Most people throughout their entire or almost their entire lives strive mainly for material values. But while accumulating wealth, they often feel deep melancholy and dissatisfaction. It seems that besides money and great opportunities there must be something else... In reality, such people lack inner harmony. This is where the secret of true happiness and freedom lies. Anyone can achieve unity with themselves, although it will take time, effort and dedication. To begin with, it would be a good idea to learn the basic steps leading to harmony with yourself.
No matter what condition a person is in, no matter how rich and successful he is, he must learn to accept himself and all his shortcomings. Everything in the world is relative. If you can understand this, then it will be much easier to act in terms of self-acceptance, because every character trait and unique feature can, if desired, be presented as both positive and negative.
Most often, inner harmony is lacking in people who underestimate themselves or try to cut off some unwanted part of their personality. In both of these cases, you need to face the most worst qualities, understand their nature and learn to live with them. Often you have to work with a psychologist to achieve the desired results.
It is important not only to learn to accept yourself with all the shortcomings, but also to be truthful. Often a person cherishes false hopes, wishesful thinking and hears only what he wants to hear. All this inevitably leads to the emergence internal conflict. Therefore, you should develop the habit of a sober view of reality. At first, this can be quite difficult and even painful, but it is important to remember that this is the only true path leading to harmony. Gradually, a deep understanding of this truth will come.
Just following the first two steps will help you achieve a state of silence in your head. Namely, it is the first indicator of the internal harmony of a person. But it is advisable to take a comprehensive approach and choose some special practice aimed at calming the mind. Most often, meditation, various kinds of breathing exercises, listening to special music, and deep relaxation of the body help here. Exists big choice options. Sometimes a person has to try a lot before he finds something suitable for himself. To work in in this case You can do it yourself or under the guidance of an experienced specialist in a particular field.
When a person first thought about the possibility of achieving internal unity and harmony, he was already on the right path. Then you can gradually begin to move. The basic steps are described above. And in order not to go astray, you should remember your big goal. The following recommendations will also help here:
Inner harmony can bring a person to perfection. new level being. Therefore, the efforts aimed at achieving it are fully justified. Sometimes you can reach this state on your own, and sometimes you simply need the help of a psychologist. One way or another, what is most important is the desire and firm intention of a person to make peace with himself.
The world is the nature that surrounds us, filled with various elements... But the world is also our I, We. We shape this World and influence it. The world is our soul, our being. To fully understand his wisdom and become truly happy, we must take time for ourselves and our own subconscious. Therefore, in this article we will talk about how to find harmony within yourself.
Let’s make a reservation right away that these methods may not be suitable for everyone. There are many various nuances. The effectiveness of such methods may depend on the following factors:
From your inner world;
from experience, that is, whether you took care of your balance and harmony before, or are just starting to do it now;
whether you are in a compulsive situation in which you need to do something to restore harmony in your soul, for example, between work and health;
on what kind of balance was lost, that is, on how deep the “deviation” you want to restore, what the situation looks like, and what exactly you would like to change;
and of course, important factor is motivation.
And it is also important to remember that in such a matter there are no immediate results, you will need to be patient, and this is often the most difficult thing. Many people are looking for some kind of “magic wand” to change the situation with lightning speed, but this does not happen. A person is a complex organism; it is body, soul, mind and heart. And all these parts are closely interconnected. If something happens to one part, it starts a chain reaction that affects all the others.
The very first step that you will need to take to find harmony within yourself, and without which you cannot move on, is calmness.
"IN muddy water you won't see any stones at the bottom"
Another important element The thing to consider is integrity. Sometimes when we lose our balance on physical level(we fall into apathy, we don’t want to move on, we lose the desire to do anything at all), then this affects all our components: our emotions and soul.
There are four components that make a person human:
The physical component, our body;
Mental component, mind;
Spirituality.
Only when all these elements function well does a person achieve harmony and balance within himself. To achieve the lost balance, we must act on all levels at the same time.
Take care of your body, do something good for yourself. Good fit:
walk in the sun
any movement (jogging, swimming),
and other options.
Sometimes a simple walk gives good results. Some people began to feel better after taking walks and observing nature. But this is not suitable for everyone; some need something more energetic: intense running or martial arts.
By the way, when meditating, you can use: incense sticks. They will create the right atmosphere.
Restoring balance on a physical level can also involve changing your clothing. For example, if you change your wardrobe to clothes made of high-quality material, pleasant to the touch and pleasing to the eye, then this will have a positive effect on our physical component.
In a word, you need to start treating yourself as small child, whom you want to take care of and whom you want to pamper.
The best way to take care of your mind is meditation (we have tips for beginners). This is a complex topic that you will have to delve into. It is important to understand how our mind functions, what laws it obeys, and how we can work with it.
It happens that people completely surrender to meditation. They do this from 4 am to 9 pm, in complete silence, without the opportunity to read books, without the opportunity to write, watch films or listen to music. And they achieve zero results.
You need to listen to yourself, conduct some dialogue with your mind. Thanks to such an experience, you can get to know your mind and “tame” it. Because if you don't, he begins to completely control you and makes your ego grow. In such a state it is very difficult to hear intuition and inner voice.
At the very beginning, working with the mind takes a lot of time and requires regularity and persistence, but it shows brilliant results. Very often, there is no harmony in the soul precisely because of problems at this level of a person, so it is important to be able to control and regulate it. This, one might say, central block human management. And you need to learn to work with it. The game is definitely worth the candle.
After all, it is the mind that takes us to a past that cannot be changed, or a future that does not yet exist, and thus prevents us from being in the present.
Exercise:
In the morning: Listen to your own breathing for 5 - 15 minutes. Think only about him. Focus carefully on just one part of your body—your nose—and feel the air moving in and out. Your attention should be focused only on this.
Important: Don’t get upset if you get lost, return to observing your breathing again and again.
In the evening: When you are in bed, before you fall asleep, replay the entire day in your head like a movie until the moment you wake up again in the morning.
This exercise will help you learn to control your mind.
Don’t try to do a lot and everything at once; in order to find harmony and balance within yourself, you need to act gradually. Our subconscious must get used to the changes and must not get tired, otherwise we will return to where we started, to old habits.
And yet, it is very important not to force yourself, not to break, not to change your favorite habits. Nothing will come of it, you’ll just ruin your mood, then you’ll have to get up and waste your energy. Habits must be loved. This is akin to how children were previously retrained in schools, forcing left-handers to write right hand. What comes naturally to you should stay with you.
Emotions are an important guide; they let us know what we should pay attention to first. Take a closer look at them. Here, too, there are many methods on how to manage them.
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There are positive and negative emotions, but both are important. For example, there is a good old method, it is complex, but very effective. You can call it “only for the brave.”
It's about experiencing negative emotions. Overcome them without any “anesthesia” Do not run away from them. At first it will hurt, a lot. Then this feeling will decrease, and then finally disappear altogether.
Accepting how you feel gives you a sense of inner consistency. For example, if you feel sad, you really feel it, don’t pretend that everything is fine, don’t cover it up with an artificial smile, but don’t push this feeling deep into your soul.
Just accept these emotions without fear that they will cause harm. Pain and sadness are as natural as laughter. You shouldn't run away from them. And this is difficult, because modern world we do everything not to feel negative emotions. But don’t tell anyone that finding harmony in the soul is easy.
Sometimes it is worth consciously allowing yourself to experience pain, because it is natural and everything happens for a reason.
Often people pretend that nothing is happening, but deep down they are suffering. They smile and at the same time tremble with fear. This behavior destroys internal balance and harmony, because we lose energy to maintain the external and illusory, we spend it on creating and wearing masks.
It would be much better if you didn't pretend. Being yourself is the easiest way to maintain balance in life. On the other hand, loss of balance is a situation in which it is easiest to recognize yourself and your needs.
Perhaps you should start looking for your mission, your passion, your soul's calling. And perhaps it is worth following this inner desire, despite the logical assessment of the mind.
The simple words, “I feel like I’m in heaven,” may well be true. We create both heaven and hell for ourselves. Therefore, it is worth taking care of your own paradise on earth, simply creating it in your life. It is very difficult to do, it takes a long time, but it is definitely possible.
Many people think that this is a luxury, that only very rich people can live like this. But this is far from true. Some of them also put a lot of knowledge, work, perseverance and, of course, passion into building their own paradise. After all, not everything can be measured in monetary terms.
Finding your own calling is a lifelong task. The task is incredibly difficult. But there are some exercises that can help. First you need to ask yourself questions:
Write down your answers and set them aside. But keep collecting answers further, again and again. Over time, the truth will begin to emerge.
Sometimes it happens that when we ask ourselves such questions for the first time, we think about the answers for a long time. We thoroughly analyze everything in our heads and only then write it down. With each subsequent time, it takes less and less time to answer, but in the end it turns out that the most important thing was written much later.
And we begin to notice that there is no balance between thoughts and actions. We want one thing, but we do something completely different. And awareness of this is the first step towards harmony within yourself.
Life is a bit like spring cleaning. It lasts much longer than usual putting things in order and requires more effort. However, during it some decisions are made:
what you need to get rid of
what should be removed out of sight so as not to interfere,
All this leads to certain actions, but then everything around becomes cleaner, more comfortable, and it’s easier to breathe.
Take care of the space around you.
“what is outside is also inside”
Look at what surrounds you, what things, what decorations and trinkets. Look at them in the context of what events in your life they are associated with, how you feel when you look at these things, what memories come back and what these things bring to your life.
It's time to let go of everything that causes emotions you don't want to feel.
Sometimes some items stop making us happy over time, but we keep them out of habit. It is worthwhile from time to time to carefully analyze what surrounds us, and regularly get rid of what is no longer needed to make room for something new.
Connect with nature, look at the sun, feel the wind on your body. Enjoy beautiful plants, flowers, watch the sky.
Time after time you will see more and more beauty around you. And you yourself will be surprised that you didn’t notice all this before.
Communication with nature important stage on the path to finding harmony in the soul.
Look for hobbies, topics that absorb you completely. These are the things that make you incredibly happy, and time flies with them. It could be anything. And it’s especially good if you do this often.
Some people like to cook, some like to read, but there are a lot of options. But sometimes people feel like it's a waste of time. However, this is not true; if we like to do something, we must do it. This is the path to satisfaction and happiness, and therefore to harmony in the soul.
If you don't know what makes you happy, write yourself a list of things you love to do and don't worry about your mind making fun of your ideas. Then spend time on each item on the list. All this has several advantages:
Finding harmony within yourself is difficult. You need to try very hard and go for it. But once the balance is restored, you will feel real joy and satisfaction. Go for it!
Who among us doesn’t want to wake up free, happy and natural, with love in our eyes for ourselves and the world around us? Enjoy yourself and all the joys of a multifaceted life that captivates you into the unknown? Yes, precisely to enjoy the fact that you are the one and only, divine creature worthy of the best.
Change yourself, love yourself - and the world around you will change. We have heard these words more than once. But is it so easy to love yourself? And why, when we hear derogatory remarks addressed to us, do we agree with them, taking everything personally?
Such voices of “other people’s grandmothers,” like echoes of past childhood, for a long time, and sometimes throughout our lives, deprive us of the joy of being ourselves. A kind of defensive system is triggered, protecting the sensory world, but depriving the joy of the feeling of one’s “I”. Self-love is sometimes associated with other people's love for us.
Dependence on other people's opinions and assessments is, perhaps, main reason our dislike. How can we get rid of the opinion about ourselves imposed on us from the outside and love our own “I”? I want to offer you some advice, in my opinion the only correct one, as a way out of a difficult life problem - “dislike for yourself”, so that you finally remember the exciting dance of life.
1. “I am loved and valued as much as I love and value myself.”
This phrase should become the only correct motto of life on the path of self-love. You yourself can become a source of joy and love.
2. Nobody is perfect
Remember the words from the movie Some Like It Hot: “Everyone has their own shortcomings.” Love yourself for who you are. Never allow yourself to be humiliated.
3. Don't compare yourself to others
You are special and unique. Loving yourself means treating yourself with love.
4. Accept your flaws
Weaknesses in some situation can shine brighter than strengths.
5. Improve yourself
You always have a chance to improve. Loving yourself means constantly working on yourself.
6. Don't worry about what others think of you.
They themselves are concerned about what you think about them. Form your positive opinion about yourself.
7. Praise yourself even for the smallest successes
Repeat to yourself: “I’m just lovely!”
8. Act on your inner motivations
Then there will be no feeling that you did something against your will. Respect your thoughts, desires and dreams.
9. Try to make your own decisions
This way you can appreciate your own importance and independence.
10. Be yourself
Say and do what you think is necessary. At the same time, of course, without infringing on the interests of others.
And then your eyes will sparkle, and a smile of happiness and love will shine on your face, and you will be transformed right before your eyes... You yourself will become a source of love, joy, light and strength. You will live in harmony with yourself. You'll see, you'll succeed! You will become the most beautiful in the world. You just need to be at peace with yourself. Both with yourself and with the world around you.
Improve yourself and look for yourself! After all, only by understanding ourselves can we accept ourselves. Loving yourself and enjoying the joy of life is as natural for a person as the flight of a bird in the sky. This world is for you, this life is for you, and therefore love is for you!
In the modern world of constant running, stress and the desire for results, fashion is gradually shifting towards such concepts as “harmony”, “finding one’s place in life”, “determining one’s personal goal”, “finding happiness”. People get tired of running like “squirrels in a wheel” after new achievements and ephemeral goals, which in the end sometimes do not bring satisfaction. Society strives to achieve harmony and happiness, which do not depend on the amount of material wealth.
That is why in last years Various spiritual practices and ancient teachings, such as yoga, became widespread. But even with their help, it is not always possible to find a harmonious state in the existing realities, where there is a need to earn a living, fulfill plans and achieve goals, where stress has become a familiar companion of life. How to find harmony with yourself, how to combine the unshakable mental balance of spiritual teachers and our living conditions?
Let's try to put into practice the advice of the sages and arrange their instructions according to the colors of the rainbow, which is a natural symbol of harmony. After all, a rainbow appears in nature due to the light of the sun and rain - nature receives life-giving moisture and at the same time warmed by the rays of the sun!
1. Red - Listen to yourself
Red is the color of blood, true essence. Try to figure out what is “in your blood”.
No one knows better than you yourself what will bring you happiness and what will irritate you. Some people like the measured life of a homebody, others cannot sit within four walls for two days, for some it is important to communicate with people, while others work better in the absence of distracting conversations. In everyday life, desires are often imposed on us from external environment: working vicissitudes, pursuit of prestige. Because of this, it is easy to lose your true desires and not notice how your favorite job has turned into fanaticism, friendship into self-affirmation, and the desire to satisfy hunger into overeating. In pursuit of satisfying other people's desires, it is almost impossible to feel joyful and satisfied.
What to do? Ask yourself the question “Am I happy with what I’m doing now?”, “Do I really want a piece of the pie?”, “Does my being in this place make me happy?” This will allow you to constantly monitor your personal condition and notice your true desires. And then a situation will not arise when you accidentally realize that you spent a certain amount of time making someone else’s dream come true. Even if the answers to these questions are negative, do not be upset. You evaluate your current situation and can understand where you want to move next or why you are suffering hardships.
2. Orange - Find your balance point
Orange color represents emotions and feelings. Are all the feelings you experience really yours?
Many people know that an excess of emotions, especially negative ones, can disrupt the calm flow of life, interfere with making important decisions and spoil relationships with loved ones. But only a few know that we often experience emotions that are not our own. Have you noticed how your mood changes depending on the place and people around you? Is there a difference in your condition, for example, in the morning before entering the subway and after leaving the subway? I'm sure you notice the difference.
The reason lies in the resonance that we inherited from our ancient ancestors. Long before the advent of Homo erectus, our ancestors were herd animals and a keen sense of the emotions of their relatives was vital: at one end of the herd there was a whiff of fear, which means there was danger, or at the other end joy and excitement were felt, which means it was quite possible that there was a watering hole nearby. It is thanks to the subconscious feeling of the emotional mood that we have such signs as empathy, sympathy and compassion. But along with positive effects we get a certain dependence on other people's moods.
What to do? Learn to track changes in your mood - when you wake up in the morning, on the way to work, at school, when changing environment. Then you will be able to track which sensations are yours, and which appeared without an objective reason, from interaction with other people. There are several ways to limit the influence of the emotional states of others. One of them is to imagine a protective cocoon around yourself, through which the negative emotions of strangers do not reach you. This cocoon can be made of any material that you would like to imagine: glass, fire, water. And to get rid of unnecessary emotions, you can use this technique: take a deep breath and say to yourself on the way out: “Other people’s emotions are leaving me,” “I only experience my own feelings, I don’t have other people’s emotions.”
3. Yellow - Be realistic
Yellow in some cultures it symbolizes clarity and cloudlessness. Soberly assess the current situation.
IN Lately many common in various ways relaxation. Given the pace of our lives, relaxation techniques are sometimes vital. And often there is an opinion that relaxation is the only way to find harmony with yourself: you just need to “let go” of the situation and life will improve. But if you are sitting on a hot stove, then most likely no technique will help. You need to get off the stove or at least turn down the heat. Relaxation, unfortunately, is not a panacea. With its help you can restore strength, but not solve the problem. This is a way to regain calm, to look at the issue from a new angle, to use obstacles as opportunities for development, but not a way to ignore difficulties.
What to do? If you understand that relaxation methods do not produce results, then you need to change your external circumstances. And if you are underestimated at work, you “burn out,” and your salary does not cover your emotional costs, then instead of restoring your peace of mind, it is better to start looking for a more suitable workplace. Once you solve the problem, the tension will go away on its own.
4. Green - Take loving care of yourself
Green is the color of love in Hinduism. In our own culture green color associated with nature and activity.
Everyone knows that sport has a tonic and harmonizing effect on our body. No one disputes that playing sports helps keep not only the body in shape, but also emotional condition. But for some reason, not everyone manages to devote time to sports. There are some reasons, excuses that do not allow you to pay due attention to physical education or exercise.
We were taught that sports should not be done for pleasure, but based on results: run 10 km, lose 5 kg, do 100 push-ups, get in shape 90-60-90. And such goals are either difficult to achieve, or after achieving them, all interest in sports is lost. As a result, we often scold ourselves for being weak-willed. The constant need for results leads to the fact that we take on additional obligations: we get nervous when they are not fulfilled, we blame ourselves, thereby ruining our lives.
What to do? Choose a sport you like, where you can enjoy the process, and not just chase results and break records. Perhaps you would prefer a pool with children on weekends rather than a grueling fitness routine. Or you can find a morning exercise course on video resources on the Internet. Or maybe it will be evening jogging with the dog in the park - you can turn anything you like to do into a sport. Allow yourself to enjoy sports and not think about the results. Then sport can become a part of your life, which will bring joy, tone and, perhaps, discover how to find harmony with yourself.
5. Blue - Develop in different areas of life
Blue is the color of the sky, self-improvement and reason. Devote some time to self-development.
An important part of inner harmony is self-respect. This means that it is important to feel not only strong and beautiful, but also smart, not only a specialist, a professional, but also a versatile scholar. For this, it is useful to constantly develop - be it visiting theater premieres, exhibitions, cinemas, Professional Development, studying foreign language, reading non-fiction, or anything else. A versatile personality is not only interesting for small talk, such people cope better with their responsibilities at work, since their horizons are broad and they are able to find non-standard solutions in hard situations. And most importantly, constant self-development is the key to stable self-esteem - if at the moment there are failures in one of the areas of life, then successes in other areas compensate for them, and a person’s self-esteem does not suffer. Thus, mental balance is not disturbed and the person is ready for new accomplishments.
What to do? Find areas of life that interest you in studying. And it is not necessary that you will spend a lot of time on this or take it away from other favorite activities. For example, if your child goes to additional classes in astronomy, you can study this subject with him. This will allow you not only to gain new knowledge, but also to maintain friendly relations with your child, since you will have a common topic for discussion. Or, for example, there is an opportunity to combine meetings with friends and self-development: agree to go to some events periodically. This can be exciting if everyone takes turns choosing where to go this time - to an exhibition, a private screening of a new film or a concert. You can also get into the habit of reading useful literature while you get to work.
6. Blue - Hang out with happy people
Blue color creates an atmosphere of security and trust. Pay attention to friends and acquaintances around whom you feel relaxed.
Everyone knows the saying “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.” It makes sense because the people close to us with whom we often communicate influence us. And if, for example, whining housewives have gathered around you, then it is very difficult to remain a cheerful and energetic person. At first glance, it may seem that having a pessimist in your close circle is not scary.
But if you are careful, you can track how his sense of self, views and conversations affect you. Remember examples when someone you know ended up in “bad” company, how did his behavior change over time? That is why it is worth paying close attention to your surroundings.
What to do? Look around your immediate environment - who do you spend most of your time with? How are these people feeling? Do they enjoy life, have fun, achieve results? Or are others constantly to blame for their misfortunes? These people may not necessarily be close to you; perhaps they are a colleague with whom you spend a lot of time at work and he tirelessly complains about his wife, boss, or government. Or a neighbor who often comes to visit you to express her dissatisfaction with life and tell you about new diseases. In this case, it is worth adjusting your time spent with such people. Surround yourself with cheerful, happy people and you will notice that you will feel much better.
7. Purple - Make your dreams come true for free
Purple- the color of dreams, fantasy and magic. Remember the last time you gave yourself a Fairy Tale?
It is completely natural to please yourself with large and small gifts, and often simply necessary. We all like to pamper ourselves and receive various pleasures, be it an extra day off, a delicious eclair or a planned trip. But there is a catch: often we do not pamper ourselves, but reward ourselves. For example, after a week of hard work, you can allow yourself a day in front of the TV, or after fitness, eat a cake - it seems harmless.
But if there is a reward, then there is also a punishment. In this case, gifts become a way of manipulating oneself. And in some cases, after receiving the “reward”, a stage of self-criticism follows - “why did I eat an extra eclair” and the like.
What to do? Replace self-criticism with self-control, that is, be aware of your needs and resources. And most importantly, let gifts become the norm, a way to cheer up, for which you don’t have to pay for it later. Gifts are a child's joy in your life, and not a “carrot” on a par with a “stick”.
So, the key answer to the question of how to find harmony with yourself: harmony is born where there is no place for restrictions and conventions! Life is at your disposal, accept it in all its beauty and fullness! Even if sometimes a rainbow is somewhere over the horizon...
It is impossible to feel like a completely happy person if you are constantly accompanied by mental discomfort. In this state it is impossible to fully enjoy life. Nothing makes you happy - not the warm rising sun, not the successes of family and friends, not your own achievements. But if true harmony and peace of mind reign in the soul, then every morning, even Monday, is long-awaited and joyful. A happy person looks forward to any events, new meetings, or seasons of the year. Why is this happening? What is the secret of truly happy people, why is it easy for some to find harmony and balance, but not for others?
Another great Petrel, Maxim Gorky, argued that each of us is born for happy life just like any bird for flight. Agree, one cannot but agree with this statement. But most people mistakenly believe that happiness is something that does not depend on us. This feeling is either bestowed by God or not. In fact, we hasten to pleasantly disappoint you with a banal phrase - happiness is in your hands. You can feel spiritual harmony and balance through your own efforts. Moreover, psychologists are sure that happiness can be easily cultivated. If you want to know a simple recipe, study carefully valuable recommendations and strictly follow the following rules.
First of all, you don’t want happiness to be your only goal. It comes unexpectedly to those who do not expect it. If you constantly think about this main component of a harmonious existence, then you can, as they say, “get rid of it.” And the waiting time will turn into a terrible nightmare, torture. Do things differently - while joy is on the way, do not stop enjoying life, seize successful moments and have fun. Situations of failures and troubles may arise - do not be upset. Fate sometimes teaches us lessons, teaching us to be more patient and wise.
There is no such thing as a continuous black line; the laws of life are not structured that way. A gray one will definitely flash, then a white one and everything, as they say, will settle down. So, we study the golden and universal rules, thanks to which a beacon of hope, joy and a prosperous existence on our beautiful Earth will definitely flash in the life of every reader.
There are certain things that cannot be bought with any amount of wealth on the planet. These include our health, which should be taken care of from a young age. Many people start thinking about their body too late, when serious illnesses are present. But maintaining good health is not at all difficult if we are not talking about congenital pathologies. What is needed for this:
Additionally, it must be said that if you have any mental problems, consult a specialist. A visit to a psychologist is not a shame, but a banal way to solve problems with the participation of a professional in a relationship.
Most often, mental discomfort arises due to psychological problems. There is confusion between effect and cause here. For example, ladies who were unable to feel happy with some man most often have a negative attitude towards all representatives of the stronger half. One word - Goats! Is everything so clear? Maybe it still makes sense to pay attention to your own behavior. It is important to analyze all the steps that preceded the separation. Believe me, self-criticism has never hurt anyone. If an unpleasant situation arises, be kind, treat yourself with humor and do not consider that only bad people surround you.
Optimism, openness and kindness will become excellent collateral favorable attitude from the outside, this especially attracts men.
Our generation is perhaps the most ungrateful. Psychologists say that ungrateful people end up completely alone and are not loved by others. Here we're talking about not just about specific gratitude for something. We don't know how to be grateful for what life has given us. Strange, but even if there is good home, excellent job, healthy and cute children, successful marriage, a person manages to be indignant and grumble. It's even worse when we don't notice the kindness directed our way from others. We take everything for granted and forget to note that it is a gift of fate.
The reason for everything is a selfish nature, for which everything is not enough and everything is bad. We need more and more. Does this remind you of anything from Russian literature? Remember... The old woman from the fairy tale about the Golden Fish also grumbled, and everything was not enough for her. And what she was left with was a broken trough. An instructive story, you know, which is worth re-reading again.
It is impossible to fully experience happiness without being grateful. Learn to say thank you to your parents, children, spouses, friends and life for everything you have and what you don't yet have. In that moment, harmony and peace will reign in your soul.
You always need to be sure that there is already happiness in your life. Even if it arose stressful situation- be optimistic. Convince yourself that this won't last long. Shift your attention to something positive. Self-criticism and self-flagellation will not lead to anything good, but will aggravate the depressive state. What kind of happiness can we talk about in such cases?
Pay attention to the kids. They never worry about what they were told. Babies have a short memory for negativity. And all adults do is string all their experiences, barbs from colleagues, rudeness of teenagers, loss of a wallet, lack of time, like beads on a thread. As a result, a spoiled mood and growing depression, sad thoughts, etc., like a snowball.
Someone wise said that thoughts tend to materialize. Constant fears, fears that something will happen, an accident will happen, a terrible illness will strike, the children will grow up bad people, will lead to all this coming true. If your spouse constantly hears that he is a womanizer, at some point his eyes will turn towards another woman. Stop, stop senseless hysterics, eliminate pessimism, look at the future only with broad with open eyes, full of good hope for happiness.
In order to program your life only for luck, success and prosperity, deal with with your own feelings. If negativity constantly arises, you are depressed, and there is no reason for this, things are bad. Well, such a person cannot have a chance for a harmonious existence. Imagine that your thoughts are a sheet of negativity, and immediately in your mind tear up this sheet, which only causes problems. Think about what brings pleasure, makes you smile - the sound of a wave, a light night breeze, remember the smile of your baby, the moment when you gave flowers, or pleased with good news.
Most people are probably familiar with the state when, in a completely cloudless state of affairs, sadness, sadness, and resentment arise. In short, cats scratch your soul. It may also happen that in the event of serious troubles, the mood, on the contrary, increases sharply.
The situation will improve very quickly, in any case, there will be relief in your soul, joy will arise, and then you can plunge headlong into serious negotiations and take on important projects.
Don’t try to change people, believe me, it’s a thankless task. Whatever the self-criticism of the person you are communicating with, words of criticism from you will be received negatively. It is also worth understanding that teaching others is easier than changing yourself. We are always confident that we are smarter, more serious and wiser than others. This is not so, at least, that’s what almost everyone believes. The process of changing your own attitude towards others will take much less time and will pass without consequences. Moreover, by changing yourself, you will find more friends and feel respect, which will certainly bring a certain harmony and balance to your soul.
You painfully want to acquire something, buy or build a house, a car, or meet your other half. Think as if your wish has come true. Imagine yourself inside a beautifully furnished home, an expensive car flying at high speed. Thinking about the positive, have fun, attract, attract happiness.
Flashing through your thoughts, your dreams should be framed in some kind of shell. That is, set specific goals and gradually move towards them. Remember Pumpkin from Cipollino. He dreamed of a house, but along the way he got one brick at a time. A specific formulation gives a signal to our subconscious and all actions and plans are focused precisely on achieving the intended desires.
If conflicts arise with colleagues, your superiors yell at you, your subordinates get up in arms – don’t think about it. Remember: work hours should remain within the boundaries of the office. You need to go home lightly and completely cut off the negative memories associated with the current situation. Constant self-flagellation, mental anguish, and fears of losing your job can lead to a nervous breakdown. Be simpler, force yourself to be respected and let everyone understand that you cannot be penetrated and peace of mind and peace of mind are more important to you than a vacancy. You can always find a job, but restoring your nerves is difficult.
Resentment, deception, a rude word, a scandal - these and other unpleasant moments can lead to serious disorder. People who are unable to forgive only make things worse for themselves. Unfortunately, they do not know what a wave of positivity and pleasure comes when you forgive insults and make peace with the offender. Let there be no close relationships later, but there won’t be that barrier that torments every minute.
This also includes an unwillingness to put up with any particular character trait of a person. If this is not a criminal moment, not a lie, you need to forgive and come to terms with it. Remember - the older a person is, the worse he becomes. There have been no cases of people changing in their old age positive side. Since your character trait does not allow you to continue being in a relationship, leave and think about a new life.
Communicate with people, take up some hobby, let it be swimming, drawing, macrame, playing the piano, etc. Get out into nature more often, breathe fresh and clean air, admire the colors of nature, listen to the rustling of leaves, the sound of rain. Urban bustle, car noise, fast rhythm life tires and brings confusion to the soul. Solitude with friends or loved ones by the river or sea, or a hike in the forest are useful not only for mental balance and harmony, but also for improving health.
Bye everyone.
Best regards, Vyacheslav.
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