - just people who know what they want and who will follow them. Talk to them about how they got to where they are. See how they overcame adversity. You can learn a lot from other people, and they can help you achieve your own dreams.

      • This doesn't mean you should sacrifice your less successful friends in favor of your more successful ones. But that means you have to look successful people!

   6. Don't isolate yourself. Don't be alone in times of difficulty. It will only make you feel more lousy, lonely, sad and disappointed in everything. You shouldn't complain about your problems to every stranger on the street, but you should stay social, spend time with family and friends, or even go out to lunch with coworkers just to be outdoors for a while. You can sulk in private about your failures, but that is not the way to get what you want.

      • It may help to talk about the problems you are facing. Finding a trusted friend or two, or even a therapist if necessary, can help you sort through your thoughts. Sometimes simply articulating your problems is half the battle.

   7. Lean on your support. A strong support system (friends, family, supportive co-workers, wonderful neighbors, or even an online community you belong to) can get you through anything. It is very difficult to overcome all adversities when you feel 100% self-sufficient. May you have people you can turn to in times of need, or even if you want nothing more than laughter and a good time. This can come in handy when you need to talk to someone.

      • Develop a support system early on, before you fail. Maybe these will be people who can be called upon if necessary. This can be difficult to do when you are already in a crisis situation.

   Part 3

   Stay on the go

   1. Find creative solutions. If you want to stay on track and get rid of this whole problematic situation, then you may have to find a creative solution to your problems. To open your mind to creativity, you must feel comfortable enough with yourself and have enough space to breathe freely and not stew in your own thoughts. This means finding a way to follow your passion, raising your children, finding a way to position yourself well in your career, or remembering some old contact that can help you get exactly what you need.

      • Expand your mind. Spend time on creative activity, for example, writing short stories about painting. It can help you look at your own life from a creative perspective.

   2. You should always have a plan B. If you feel like you are facing a ton of adversity and that you will never be able to get what you want, it is only because you are unable to imagine happiness in one form. Maybe you've always wanted to be in the NBA. Maybe you thought you had to publish something you wrote at age 30, or maybe your life has no meaning. Maybe you felt like you had to start your own successful business, or you would be a complete failure. Well, part of overcoming adversity is overcoming the idea that you can only find happiness one way.

      • Make a list of all the other things that will make you happy and fulfilled. Not many people make it to the NBA, and it probably won't be you. But it's not so bad! Instead of looking for happiness in only one form, expand your mind to find something else that can make your life worth living.
      • Find something you are good at; whether it relates to your career or not, it can help you believe in yourself.
      • Make a list of weaknesses and things you want to work on and tackle them one at a time. The sooner you start working on your imperfections, the better.

   3. Take care of yourself. No matter how busy you are or how stressed you are, make sure you get three healthy meals and about 7-8 hours of sleep every day. And do what you need to do to feel healthy. Your health and well-being should not fall by the wayside just because you are trying to pay off loans, start a business, or solve personal problems.

      • Your health should always be an absolute priority. It can never fall by the wayside, and everything else will follow.

   4. Remember your goals. At the end of the day, if you want to stay focused on overcoming challenges, you must remember that your goals and what you have are for your own future. You shouldn't forget what you set out to do, whether it's writing an amazing novel, creating non-profit organization or helping the homeless. Write these goals down as a list along with the reasons why you want to do what you do and look at them often. You will feel excited thinking about how good it will be when you finally achieve your goal.

      • You can forget what your end goals are when you feel like you've been working on them all day and it's getting nowhere. It's important to keep them at the forefront of your mind, so that even the most trivial tasks have meaning. If you continue to look forward and not back, you can be sure to succeed!
   • During times of stress, do something productive or creative and you will see your stress levels drop very quickly.

No matter how our life develops, obstacles always arise on the way to our goal. How to overcome difficulties and not give up?

As they say, difficulties strengthen us. Thanks to them, we become stronger. Of course, provided that we overcome them.

Difficulties allow us to accumulate all our strength to realize our desires and make a leap forward. As psychologists say, it is in critical situation, a person has such a huge surge of energy that he is able to destroy everything in his path, so goals are realized much faster. Why? Very simple:

A person is able to clearly see his goal,
- know that his goal is what he needs,
- believe that he can handle it.

And these components are very important in overcoming obstacles.

When our life flows calmly and smoothly, this is great, but for the time being. As they say, everything is fine, but something is missing. A person needs bursts of emotions, otherwise there is no movement forward. Difficulties are the engine of progress.

Difficulties bring positivity into our lives, especially from the awareness of overcoming them. We become more confident in ourselves, and move on with calm determination.

I offer 10 ways to overcome difficulties.

1. There is no need to avoid problems and difficulties. They will still be there. You just need to treat them as a natural manifestation of life and an opportunity to show your best qualities.

5. Difficulties develop your resourcefulness. And it seemed like there was no way out, but it appeared. And if you show some ingenuity, then everything will work out in the best possible way.

6.Remember that you are not the only one who has difficulties. Everyone faces this. And if others can overcome it, why not try it too?

7. Think positively. As my friend told me: “Natalya, everything is fine with you in any situation: “the knives are not sharpened - the children will not cut themselves, it’s blowing from the window - Fresh air in the house". Of course, you don’t need to wear rose-colored glasses, but you shouldn’t constantly worry about minor problems. There are worse situations in life.

8. Don’t get hung up on the problem, don’t grind it in your head, but try to solve it. And the sooner you start doing this, the better for you.

9. Never set yourself up for failure. Otherwise, why start something that obviously will end soon? As you tune in, so it will be. Thoughts are material, no matter how you look at them.

10.And also, if you have difficulties and you cope with them, then new opportunities and new chances await you ahead. Try not to miss them!

I wish you good luck in overcoming difficulties. May it always accompany you!

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