GuruTest decided to destroy another myth about the behavior of a man in love. It turns out that the gentleman never reveals all the cards and tries not to show his attraction, but non-verbal signs of love speak for him.
Incipient love is not always noticeable. In most cases, a woman does not even know about the feelings of a man, ignoring his signs of attention. When a man is interested and passionate, he sends certain signals. You just need to learn to recognize them. Psychologists agree that it is not so difficult to notice the secret signs of flirting.
1. A wandering eye. In an enthusiastic man, his gaze glides over a woman or lingers on certain parts of her body in order to capture in detail the image of his beloved. Moreover, in a large company, he will try to make eye contact with her more often than with other people. And he will try to look into the eyes. If you answer the same, you can see that his eyes "light up" in the way that is often written about in romance novels.
2. Emphasis of attention. If a man is familiar with a woman, then when he meets her, he will try to attract her attention. Most often, he does this unconsciously: offers sweets, strikes up a conversation about something distant, offers his help.
3. Body language. Historically, when attracted to a woman, a man tries to prove to her that he is a real male. This manifests itself physically: a straight posture, rolled up sleeves, hands in the pockets of trousers. He demonstrates his strength, sexuality and power with all his appearance. During the conversation, the man will turn to the girl with his whole body. It seems that this is a typical gesture of respect, but at the subconscious level, such a movement is.
4. Tactile contact. A man in love can violate a woman's personal space. In this way, he tries to gain confidence and show his desire to get closer. Observe: as he passes by, he may choose the narrowest path, he may lightly collide with your body, touch your fingers while passing something, or try to hug you.
5. Unconscious movements. A man who seeks to impress can “undress” in the presence of an object of sympathy (in a figurative sense): take off his jacket, unbutton the top button of his shirt, loosen his tie, smooth his hair. All these secret signals indicate that a man wants to please you.
6. Instinctive jealousy. All men are owners, so jealousy of a woman can say a lot about his attitude. He can become irritable and angry if another man appears on the horizon. A man in love will defiantly keep his distance and glare at a potential competitor.
7. Change of outlook. This item can be seen if a woman is closely acquainted with a man. A man in love can radically change his behavior, become more cheerful, easy-going and decisive. Such changes in character signal that the fan is ready for exploits in the name of a woman and her love.
A handsome colleague is in a hurry to open the door for you, because he is well-mannered or has far-reaching intentions? Remember how in the movie "Cinderella" the stepmother kept strict records: "The prince looked three times, smiled once, sighed once - a total of five signs of attention." Here you are, if you want to understand the feelings of a man, try to count the "signs of attention." Got more than five? It seems to be really indifferent. So when a man sees you, he...
Non-verbal communication experts say that women have 52 different signals in their arsenal that they send when they want to show interest in a man. Just think: more than fifty! Fortunately, things are much easier for men. They use only ten signals. The most obvious of them: his gaze often and for a long time stops at you, while the man looks directly into his eyes. He tries to get closer, leans towards you, invading your personal space. When communicating, his body, arms, legs are turned towards you, he does not try to “close” from you. A man tries to turn his back on you as little as possible. When he sits, he assumes an emphatically masculine pose: legs wide apart, or the ankle of the leg is thrown over the knee, the hand rests casually on the back of a chair or armchair. Have you ever seen in animal shows how peacocks spread their tails in front of females? In the same way, a man can preen: smooth his hair, pull up his shirt sleeves, straighten his tie, brush off non-existent dust particles from his clothes, etc.
Do you often catch his interested look on yourself? If at the same time he looks at your lips, it means that the interest is by no means platonic. Let's say that a man in a company made a good joke, everyone around is laughing, and he casts a quick glance in your direction to make sure that you also liked the joke. This means that he is trying to impress you. By the way, you can easily confuse an uninterested man with a shy one. Catch signals! If a man is shy, he will still look at you and immediately look away as soon as your eyes meet.
If a man is really interested, he will try to catch your every word. Try this trick: in a big noisy company, do not try to outshout everyone, on the contrary, speak more quietly, so that it is difficult to hear you. If a man leans closer to make out your words, or asks again - hooray! - he breathes unevenly towards you.)
The rule is simple: the more random non-random touches, the higher the degree of interest. A man may, for example, put his hand on your back or on your waist, letting you go ahead in the hallway or at the entrance to the room. When talking, he may touch your hand or palm, trying to attract attention. When you sit next to him, his knee "accidentally" touches your leg, and he is in no hurry to move away. Not only how a man touches you is important, but also how he reacts to your touch. He takes a step back, tries to move away, tenses up, frowns, pulls his hand - bad signals, which means that your touches are unpleasant for him and there is no trace of any interest on his part.
When a man harmlessly teases you, tells jokes, even if they are not always decent, it means that he is trying to attract your attention and impress you. By the way, watch the behavior of his friends. They make stupid jokes from the series: “Oh, Katya, come here, Antokha is completely bored here without you!” Or maybe they cast knowing glances and smile meaningfully, as if they know some secret. It may well be that they have long been aware of the sympathies of their friend and now, as is customary in a male company, they make fun of him.
In order not to be deceived in your expectations, be sure to observe how a man treats other women. When you can see with the naked eye that he looks at you longer, touches you more often, tries with all his might to make you laugh, “reflects” your gestures - in a word, distinguishes you from the crowd, which means he is experiencing genuine male interest.
Many guys make the mistake of giving a girl an expensive gift as a sign of attention. Or take her to a restaurant. Or something else.
All these mistakes put them in the place of a potential sponsor. In addition, in the absence of interest on the part of the girl, the guys get a negative reaction to the rapprochement. Contradiction comes into play“he wants to buy me, so I won’t give myself to him” or, even worse, the desire to use his “gifts” and hide out of sight.
Therefore, any of your sign of attention towards the girl should not require large investments. They should be at least or not at all.
In addition, there is a difference between the sign of attention, which makes a girl feel sexy, and the one that makes you just a friend to her.
Second or third date, you sit next to each other. Are you sure she likes you. Make a rose out of a napkin and give it to her.
This is perhaps one of the simplest and easiest that you can do. Girls love flowers. And let your rose be paper, she will definitely appreciate it.
Although here a positive result can be expected only if she liked you a little until now. Or, at least, he didn't mind her.
What exactly to write depends on the “depth” of your relationship. However, even just a classmate or colleague can do what she expects from you. This will allow you to show her your intention, and you will see how she really feels about you.
The strongest sign of attention to a girl that you can make is flirting. The fact is that girls “on the machine” are used to sorting guys into 2 categories: lovers and friends.
Guys, who often become just friends for girls, do not know how to show their intention. Or they do it so insecurely that the girl begins to doubt his intentions and refuses (although she may not be against intimate continuation, her social restrictions will not allow her to get close to a guy whose intentions she is not completely sure).
Therefore, being able to show intention is essential.
And the easiest way to do this is through flirting and casual touching.
Translated from French, flirting is a love game, which is a mixture of banter, meaningful looks and light teasing.
Touching is also part of flirting. By touching her “accidentally” or on purpose, you show your intention. You may be surprised, but if you start touching a girl, she will look at you in a completely different way. Her thoughts will always run in the right mood.
Down with the banality! No compliments on beautiful eyes, hair, etc. Only to what she has invested her strength. After all, if you praise what she tried for, then you will immediately become the most observant man on earth.
Yes, you heard right - I'm talking about the most banal postcard. When was the last time you saw a guy give a girl a card? And I'm talking about the same thing.
Moreover, there is no need to wait for her birthday or another holiday - the card will be produced when you give it for no reason.
Of course, you must write your words there and do it in an unusual and most importantly emotional format. Example: " The girl whose jokes have been making me happy for 2 whole months».
And most importantly - try to give it to her just when no one is around. If the sign of attention you give puts her in an awkward position in front of mutual acquaintances, you will not achieve anything.
Remember the privacy rule and everything will work out for you!
As you can see, there is nothing difficult in showing signs of attention to a girl. Remember the main thing: any attention you give to a girl should be as confident as possible. She will be very attentive to your behavior when you speak to her. Seeing a slight hint of insecurity in your actions, she can easily reject you. But if you act very confidently, you can seduce her in just a couple of days.
The emerging sympathy is not always noticeable. Sometimes a woman may not even know about the feelings of a man. However, if you closely observe a man, you can notice the secret signs of flirting, which are subconscious in nature, and their woman most often simply does not notice.
Being in a large company, a man will try to make eye contact with a woman he likes much more often than with other people. At what he will try to look into the eyes. Most often, after establishing contact, a man does not look away, as women do.
If a man is already familiar with a woman, then when he meets her, he may look a little different. For example, if these are colleagues, then a man can come to work in a smart shirt. Maybe change perfume. Most often, in order to draw attention to himself, and unconsciously, a man offers treats, strikes up a conversation on an abstract topic, and offers his help.
Involuntarily, but it just so happened by nature that a man always tries to prove to a woman he likes that he is a real male. It manifests itself physically. He puffs out his chest, straightens his shoulders, unbuttons his shirt below normal, rolls up his sleeves to the elbow, puts his hands in his pants pockets (especially in close contact in private) to draw a woman's attention to manhood.
This happens mainly when a man and a woman already know each other. Passing by, he will choose the narrowest path to lightly touch her shoulders, as if bypassing her. Passing objects trying to touch the fingers, greeting slightly shrugs.
With a woman he likes, a man begins to speak in a lower than usual voice. Speaks words more slowly and clearly.
This feature is inherent in both men and women. If during a conversation a person smoothly tilts his head, then this is a sign of interest.
It is also inherent in both sides, but in men it is more pronounced. He becomes stern and irritable when another man is interested in his object of attention. Defiantly keeps aloof and avoids glances.
Most often, the body and facial expressions can say much more than the speech apparatus. Therefore, it is important to look at people in the same way as to listen.
Hello dear men! Sometimes it is simply impossible to understand a woman. She says one thing, does another, and looks like she wants a third. Today I offer you simple sure signs that she feels sympathy for you. It is worth being a little more observant and attentive. So, signs of attention from the girl.
A guy does not always understand the signals that girls send. Meanwhile, women resort to numerous tricks to attract attention. rich and varied.
Firstly, girls shoot a lot with their eyes. They often glance at the man, smile innocently and embarrassedly. A look can tell a lot if you know how to carefully follow it.
Secondly, a common female gesture is to straighten a strand of hair. She can simply wind the strand around her finger, straighten her hair behind her ear, run her hand through the hair at the neck.
Remember that a woman touches her hair not only when a handsome man is nearby. Perhaps she is just straightening her hair, a strand has come out of her hair, her hair climbs into her face and interferes.
Some girls begin to behave completely differently in the presence of a possible gentleman. If you learn to notice unusual behavior, then this will already be a big step forward. Most importantly, remember that another man may be nearby, to whom all these signals are sent.
A very important point is the appearance. When a girl is fond of a young man, she begins to make up brighter, puts on her best outfits, and more often appears in a feminine and attractive appearance. It is not always easy for a man to notice such a change. Be attentive to your lady of the heart.
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Another way to find out that a girl likes you is to take a closer look at her behavior next to you and listen to what she is talking about.
Laugh. A girl who wants to express her sympathy will laugh at even the most not funny joke of a man. She will praise him in every possible way, groom and cherish. Try telling a really stupid joke and see how the lady reacts. Of course, there is always the option that a woman simply does not have a sense of humor.
Embarrassment. Some young ladies become terribly shy in the presence of a handsome man. They cannot utter a word, they get confused, stammer, blush, or, conversely, turn pale.
Excessive talkativeness. Others act in the exact opposite way. They chat non-stop and talk all the time. Ask for small help, ask for advice on any occasion.
Care. It is hard for a woman to restrain her desire to take care of a man. Therefore, she sometimes gives out such interrogative phrases: you are not blowing, you are hungry, help you, are you tired? And so on. Caring can take many different forms.
Non-random accidents. One of my clients fell in love with her colleague. But he didn't pay any attention to her. She constantly bumped into him in the elevator, went to the same grocery store as him, joined the gym near his house.
Everything ended well and he finally paid attention to her. The bottom line is that young ladies try to see their object of sympathy as often as possible, but under the guise of a chance meeting.
Recognizing a girl's interest in behavior is quite simple. It just takes a closer look at her.
Signals, flirting, caring and pronounced laughter are, of course, good. But not all women act in the same way. What are the ladies? I think you yourself know very well.
There are girls opening and straightforward. This one will do and offer to drink coffee after work. She will not be shy and wait a long time. But this is a rather rare occurrence. Most often, a woman is waiting for the initiative from a man.
There are also such flirt-tails who refuse for a long time, I pretend that you are completely uninteresting to them, they repel. Although in fact, inside she has a wild desire to quickly marry you. This is where you have to work long and hard.
It happens that you come up to a girl on the street to get acquainted, and she is all so harsh and serious. I will tell you a secret. It is more advantageous to approach a small group of girls. Then one will definitely be more courageous and take your phone or agree to go for a walk.
Of course, this is not always the case, but definitely, success is more possible with a group of girls than with one. In the group, the young ladies are competitors. And this can be used.
What signals do you notice from women? What do young ladies resort to in order to capture male attention? What did you notice about yourself?
Be bold and decisive!
