Ecology of life. Psychology: My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone. This is the state - “totally bad.”
My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone.
This is the state - “totally bad”.
- What do you want now?
- I do not want anything. I want everyone to leave me alone. It would be better if I never existed at all. To avoid this starting point of the report...
– This is global. What do you want very little for yourself now?
- ..... so that there is no noise around, ... so that everything calms down, and I am left completely alone ...
- What can you do for yourself now?
Finding an answer to the question “What can I do for myself now?” launches a program to overcome depression, despair and exhaustion.
I am not anyone else. Mobilization own strength, resource search.
I can - I definitely can. Finding a solution and selecting an action within your capabilities.
Do it – don’t just think about it, but do it. Movement towards specific actions and changes in the situation.
Now - at this moment, not sometime in the future, but already now. Making a decision and taking immediate action.
This action is usually very small, takes the person out from under the hood, and triggers the self-rescue mechanism.
What is the smallest thing I want for myself and what can I do for myself right now?
“I don’t want to see these walls, so that no one bothers me.”
I can leave here immediately by turning off my phone.
-I want it to be quiet and I was alone.
I can ask everyone to gather their remaining strength to get out of here and leave me alone for two hours.
As soon as an action occurs that responds to an urgent need, that’s it, the mechanism is launched.
At this exit stage, you should not try to analyze the situation. This is a pointless waste of resource. You now do not have the opportunity to objectively and adequately perceive what is coming.
As long as you are inside the problem, you will not be able to look at it from the outside.
Try to “turn off your head.” Throw out any thoughts that come, and try to remain in complete emptiness.
Mastering the technique of “thinking nothing,” the ability to stop the flow of your own thoughts, is not easy, but it is possible.
It will allow you to take a break from exhausting “crisis decisions” and searching for those to blame.
Be in this state at this stage for as long as you need to regain your strength and start breathing.
The first opportunity to analyze will come the next day. Even then, don't try to make long-term decisions.
You will be able to understand what really happened and how to do it differently next time no earlier than in a few days, and the more time passes, the more objective your view will be. “Big things are seen from a distance.”
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Therefore, you shouldn’t make furious decisions “under the hood”: “That’s it! I’m getting a divorce!” or write resignation letters. Perhaps it’s worth hanging up and you’ve grown out of this work a long time ago, but this can only be done with a “fresh head.” And it’s better to leave not “from”, but “to”.
When you jump with a parachute, the main thing is not to forget to pull the ring in time.
Remember, maybe someday this will save your life. published
It sometimes happens to many people in life when everything is bad, everything is not going well in the family, the business is not growing, they are fired from work, relatives turn away one by one, and they don’t talk about health simply so as not to be scared to death. But no matter how bad everything is, this period passes sooner or later, and it is thanks to it that transformations occur in life that would hardly have happened in a quiet, peaceful state.
This is not to make you think that you can achieve something only through complete collapse. And to the fact that even if everything in your life collapses, this is definitely not the end, but rather the beginning. To build a castle, sometimes simple huts have to be demolished. What to do when everything is bad?
You cannot give specific instructions on what to do - do this and that, and everything will be “ok”. Everyone has their own path, and there is no common procedure for everyone. But there are some things that are key and should be kept in mind no matter what. Without them, it is very difficult to break out of the vicious circle. And we’ll talk about them now, it will help you understand what to do when everything is bad. So let's get down to business.
How to overcome a period of complete hopelessness? What to do if literally everything in your life is bad? 10 tips from psychologists, as well as those based on life experience, will help you get out of the crisis.
If only because it won't change anything. Perhaps now you think that many things should have been done differently before, but you did everything poorly. But there is one simple truth: if for some reason you did this then, it means that at that moment it was necessary. You had reasons for such an act. And if you think you could have done it differently, know that you couldn’t!
Over time, your view of previous circumstances changes, and you become older in your life wisdom. So just accept what happens as a life lesson and move on. You still can't change it. But you have the power to do things differently in the future. Focus on what you can do now, you simply don't have time for useless regrets. Think about what to do next, try to take into account past mistakes, learn valuable experience from them and move on, rather than lament that everything is bad.
Growth implies destruction. You can't make an omelet without breaking eggs. Therefore, when something breaks in your life, it is a sign that you are ready to build something new, you need to think about what to do. But if you give up and tell yourself that everything is bad, then you simply will not see the gap through which you can sneak away to a new life.
So keep your eyes open and remember that through adversity we grow. But without making an effort to do this, we give up before we have time to get to the top. This way of asking the question will help you understand what to do when everything is bad.
If you are given challenges, then you have room to grow. But on the other hand, it means that you are ready for this growth. Just as there is no door without a key, there is no problem without a solution. Therefore, even if you do not see ways, this does not mean that there are none and everything is bad. Not everything is in plain sight, but sooner or later a chance appears and you will understand what to do. Your task is to catch it in time, find it, see it, generate it in your head.
Don't regret what you don't have, don't think that everything is bad, but focus on what you already have. At least you have arms and legs. And if this is not the case, then there is a head on your shoulders. This is already a resource!
Either you will drown in milk, or you will churn butter, as in the old fairy tale. The frogs were absolutely the same. The solution was different. And subsequent actions.
No matter how bad and difficult everything is, do not fall into an emotional hole. Many people immediately rush into roars and regrets. They say: “I have nothing to be happy about,” “Everything hurts,” “I don’t know what to do.” What did you do to find out? What are you doing to increase your joy? There will be no reason to smile until you find it yourself. The only generator of happiness is within you. If you find the strength to become happy even when there is no reason for it, they will appear.
Reality always reacts sensitively to our thoughts and tells us what to do. If we tell ourselves that everything is bad, then, as if by order, we receive a life to match our thoughts. After all, if we think about it, it means we like to do it (otherwise we wouldn’t be thinking about it so much) - the world doesn’t differentiate whether we like it or not.
If we are completely immersed in one state or another, it will find confirmation for itself again and again.
What to do if you switch to positive, but still nothing changes? Firstly, this is definitely not a reason to lose your thoughts into nowhere again. And secondly, not everything happens instantly.
Any movement can continue by inertia. And it takes time to adjust to a new trajectory. And it’s not always two or three minutes.
They say that King Solomon had a ring with the inscription “All things pass.” When a situation arose in his life in which he could not control himself at all and even these wise words seemed stupid and absurd to him, he tore the ring from his hand... but then he saw the inscription engraved on the inside: “This too shall pass...”
Everything passes sooner or later. Everything has a beginning and everything has an end. Such is life - for dawn to come, the sun must set in the evening. Therefore, remember that the night does not last forever. And it is darkest before dawn. Sooner or later, the situation will improve. What to do when everything is bad - know that it will pass!
And even if you are, as if in the Arctic Circle, where the sun does not rise most of the time, you can always gradually, at least in small steps, move to the equator. Where there is sun, palm trees, bananas and coconuts. Well, heaven in general!
Try different paths. As Edison said: “I have not suffered a thousand failures. I just know a thousand ways that don’t work!” If one thing doesn't work out, do something else. The main thing is not to stop, but to do it, even when everything is bad! As soon as you give up, it becomes difficult for you to hold on to emotional fear and worries. But when you do something, firstly, you have a feeling of movement, which already gives you strength. And secondly, no matter how trivial it may be, action brings more results than inaction. It's that simple!
Not “for what”, but “why”. Remember the point about transformation? Life is a school where we all learn something. Try to understand exactly what lesson the current reality holds for you.
It is useful to know the reasons, but it is even more important to understand why it is given to you. How does this situation benefit you? After all, if you learn the lesson incorrectly, sooner or later it will repeat itself. And a retake is always tougher than the main exam.
Therefore, act, look for solutions, but at the same time decide for yourself - what exactly do you need to start doing differently? What do you need to change? What do you need to learn?
Very often, as soon as you correctly find the answer, the situation resolves itself. Sometimes you intuitively understand what needs to be done, and the problem goes away only with your action. Be that as it may, nothing just happens. Everything has a purpose. And again, she is not always immediately visible. Perhaps you are getting rid of some complexes. Perhaps learn to work harder and lie on the couch less. Maybe your situation is aimed at making you reconsider your life views and understand what exactly you want. Or maybe to reconsider your social circle... By the way, about your social circle...
They say that sometimes you have to fake a shipwreck to get the rats to escape.
I'm not telling you to complain about life, you should never do that.
But there will always be people, usually relatives, close friends, and so on, who will somehow know about your situation. If you are truly on the edge, there will definitely be people who will support you from falling or even pull you out of the abyss. But there will also be those who will pass by indifferently.
And, in some cases (this cannot be canceled), comrades may appear and literally push you down. Or persuading them to break. The phrase “a friend in need is a friend” is by no means an empty phrase. Just observe what happens around you when your life is at the bottom of the mountain and not at the top. Sometimes it turns out that even close friends leave you in trouble. And sometimes friendship becomes even stronger. What option do you have? Pay attention to this, especially when things are bad.
Once upon a time, when the author himself was in a similar situation, in telephone conversation to a friend’s question “How are you?”, I answered: “Yes, everything is great! " No, it was not sarcasm, these were sincere words that things were moving forward, that I was not standing still. The friend remained silent in bewilderment and smiled: “But things are hard for you now, as far as I know?”
To which I received the answer: “I’m rehearsing how after a while I will say this to everyone.” At that moment it made us both smile, and very soon life really became much more fun, despite the fact that everything was bad and I was wondering what to do.
A successful performance is always preceded by rehearsals. So be happy about everything - that things are going well, that things are starting to work out, that the sun has risen, after all. Think about how you will feel when you finally break through and try to bring that feeling into your current reality. Who knows, maybe this is already a dress rehearsal?
Just believe. Just in case.
I would call these ten points key. They will tell you what to do when everything is bad and help you choose the right path. Be that as it may, it is much easier to overcome difficulties with them.
What to do when it “seems” that your whole life is “collapsing”
Below are three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples, you will definitely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEEK ITS SOLUTION.
"What's happening, everything is collapsing
My whole life is crumbling before my eyes, many years of struggle for my child’s health, my husband lost his job, I had to move, I’m losing dear people... and it seems that all this seems to have been planned and is being implemented... everything is so difficult.. I feel broken. Through my life at least make a movie. Tell me what astrology thinks about this...and WHERE?? FIND these forces- about which you write... I will try... Very much...”
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Hello, I am 22 years old, I am married, I have a beautiful daughter. It all started from the moment I became pregnant. My husband and I had just gotten married. everything was fine, but one day came a crisis, My husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then I went on maternity leave. She gave birth to a child, and then constant moving began. there were 5 of them over the last year. My husband seemed to be working, but somehow everything didn’t work out and he decided to start an entrepreneurial activity. at first everything seemed to work out, but then everything got worse...then... Anka owes a large sum, now they are suing. Not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again. Of course, I understood that it was not on time, but I was still very happy. my husband was not so positive. then the bleeding started. I called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child had been dead for a long time... it was not just a blow! They did the cleaning... Now a month has passed, I seem to have calmed down. but with money everything is bad . and my husband decided to work part-time in a taxi today on the first day I lost all my documents and money…
I'm n I don’t know how to live further and what to do, this is the last straw, I d I can't even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I’m afraid of the future, because it’s far from full list what happened to me over the past two years...
Help me please! How to find strength in yourself survive all this? how to start over
Thank you in advance…..
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what to do if life collapses?!
I’m losing all interest in life and the fight for a brighter future, I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I’m always alone (for quite a long period of my life)... And in recent years, in general everything went bad, now I’m unemployed, I owe the bank a large amount, crashed my car today….
I'm just tired already I'm tired of life, I can't even cry, because I’m tired...tired of these problems....the only thing that I think keeps me in this world is that I love my parents.. But for some reason it seems to me that this will soon not be a hindrance for me, I can’t do this next...tell me what should I do?
EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SANTA BARBARA
In all three of these messages we see that problems roll in like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) and the person “breaks down”, that is, he reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.
Firstly, a person is deep inside a situation that seems to him to be a dead end. Looking from the outside, it doesn't seem so to us. It’s not without reason that they say that you need to “rise above” in order to see the whole picture or from a wider perspective. After all, everything is not so bad.
For example, we often compare ourselves with others - especially when they have something better or have something that we don’t have, and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.
In this situation of “total collapse”, as advice, you can also suggest comparing your misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.
For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.
Some people don't have a car and have to drive public transport. Some people don’t have the money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone does not have health, body parts, vision and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.
Look at Nick Vuychich - if you think that everything is “bad” for you or that you have been deprived of something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with despondency and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who bore him a child. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim.”
Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?
Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like “Santa Barbara”, with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that a film could be made based on her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own setbacks and failures. Well, who among us hasn’t lost a job? Hands up. Who among us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Any hands up? Who hasn't experienced financial difficulties? major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands raised. Write if this is not the case.
I myself thought for a long time that the sphere of my personal relationships was completely Santa Barbara and that there was no more unhappy girl in the world, and then I saw that with others it happens not so, much more dramatic and complex.
Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in some ways better, in some ways worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR.
Advice: try to help yourself get out of the victim state in which you are now to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this dead end, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the perspective of attention from focusing on “everything is bad” to focusing on that - A what do you want instead and how to achieve it.
In no way do I want to encourage you to ignore the problem, I ask you reset its importance, refocus. And this is the first step towards solving it.
They say that God does not give trials beyond our strength - we are able to get out of difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and gather ourselves. There are many examples when people came out of the most unimaginable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most miraculous way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.
In moments of despair, go to Him and pray for help, give your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank him and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And no matter what happens next, just live it, accepting it. You cannot sew a severed leg back, so sometimes you need to learn to walk on a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this state. We always have a choice - to lie down and “die”, to give up and despair, to fight and win.
Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living further, hope is dying, but in reality it is not the end of life, it is the end of one of its chapters and then a new chapter opens. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different script, and we have everything to write the best script in this chapter.
CLASSICS OF THE GENRE
Events that are generally considered the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuables, death of loved ones, health problems, injuries and accidents.
Any person experiences crisis, stress, depression and other negative feelings at this time, but you can react to them in different ways, for some it will be the “end of life”, and for others the “beginning of a new one”. From the success stories of the famous, rich and successful people, we can find out that they also had to go through such “bifurcation points” (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, losses occurred, and other crises, but precisely from which the starting point of their future success began.
One of the major information businessmen said that his beloved girlfriend left him, after which he finally got up from the couch and created his own business. Now he is rich and another girl has been found whom he happily married. Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a large car accident forced her to radically change her life, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, think about the future, return to the country and create her own online training business. And there are millions of such stories. Because that's how the Universe works. We develop through crises.
How else can we be woken up or pulled out of our usual routine, how can we be encouraged to evolve and develop? The Universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we don’t hear, then on our heads... so that we finally do something in our lives; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their Path, from which they deviated, etc.
Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but he does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even comes up and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, shouts and sometimes does what -to draw our attention to ourselves.
And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance to turn to Him.
Conclusion: Crisis situations draw your attention to Self, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for changes in your life and you should not resist them. Perhaps it's time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (more about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).
Advice: try to change your attitude towards what is happening, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - there is a way out of ANY SITUATION, even yours.
Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and search hard. If you have suffered material damage, say “thank you, Lord, for taking me with money.” Your lover has left you, learn to live in love with yourself and life.
Does it feel like the world is collapsing? This is wrong! He's just rebuilding. And perhaps for you!
Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structure of life processes - everything has birth, development, culmination and decline/death/end. At the moment when several negative stories coincide in life at once (there are positive ones too, but we rarely note this as something significant), the climax, the full moon of life, comes. After some time there will be a decline.
On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has become obsolete; these are times of heightened emotionality and difficulties in controlling it. A little later, you will look at what happened with much less tragic .
At these moments you need allow yourself to feel your emotions.
Saturn has long cycles, a full cycle lasting about 29-30 years and intermediate cycles of seven years. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often associate it with Morozko from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters by asking them “if they were warm” and then gave them gifts according to their test scores. Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, and ready to take responsibility for one’s life and become its Authors.
Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, just going through Second Saturn Return(occurs around age 59-60). This is a time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining the long-term goals of your further development. We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad and despair, but Saturn is a strict and fair Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of change and restructuring.
Saturn asks us to engage in soul-searching and self-knowledge, to go through the process of re-inventorying ourselves and our ways of life. We may encounter something that does not work in our life, limitations and obstacles, see gaps, weak points. Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and means to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to be the one who we really are.
In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with rewards for efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persevere. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks us to clear away our psychological and physical garbage and dig up the soil (our psyche) before we plant new seeds (new intentions/new life). During the Return we have the chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.
During the Second Return, the wisdom of the Elder comes. Our personal and public safety is being reconsidered. This difficult time and harvest time, results of work over the past years.
We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.
Saturn often asks, “Whose movie am I in?” and challenges being a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a well-known script. Instead, we must become Self-Authors and become the true Authors of our lives.
We need to rewrite the script of our lives. It's not always easy, our lives are full of people and situations that no longer reflect who we are. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us. It is as if it is hiring other people to play certain roles in our life story - this one will be the boss, this one will be the victim, and this one will be the unfaithful lover. Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with moments when these people play their roles and the time comes to adjust their life script. We must take back our projections and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.
During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in the real world, but it is all very subtle. If we don't do what we need to do, we may never get a second chance. If you put off checking your health, it may be too late. If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I need to wait until I retire,” it may actually kill you.
As the body ages, fatigue and depression increase, the body is no longer an object of pride and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads and need to be cut off. You may be asking yourself, “why do I have to deal with this issue again?” and the answer will be “because you’ve almost solved it.” Now you look at things more wisely and maturely. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished tasks and situations.
At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your de-idealizations, let the illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow nice things to come into your life.
We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, something that we can do well and even better.
When everything in life seems to be falling apart... And here are the tools to help you pass the Saturnian checks:
1 Be discerning(discern (English) – to distinguish, recognize)
Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and know much more, I can wisely use choices based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. “Know yourself” and “Nothing superfluous” - the inscriptions from the Delphic Temple are clearly for me. Now I need to step back from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.
2 Be cordial
Have the courage to ask for advice knowledgeable people. And in myself: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life miserable, unable to take responsibility and cordially perceive those around me.
3 Go deeper
“All or nothing” is a rather superficial quick fix, but Saturn doesn’t like quick fixes. No quick decisions or things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of dividing contradictions and internal conflicts until a new form of the idea emerges. And only then is it time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! “Dig deep - you will find precious water at the very bottom!”
4 Take action!
In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who postpone from day to day.
It’s ironic - but while we are waiting (for the warmth and good weather of spring - by the sea of good weather :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering. And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate the weeds from the emerging flowers...
...everything comes in due time..
We went into great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the Uranus opposition and the Neptune square at the age of about 40-42 years old called the Midlife Crisis, the Jupiter Return - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in life style. Personal cycles can be learned through consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astro influences in difficult moments of life.
Conclusion: The events taking place are influenced by planetary, cosmic and other cycles.
Advice: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask for help from friends and family. They will definitely help you regain your lost hope.
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Unfortunately, life circumstances do not always work out the way a person wants. This may lead to depression or stress. It is better to avoid such a state and try to put yourself in a positive attitude.
What to do when everything is bad in life? Not every person can easily overcome life's difficulties and solve any problematic situations. Some people need practical guide, explaining what to do when everything in life is bad. Sometimes a person goes through periods when it seems to him that everyone is against him. In these situations, it is important to remember that people’s thoughts have the property of being translated into reality. Therefore, when a person thinks that everything is bad for him, this is actually what happens. Even the weather can be inclement during these life periods. Troubles follow a person everywhere: at home, at work and even on vacation.
In order to get out of this state, you need to pause and think about whether everything is really that bad. Ideally, you need to look at yourself from the outside. You should also remember that Therefore, you can pay attention to the life difficulties of other people. Then, perhaps, your problems will not seem so significant and large-scale.
How to fight and what to do when everything is bad in life? First, you need to understand what life situation provoked a bad mood and a depressive mood. As a rule, all incidents that lead to loss of strength have long been known. These include: personal feelings towards the opposite sex, financial difficulties, conflicts at work. Of course, this list is incomplete. For example, depression may begin due to death loved one. But here we are not touching on such a serious problem, but will touch on the simpler experiences of people.
So, now let's talk about personal experiences associated with the opposite sex. Both men and women can worry about a breakup. In this case, you should take this problem philosophically and think about what would be better: continue the conflicting relationship and be in an uncomfortable state for yourself, or let the person go and try to improve your relationship. personal life on one's own. You also need to know that life is set up according to the principle of a pendulum, that is, you need to remember that if a person is now going through a crisis, then after a short period of time the Universe will give him positive points, from which he will feel joyful and light in his soul. There are often cases when a problematic situation turns into a good outcome. At this moment, it is worth thinking about the fact that if it had not been there, then further favorable developments of events would not have happened.
Financial difficulties are also one of the most common sources bad mood in people. Men especially worry about this. They think that they are not able to provide for their family. The wife can also “add fuel to the fire.” Instead of supporting the spouse, she begins to demand money from her husband for the family, children and household expenses. Women should not be blamed for this situation, since by their nature they want their children to not need anything, to be beautifully dressed, shod, and have visits. good schools and sections. Men need to calm down and think about the possibility of changing the area of implementation of their professional skills. Or change, make new acquaintances, etc.
How to behave if a dark streak has come in life? What to do when everything is bad in the professional sphere? If speak about conflict situations that happen at work, then you should adhere to the following rule: you should not take them to heart. Everything that happens in the work team should be left there. We need to look for solutions, and not delve into the conflict and the situation itself. You should not strive to please everyone in the work team.
People come there to make money. Therefore, communication with colleagues should be built in a businesslike manner. Of course, there are friendly teams that switch to more close level communication. But it will still be better if relations with employees remain neutral.
What to do when everything is bad in life? Now we'll give practical advice. First of all, you should sort out your experiences, that is, figure out what is the cause of the depressive state, and what to do if everything is bad. Next, you need to think about whether there is a possibility of resolving this situation. If yes, then you need to take action to solve this problem. If there is no opportunity to turn the situation in your direction, then it is better to refuse to resolve it and let it go.
For example, when a person has a personal conflict with an employee in a team, he should consider the option of dismissal and changing jobs. You shouldn’t think that after leaving one large company, it will be impossible to get a job in another one. It's better to think that there are more profitable proposition for the implementation of professional skills. And then you won’t have to think about what to do when everything in life is bad.
You need to learn, that is, to look at all life's troubles through the prism of a smile and a good mood. You need to be able to turn any problem to your advantage and extract positive aspects from it.
For example, if a person has financial difficulties and is struggling to survive, it is worth thinking about the fact that perhaps he should change his field of activity and do something else. There is a possibility that he is not in his niche, and his current work does not bring him either moral or material satisfaction.
Don't become dependent on bad habits. People's behavior such as alcohol and tobacco abuse during periods of experiencing any difficulties is common. Should not be doing that! Because bad habits will not solve those problems that require attention. Moreover, they will take away from a person vitality and health. Time will also be lost that could be better spent on solving necessary problems.
Sport is an excellent support for getting out of depression. Firstly, physical exercise helps improve blood circulation in the human body. And this is directly related to the stimulation of the brain. Secondly, stress on the body allows you to escape from accumulated experiences. People can look at it sensibly and evaluate the situation in which they find themselves. In addition, excellent physical shape will allow you to feel confident and free in any situation.
Doing good deeds also helps relieve depression or stress. Currently, there are many charitable foundations and volunteer organizations that provide assistance to people in need. Joining such movements is quite easy.
They will be happy with any help that is offered to them. As mentioned above, everything is learned by comparison. When a person sees with his own eyes what life situations There are other people, then their problems will seem funny and insignificant to him.
You should force yourself to get rid of negative thoughts. Don't constantly think about how bad everything is. In order to tune in to a positive perception, you can write on a piece of paper what brings you dissatisfaction, and then burn this piece of paper. You also need to learn not to cling to bad thoughts. But there is no point in pushing them away either, since in this case the emphasis is also placed on them. You just need to ignore the negativity and let it pass by. But if a positive thought comes to your mind, from which a smile appears, then you can spin it in your imagination, imagine yourself in different situations, which bring satisfaction, give harmony and delight.
What to do if everything is bad? The psychologist's recommendations should help in solving this problem. If you can’t cope with the problem on your own, then you should consider turning to professionals for help. Psychologists, priests, confessors, as well as friends and relatives can help. You should choose someone whose conversation will make your soul feel better. You need to believe that if you share your experiences with other people, they will decrease. Perhaps someone can help good advice or action.
Positive thoughts will help you get out of it faster. difficult situation, so force yourself to think that everything will be fine tomorrow. Then the question of what to do if everything is bad in life will not arise. There is a practice that boils down to the fact that you need to learn to think about good things as if they had already happened to you. You can practice on simple desires, which are not difficult to achieve, and then move on to more complex tasks. At first, it will take more time to implement your plan. But in the future, the use of such practices will give positive results in a shorter time.
What to do if everything in life is bad? Action will lead to a quick resolution of the problem. You shouldn’t wait for the weather by the sea and think that everything will resolve itself. It is better to take all possible actions to resolve the conflict. This applies to both work moments and personal experiences. Everything possible should be done to get out of this situation.
If a situation occurs that is impossible to influence, then you need to come to terms with it and accept it. Here we are talking about the passing of a loved one from life. You should also learn to approach life philosophically; you should not blame anyone or anything for your problems. If this happens, then it is necessary. We cannot influence any situations that happen to us. Therefore, it will be better to learn to overcome the trials that fate has in store for us.
Hello dear readers of the site www. rainbow - schastie. ru . The topic of our new article:What to do if everything is bad in life?If you have been thinking for a long time why everything is bad and what to do in this situation, then this motivating article is for you! If you are afraid that sooner or later you will be overtaken by a bad streak in life, then read this article!
Where can you start a conversation? Good question which sounds like this: " Why is everything so bad for me? Why has this been happening to me for a long time?” Unfortunately, we all know when a day, a week, or an entire month involves a series of setbacks. We know that another dark streak has come and we believe that it will end someday. And, in principle, this is how it happens. Our whole life is not stable. Nothing in this world is stable. Even you! Today you have good mood, and tomorrow it’s terrible, despite the fact that things are going well for you. Tomorrow you want one thing, and after tomorrow something completely different. Our desires change over time. Today we dream of becoming successful actors, and in 5 years we want to be deputies. But even here, some of you are faithful to only one dream.
What to do if everything is bad in life?
To begin with, you should ask yourself this question out loud: Why am I doing so badly? What exactly is wrong with me now? This is an important step. After all, a person can itch endlessly: “Oh, how terrible everything in my life is. I don't want to live. My life is pure horror." But if you ask him what exactly is wrong with you, he may go into a stupor! It turns out everything is quite good. There is just a habit of being a victim and you need to complain to someone about something. Test yourself! Are you one of those people?We have taken the first step! Now we need to identify the reason why everything is bad. What did you do wrong? Where did you make a mistake? And in order for you to think faster, you need calm down. Without this, your brain will not be able to find the true reasons for you. While you are angry and irritable, everything gets worse (certainly not better). Most The best way calm down, thisdraw air into your stomach at a speed of 4 seconds and exhale smoothly for all 8 seconds.Inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth. Inhale for 4 seconds, exhale for 8 seconds. Try this exercise now!
And the third step remains - start thinking positively and enjoying life. This is the only way you can get your white stripe. In order to start thinking positively, you need to keep yourself busy with something interesting. If you are currently depressed, then only sports will help you. Especially running. Running shakes everything out "dirty" thoughts and only energy remains, which charges you for the whole day.
If you just want to improve your mood, then this will help youcomparison method.
1. Compare yourself with people who live much worse than you. Remember people with disabilities who are limited in their movements (and not only). Remember children from orphanages, beggars who don’t even have normal clothes, pensioners who spend their entire pension on medicine, bread and water.
2. If you have a dream, then dream. It's better than not dreaming. We have already said that without a dream a person is the same as dead. Make a map of your desires and all possible actions to implement them. This will make you forget and remember how much good can await you.
3. Start reading positive books, watch funny comedies, watch various videos. You can even play a video game that is interesting to you (the main thing is that it does not annoy you). And what you shouldn't do is drink alcohol. Everything else is possible!
4. Go to the gym, sauna, massage.
This is all that will make you forget about a difficult situation for a while, let your brain calm down, and before you notice it, life begins to get better. Imperceptibly, but getting better.It is important to know and clearly understand:panic, stress, irritability, constant search for reasons why everything is so bad will not help you. Only by calming down with a cool mind can you overcome the black streak. And only by enjoying life will you reach a streak of good luck!
And the last thing that is important to remember: Your problem may go away on its own. This phenomenon exists in our lives. The more you touch your problem, the bigger it becomes. Once you forget about her, everything falls into place. But it depends on the problem itself. We need to analyze them, since many of them will require your intervention. But if you do intervene, then with a smile on your face and a cool head.
That's all and see you later!
